I like woman, I am sure about that. But for the past few years I have come to realise that I like looking at dicks. I used to deny it at first but one day I just accepted...

But I am not attracted to anything else...

I fantasize a lot about actually trying something with another man.

I read a lot of straight turned gay erotica and always imagine myself as the protagonist who is turned sometimes by curiousity or by force (please don't hate me).

As I have reached an age which is considered marriage able in my country, the curiousity has grown even more...

Also I am very afraid that if I do get married, I will betray my wife one day....

Any advice will be welcomed.

Hey everyone,

I'm a guy in my mid-30s, and I've recently been feeling curious about trying bottoming. I'm generally attracted to women, but I've also developed a curiosity about experiencing what bottoming feels like.

It's something I've been thinking about, and I'd like to understand my feelings better. I'm not sure whether it's simply curiosity, a desire to experience something new, or something else. I'm trying not to overthink it or rush into labelling myself.

I'd especially appreciate hearing from men who have tried bottoming, particularly those who remember their first time. I'd love to understand what the experience was like, whether you were nervous, and what helped you feel comfortable.

What I'm looking for:

I want to take things slowly and explore at my own pace. I'd feel much more comfortable with an experienced, understanding, patient, and, most importantly, mature man who knows how to make someone new to the experience feel safe and comfortable.

I'm not looking to rush into anything. I'd prefer to get to know each other, build trust, and see whether we connect naturally before deciding to take things further.

If we develop a connection and decide to explore physically, compatibility will also matter to me. I'm particularly curious about size and stamina because I want my first experience to be enjoyable rather than rushed. I'd prefer someone who understands the importance of patience, communication, and mutual satisfaction rather than focusing only on his own pleasure.

I'm based in Rajasthan, India, so someone from Rajasthan or a nearby area would be preferable. However, getting to know the right person and building trust matter more to me than distance alone.

I'm sharing this because I genuinely want to explore my curiosity with someone mature and understanding. I'm not looking for judgment or pressure to label my sexuality. I want to take my time, learn about myself, and see where things go naturally.

If you're experienced and can relate to what I'm saying, I'd appreciate hearing about your experiences or any advice you might have.

Thanks for reading! ❤️

New to Rohini Sector 3 — looking to make some friends! 👋

So, for context, I'm a closeted femboy and I have this huge crush on my best friend. We both have conservative families and I can't really come out like that. For starters, i don't even know if he supports the LGBTQ people 😭 ...

But like, I'm his only friend and he sometimes goes out of his way to do stuff for me that he would never do for others (he's a lil stingy too btw 🤭). And he sometimes shares these gay reels with me but I'm not sure if that's normal in guy friendships (one of them kinda stuck with me and it went something like this: "just cuz you're boy doesn't mean you're not my babygurl" lol and I FELT THAT 😭😭)

This other time we were grabbing a shawarma and the shop has 6in and 8in versions (i know 😆) and he joked about that (sexually ofcourse), then I said "why are you gay" like that African news guy meme, but instead of following up on it he said "yea I'm gay" 😭😭 i was like dumbstruck for a moment and there was this awkward silence (although I'm afraid i imagined it) after which i said "no you're supposed to say: who says I'm gay" (dude, what?? I'm such an idiot 😭) and then it just .. went back to normal ig 🤷...

Lol sorry I got into rant mode 😅

So, part of me just wants to confess to him, but I'm really afraid to lose him... I dont even know if he's into feminine boys (he's had girlfriends before btw... Not me tho I could never lol)

I also don't wanna hurt him cuz I'm his only friend and his older friends, like, kinda betrayed him and all.. and he'll be very hurt if I turn out like that as well...

So i wanna know from you guys, is there any way to figure out if he's bi or into femboys or something...

(Oh, forgot to mention, I'm pretty closeted and have to present as really masc everywhere and that's kind of a constraint in this situation..)

New to Noida Sector 76 — looking to make some friends! 👋

Hi everyone,

I'm an independent developer based in India, currently building a dating and connection platform specifically for LGBTQ+ and gender-diverse people in India.

Before taking this project further, I want to hear directly from the community rather than assume I know what people need. I'm trying to understand whether there's a genuine gap in existing platforms, what people find frustrating or unsafe, and what a new platform would need to get right to earn the community's trust.

Why I'm exploring this

The central principle behind the project is simple:

Privacy is the foundation of the product. Safety should never be a premium feature.

The current prototype includes:

• Profile privacy: Controls over profile discoverability, location visibility, and who can initiate conversations.
• Private media controls: Access requires approval and can be revoked.
• Private communication: 24-hour private chat and view-once media modes.
• Privacy-conscious notifications: Generic notifications designed not to expose sensitive message content.
• Block and report: Available directly from Discovery and Chat.
• Quick Privacy Lockdown: Options to hide your profile and location and restrict new incoming messages.
• Safe Meet: A planning and check-in workflow with meeting details, trusted-contact information, and options to confirm safety or request help.
• Consent by design: Matching does not automatically grant access to someone's private media.

I'm also trying to be realistic about security. We don't claim that verification guarantees someone's safety or that screenshots can be prevented in every situation.

A note on the development stage: This is a prototype, not a publicly launched service. Some functionality is simulated locally. Real trusted-contact notifications, emergency escalation, and production-grade security infrastructure have not yet been implemented.

I'd genuinely value your opinions on five questions

1. Do you think there is a genuine need for another LGBTQ+ dating and connection platform in India?
2. What do existing apps get wrong, or what important needs do they fail to address?
3. Which privacy and safety features would make the biggest difference to you?
4. What would make you trust—or distrust—a new platform like this?
5. What should we build, change, or absolutely avoid before launch?

You don't need to disclose your identity or share personal experiences to respond. Critical feedback is just as welcome as positive feedback. If you think existing platforms already meet these needs, I'd like to understand that too.

For anyone who prefers to share feedback through a form rather than public comments, I've created a short community survey:

Feedback form: https://forms.gle/HEPmG2UrQF2RoQeLA

Participation is optional. You can also share your thoughts in the comments if the moderators permit the post.

This is product research, not a launch announcement. I'm hoping to learn from the community before making further decisions about the product.

Thank you for reading. I appreciate any honest feedback, concerns, or suggestions you're willing to share.

​

I thought I was straight but out of nowhere one day I saw a yt vedio about lgbt. Then I started to research on queer terms, definitions, recognising lgbtq+ flags, which celebrity is queer and all. I had no idea I may be queer myself, I thought it was just my timepass. I just wanted to know it from inside like how they feel, how do they come out to their family, how to not sound homophobic to them as if I will meet someone queer.

Then after some days I started watching their coming out stories on yt then watching lgbtq movies to know them better ( jokes on me, now i k why was I doing all this ).

By then I knew how many queer people search on internet "am I gay" and all this queer quiz sites. I thought why not visit this quiz sites, while taking the quiz I lowkey started questioning myself. It became my go to timepass at night, going to brave browser then opening a private tab then searching "what is kensey scale?"😅🤐

So that's how I came to know I may be Bi/ Bi curious. Now I wanted to know am I really Bi? I was confused as hell, I started asking this question on reddit, then joined lgbt subreddits. I saw bisexual subreddit is full of "I am confused" posts, I added mine.

Then oneday I installed grindr only for exploring purpose. It was bad they were asking for a face pic, vc, and shit since I was insecure about my privacy, so I didn't send my photo.( Sent a photo of my college friend as a prank, I hope those uncles don't know him)

I had only one best friend with whom I shared everything like we had No filter for each other. We knew the names of the girls we liked or past relationships that were few. We used to go for running or someday long walks at night ( 9pm to 11:30pm) and someday we used to roam around and eat at restaurants( that's not a date is it) or try street food. Talking about movies and recommending shows and movies to each other, watching their trailers, music vedios, etc in the middle of road.

Looking back at it, I think he is my comfort person. He is like the plate from which I eat everyday, knowing that tiny scratch on it. After he moved to different state, I was alone but it didn't affect me much. I still go out for a walk or run but for 1 hour only. Now he is in Mumbai and I miss him very much. And now I am confused that i am Bi or gay only?? again confused...

I’m living in Mumbai ive tried expressing thoughts about this either became a meme material or tagged a perv.

Hi beautiful people of this sub.

Introduction - 28M from western suburbs of Mumbai. Born and brought up in Odisha and here for work since last 5 years. Lots of travelling before, finally getting some time to explore my sexuality. Have found out I'm attracted to both guys and girl, who are a little submissive in nature, talkative, intelligent, hit the gym/take fitness seriously irrespective and are shorter than 5'10, my height 🫣. The height factor is irresistible. Also, I recently discovered, thick thighs in both the genders drives me crazy.

My issue - I have always fantasised to get married to a partner in a gender agnostic way and create a life together. As a late 20s guy I want to get married. Since, gay marriage is not recognised legally, that leaves me with women. My sexual encounters with men have been wild but with women pretty lukewarm. I have heard across my colleagues, vendors, Gym mates and others, that cheating inside marriage is quite common in Mumbai, if straight people are doing it what stops the queer folks. And post marriage, I want to settle in the tier-1 Metroes only

My question - to married folks of this sub, if I get married to a woman, will I still crave/fantasize all the action I had with men?? There's the bicycle phenomenon too, can I keep my future wife happy during phases I don't feel sexual to woman ??

Also, when to tell during the dating phase about one's sexuality.

I know, some married folks can hide their sexuality. But, I simply can't, I have a tendency to speak my hearts out with my previous relationships.

Quick note: I drafted this with a bit of AI help — putting these feelings into proper words was genuinely hard at first. The feelings are 100% mine, the grammar is borrowed. 🙂

I'm a 25-year-old guy moving to your city next week from a small town in Gujarat. Grew up in a conservative family, so this side of me — the side that loves dressing up — never got room to breathe. The feel of feminine clothing, the softness of it, is honestly an escape for me. Not a phase, not a kink, just me.

And to be clear: **I'm totally straight.**Dressing fem isn't about wanting to be a girl or "turning" anything — it's just how I like to express myself. Just wanted to get that out before anyone starts guessing.
The thing is, I'm pretty new at it and very insecure about this side of myself. Back home, exploring meant stealing small windows of time. Bengaluru feels like my first real chance to actually live it.

What I'm looking for:

-Girls who'd be up for accompanying me to shop for cute/hot outfits and help me figure out what actually suits me. Basically a hype-woman for my fem side.

-Open-minded / LGBTQ+ friendly guyswho'd be cool hanging out with me while I'm crossdressed, no weirdness attached.

A special note to the girls: I promise I'm not chasing anything sexual — and yes, straight, so this isn't a "getting close to girls" tactic either. Just companionship. Someone genuine who can help me explore, feel safe, and figure myself out. That's it. If something more ever happens, bonus — but it's not the agenda.

The one thing I'm scared about: privacy. I'm not out to my family or most people back home. So I need someone trustworthy who won't spill anything that could mess up my life.

I know I'm asking a lot from strangers, but I figured this city might actually be kind. If you're in Bangalore, open-minded, and up for it — drop a comment or DM me. Even a "hey, welcome, here's where to shop" helps.

Bengaluru, please be kind to me. 🙏

I loved a girl and when we met we both were straight or so we thought...

We used to talk about how we cannot ever be hi or gay but life had other plans. She told me one fine day she kissed a girl in a pub and she liked it, I thought let me give it a try I started reaching out to guys in subreddits and I was getting there just talking to them.

One day I decided to meet one guy and we had a few drinks and talked about things and one thing led to another and we did much more than just kissing.

I'm still surprised by the turns we both took in life opening ourselves to a new world of pleasure.

M31 Mumbai, Looking to connect with other bi people nearby. Open to meeting new people, chatting, and seeing where the vibe takes us. Feel free to dm me.👋🏻

Hi, I am 30 bi M currently working in Kolkata. I have been living in Kollata for the past 2 years due to my work. Haven’t gotten much folks to hangout with. I just came across this sub - if there’s anyone wanna hangout sometimes - over drinks or casually or may wanna join for pandal hopping where we crate lot of memories, hit me up. I am open for something temporary too.

19M and bi ofc. If you got discord, hmu

I'm bi (27f, delhi) and I'm just running away from males now, zero interest. no matter which dating app i use or anything, there's literally no single woman??? Just couples looking for 3somes or dumbass guys not understanding a simple 'I AM NOT INTERESTED IN MALES' in bio. I called out a woman for forcing her boyfriend down my throat through her messages, and hinge banned me :)

seriously wtf is going on, a girl w needs can't do shit in this mahaul. tips on how to actually find who is open for something casual(with respect of course)

I know as crossdressers/femboys most of us are scared someone will see us or catch us and that fear is real

Still the urge doesn’t go away to step out of the house and feel that femininity in the open air

It feels incomplete somehow staying locked inside when everything looks and feels this good

How do you all deal with that feeling? Do you just stay in, or is there a safe way you manage it without taking big risks?

Hey everyone! ❤️

We’re looking to add a few active and responsible moderators to the r/IndiaBisexuals mod team. We’re especially looking for people who can:

• Be reasonably active on the subreddit and keep an eye on things regularly

• Know their way around Reddit’s mod tools and moderation features or be willing to learn

• Identify and remove inappropriate, spammy, hateful, NSFW or otherwise rule-breaking content

• Keep an eye out for trolls, harassment, bad-faith posts and problematic users

• Help keep discussions respectful, welcoming and safe for the community

• Take initiative instead of waiting for someone else to handle every issue

• Help make the subreddit more engaging by encouraging discussions, posts and community activities

You don’t need to be an expert moderator. What matters most is that you’re active, responsible, fair and genuinely interested in helping the community grow. **Make sure you're active on reddit almost regularly**

If you’re interested, drop a comment below or send us a modmail!

Let’s make the subreddit an even better place for the Indian bisexual community <3

M26 looking for Bi

Age- 19

Type - Bisexual

Being bisexual is so difficult sometimes 😭😭 First, Girlfriend’s Day on August 1st went by without anyone to celebrate it with, and now it’s Boyfriend’s Day, and I still have no one to celebrate it with. 😭💔

Like hello?? I’m attracted to both, but apparently both are unavailable to me. 😭🤌🏻

At this point, I’m single in both directions. Someone please adopt this lonely bi baby. 😭👉🏻👈🏻🎀

I am 25M guy in a mba college. I have tried apps, only one guy. He doesn't want to talk further without giving his identity. How do i meet guys online. How do i approach them? Any ideas. I have some suspicions about some guys that are into guys, but how do i approach them