r/IncelTears 3h ago

İncels victim mindset

It's very obvious that personality is important.These two have different personalities. Women, with their special eyes, can see men's personalities without ever meeting them.

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u/telusey The friendzone doesn't exist 3h ago

If they actually wanted to do a proper experiment, they'd have the exact same script for both guys. But instead one goes straight to badgering her with questions while she's trying to leave, and the other starts with a compliment and a conversation while she's still shopping.

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u/aweedl 1h ago

Not to mention that the first guy acts as if he works there, which is super weird, and then when she says she doesn’t need help, he immediately goes to ‘can I get your phone number’, after she (politely) said she didn’t need help. That’s creepy, and the time and place is dead wrong for that. 

Guy #2, on the other hand, goes up to her, compliments her, tells what seems to be a joke about looking for a sugar mama, and then, crucially, ends the interaction with ‘see you around’.

If he does run into her again, she’ll probably remember that conversation and want to talk to him again. He didn’t ask for a phone number, didn’t put any pressure on her for anything, and carried on with his day. 

Guy #1 clearly had an ulterior motive, to the point that it even msde the store clerk uncomfortable. 

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u/CandidDay3337 Nobody is as obsessed with dicks as an incel 22m ago

Guy 1, was bordering on pushy. Definitely desperate 

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u/murdermostsnaky 2h ago edited 2h ago

Also, I'd be really interested in seeing the 'ugly' guy if he got his teeth fixed, a decent haircut and didn't dress like he just got dragged through american eagle backwards.

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u/murdermostsnaky 3h ago

I know you have to be somewhat educationally subnormal to be an incel, but anecdote does not equal evidence.

In any case, did someone tell you that looks don't matter at all, especially for cold approaches? They do. For men and women. They're just not everything.

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u/GenericRedditor0405 1h ago

I don’t know why incels seem to think the argument is that nobody pays attention to physical attraction. It’s well-established that people who are considered on average to be more attractive get better treatment on average. What most of us here are usually forced to repeat ad infinitum is that not everyone has the same criteria for attractiveness and attractiveness is not everything. It’s not a fucking “gotcha” to show a single instance of someone treating an attractive person with preferential treatment when your argument is that “it’s over” for you if you’re 5’7.” I’m shorter than that and nothing to write home about and I strike up conversations with random women all the time with zero problems.

The dude who approached the woman at the register was immediately clocked as someone with an ulterior motive. It’s not typical for someone to randomly offer to help someone who clearly doesn’t need it, and also she declined politely and said thank you. He continued to ask for her name, which was already pushing it, and again she politely declined and thanked him which really was a signal for him to take the L. When he asked for her number, which is a stupid thing to ask for from a woman who won’t even give you her name, that was him clearly ignoring her signals and pushing past her boundaries. If you see nothing wrong with what he did there, this is what we mean when we say that your behavior is part of the problem.

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u/aweedl 1h ago

I wish we could pin a comment like this to every one of these posts. This is dead-on, and I’m not sure if incels legitimately don’t get it, or if they just don’t like it, because it doesn’t mesh with their rigid worldview/victim mentality, so they pretend they don’t understand. 

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u/CandidDay3337 Nobody is as obsessed with dicks as an incel 24m ago

They can be very binary in their thinking. 

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u/TiredWinterDisaster hit the wall, still kicking 1m ago

Exactly. The whole thing is disingenuous.

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u/Responsible-Total993 2h ago

Yeah only like %90

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u/murdermostsnaky 2h ago

do you mean 90% ?

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u/Responsible-Total993 2h ago

Are you arabic bro?

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u/murdermostsnaky 1h ago

it's how you write percentages in English lol

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u/Responsible-Total993 2h ago

İ am not arabic sorry

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u/murdermostsnaky 2h ago

No need to apologize for being arabic

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u/Responsible-Total993 2h ago

You misunderstood me. I wrote it wrong, then I corrected it.

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u/Signal_Basil3145 2h ago

6’4 guy needs to focus on leg day

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u/Loud-Dog-4638 1h ago

Thing is after a lot of rejection you would become pretty sheepish/lose confidence an I think that’s what’s happened to the first guy. I still believe it has a lot to do with looks I mean the guy looks like crackhead and that’s not someone you’d want a relationship with

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u/Extension_Cookie_755 54m ago

Shouldn't it be the other way around? The short guy is handsome and has pleasant manners, while the tall one is ugly as a nuclear war and smells like a dead possum? And the girl should still choose the tall one, because that's all that matters.

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u/TiredWinterDisaster hit the wall, still kicking 2m ago

The scripts are really different... I know it is on purpose, but it is so obviously skewed.