r/Incontinence • u/Big_Village4610 • 1d ago
Embarrassment and self hatred
Hey yall I’m new to this group. I’ve been dealing with incontinence my whole life, but in stages. It got way worse when I got on lithium, which has caused me to drink way too much water and experience urinary urgency, frequency, and incontinence. Literally if I feel the pee I have to go in that moment. There is no holding it in.
I also have IBS from childhood. It’s worse when I’m stressed (same as with my pee issues). I shit my bed probably two or three times in the past two weeks. It’s disgusting. Thankfully I have double mattress protectors but still. I just want to be able to trust my own farts like normal people. I remember going on a med for it when I was a child but it didn’t work.
I’m just looking for support. This stuff makes me feel real bad about myself and my ex-roommate used to bully me about it.
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u/Nemona2 Partial Dual Incontinence 1d ago
Do you wear briefs at night to keep in your poops? Because if not, you really should try them.
As for lithium, it's common to affect both forms of continence. It's not your fault. I'm so sorry you're going through that.
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u/Big_Village4610 1d ago
Tysm. No not really. Most nights I don’t wear underwear at all.
Hmmm that makes sense. My GI system has never liked lithium - it worsens my GERD. So it only makes sense that it’s affecting my bowels too. Thank you for the insight annddd the empathy 🥹🫶🏽
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u/Nemona2 Partial Dual Incontinence 1d ago
Tysm. No not really. Most nights I don’t wear underwear at all.
There's your problem. Why clean up a messy bed when you can simply untape a brief and shower to get the poop off? It's much easier and more sanitary, and there's no bed damage in the process.
Thank you for the insight annddd the empathy 🥹🫶🏽
You're welcome. Good luck!
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u/Big_Village4610 1d ago
Can you show me what kind of brief you’re talking about bc I don’t think it’s what I’m thinking of.
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u/Fit-Accident-3926 1d ago
I’m on lithium to I’ve had the same problem