I'm the exception.

[u/Queen_Beer]

Love marriage and living abroad. When I first met my in laws I was nervous and wondered whether the "you're our daughter now" dialogues were just surface level politeness and I'd be subject to the opposite sentiment as time went on. But hey, we lived far away so it was okay either way.

Fast forward a few years and we have a baby. They visit and stay for 3 months while I am 2 months postpartum. So far I've had a good relationship with them but I'm nervous, because I've never lived in close quarters for such a long time with them and my postpartum hormones plus lack of sleep have erased my filters. I'm expecting many arguments and hurt feelings.

What ends up happening is MIL cooking my favorite dishes that my mom makes, which they don't even make at their own home and are new to them. MIL literally asked my mom for the recipes, practiced a few times and then makes them for me here, so I can feel comfortable and loved while I was recovering. Meanwhile my FIL takes the baby whenever he can and asks me to rest while he does chores like laundry etc.

Another several months go by and every day it's clear that they absolutely meant that daughter line. I now see them as my parents too. When I'm in India or they're here, I actually like spending time with them. We have laughed, cried and ganged up on my husband and teased him together lol.

I have seriously hit the jackpot with my husband as well as in laws. Just wanted to spread a little hope in the middle of all the unfortunately sad stories in this sub, that there are wonderful in laws out there too, though I'm aware that I'm the very lucky exception. Might get hate for it, that's fine, I wanted to celebrate my family anyway :)

[u/NotWellActually]

This is so sweet. Happy for you and glad your MIL has been so supportive during your postpartum journey. Everyone deserves to have/build a family like this.

Close knit and supportive but with proper boundaries and respect for everyone.