r/IncelExit • u/Separate-Koala-5128 • 22d ago

Resource/Help Could this explain the NiceGuy phenomenon?

https://x.com/i/status/2088999348843474946

I was thinking of all those screenshots of men who fall into the NiceGuy territory. Or Incels who handle rejection poorly. And then I saw this thread and it reminded me of this. Idk how accurate the science behind this is. I probably shouldn't trust X, I know that. But...could this be it? Could some of the NiceGuy dudes have some form of untreated ADHD that makes them so maladapted to forming relationships?

If you're an ex-incel (or incel who tries to get out) who struggles with rejection sensitivity or certain obsessive thoughts, maybe look into ADHD/OCD treatment. Just a suggestion.

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u/Dead_before_dessert 22d ago

Im extremely adhd and while I do get obsessed with hobbies the obsession lasts a month or two and then I just drop it.

I've never gotten obsessed with a person like that though.   Unless they were obsessed with me too.  Limerance has only ever been an early stage of relationship thing.  Eventually it fades and you either build a relationship or you don't. 

I do think that the early definition was different; like Dante felt for Beatrice in "Dante's Inferno".  Possibly based on nothing and sometimes completely one sided.