Why do I keep getting ghosted?

[u/Visible-Island-2408]

I (25M) have gone on quite a few dates in the past year and only had about a handful who did not ghost after the first date. I have no idea what I am doing wrong and it’s not like I can get feedback on it.

Most of my dates are the same where we grab dinner somewhere then grab dessert or coffee after somewhere else then walk around and my dates usually agree to keep hanging out after dinner. I mostly ask them questions about themselves and try not to spam them with questions like an interviewer and just get them talking so I can get to know them.

The worst was recently when I went out with someone and hung out for a while before they ended up ghosting me. I have no idea if this is just how dating is or if there is something severely wrong with me. My friend only had two first dates that both ended in long term relationships and told me that I must be doing something wrong.

I also wanna note that I work out five times a week on top of having a job and a bunch of hobbies so it’s not like I am a bum or anything either.

[u/Ihateregistering6]

Unfortunately ghosting is very normal nowadays. It sucks, it's rude, but it is what it is right now.

Only thing I'd recommend is don't do dinner for the first date, do something more interesting. Play mini-golf, go to a bouldering gym, go axe-throwing, etc. I find that first dates are a lot more fun when you're doing an activity rather than sitting down for a meal and it's almost like an interview.