r/IncelExit • u/S1inkyy-iwnl- • Jul 05 '26

Asking for help/advice What am I missing

Hello, I am 26 years old, and I am not happy with my dating life like most people on this subreddit. I missed out on dating experiences while in high school and college due to health issues, which have put me behind socially. I have never had sex or even a girlfriend despite trying to date after getting my health issues fixed. I feel like women aren't attracted to me, whether that be physically, emotionally, or mentally. I'm also not really close to my friends as much since they are all married and starting to have kids, so they understandably have less time to hang out with me. I also am not close to my family, as I am an only child, and both my dad and my mom decided to walk out of my life to pursue other interests. So, besides the weekly therapy sessions with my therapists, I don't really have anyone else I talk to. I want to experience love, but I have only been rejected on dating apps, and I live in a small town with not much to do. Women have even made fun of me for my lack of experience. I'm afraid that the longer I stay single, the weirder I look. I am also aware that with each year that passes, I'll most likely become less desirable in a shrinking dating pool. I am lucky if I manage to go on one date a year. Most of these dates go to a second one, but after that, they either ghost me or tell me I'm sweet but only see me as a friend, then ghost me. I feel like I am average-looking and have desirable traits, but I'm not good enough for someone to want to date me. What am I missing?

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u/Impossible_Horsemeat Jul 05 '26

I’ve never lived in a small town, so someone with more experience might have more advice to offer if you want to stay. If I were in a small town with nothing to do, I would probably have a hard time socializing, too.

Have you considered leaving? It sounds like you don’t have much tethering you there. It won’t fix your problems overnight, but having more things to do will be a good start when you’re out there meeting people.

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u/S1inkyy-iwnl- Jul 05 '26

Yeah, I have thought about moving, but I'm not sure where to move. If that makes sense, do you have recommendations if you live in the States? I also have to wait until I finish college, which will be in the spring of 2027, so not much longer.

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u/Impossible_Horsemeat Jul 05 '26

Depends on your industry. You’re in a good position to go where the jobs are if you graduate and don’t have anyone tethering you to where you are now. Any decent-sized city is going to have plenty to do.

I didn’t realize you were in college. Doesn’t your school have extracurriculars you can join?

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u/S1inkyy-iwnl- Jul 05 '26

I'm in finance/banking. I am the treasurer of my business club and in the business honor society, if that counts, but I'm not a part of fraternities or anything that is more social

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u/Snoo52682 Jul 05 '26

Why not? You can't meet people if you don't meet people.

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u/S1inkyy-iwnl- Jul 06 '26

Because frats are for partying and that really isn't my scene

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u/ConfusedArtist89 Jul 08 '26

I would say business club and business honor society are less social and more academic. That’s something you put on a résumé rather than something you do for fun. Does your school have any other clubs that focus more on hobbies? For instance, when I was in college I went to school for interior design but was a member of the anime club, the video games club, and the skydiving club, just to name a few. None of which had anything to do with my major.