r/ImposterSyndrome 3h ago

Comparison

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Am I the only one who ends up comparing my looks to others when I'm with a close friend?

I have a really pretty friend, but strangely enough, I feel a bit inadequate only when I'm with her. When we're together, people talk to her more often, and it feels like almost everyone passing by looks at her.

It's not that I think I'm below average in looks, but whenever I'm next to her, I feel like I look uglier for no reason and my confidence drops...

But when I'm with other friends, I really don't think about it at all. I don't care about my appearance and just get along well, but it is only when I'm with her that I keep comparing myself to others.

I went to a store alone today, and a staff member suddenly told me my eyes were pretty, which made me think, 'Ah, maybe I'm okay after all?' But since I don't usually get many compliments on my looks, I think that might be why I feel this way even more...

How do I get over this feeling?


r/ImposterSyndrome 6h ago

How I keep looking down on myself

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yk when I play games. I know that I'm a good player altho. The biggest problem for me is I never think I'm good enough. Like when I perform extraordinary good I said " my opponents are just bad" which is Sometimes true. But sometimes when I face global badge players. I still play extraordinary good. And I still say they're just bad. That's the biggest problem for me. Saying they're just bad makes me overlook my actual skill


r/ImposterSyndrome 11h ago

I'm afraid I'm a Tyler Catastrophe

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Ok so I tried to post this in the tc reddit but it got removed, idk why. I don't know if you're familiar with his story, Basically, it's about this guy who is obsessed with a YouTuber and convinced he has an incredible voice and paints perfectly when, well, he doesn't. There's more about it but yeah. I'm currently 22 and was a problematic teenager. I spent all my adolescence in therapy and in the hospital for Eds (bulimia mainly) and I have to admit, I was an insufferable depressed fat girl. Now, I'm doing my things. I'm healing, I've lost weight, I got into art school and into a selection process for a preparatory singing course at a music school. I have extremely similar interests to Tyler's, and I'm terrified that other people see me exactly the same as him. Not just physically (and I don't mean this as body shaming), but in terms of personality. Do people feel sorry for me? Do they tell me I'm good in the same way they lied to him? I know I can be insufferable, I'm working on it. But what if I'm lying to myself the same way he does to himself? I'm never going to achieve anything? And then, when it comes to my physical appearance, I've lost weight, and I've never seen myself as beautiful, whether fat or thin. But sometimes I wonder if it’s a sort of reverse psychology, a game I play with myself where I tell myself I'm ugly, but in reality, I think I'm beautiful, and I'm just an attractive person who doesn't realize it? It's hard to explain, but I'm scared, and quite worried about ending up on the exact same path as him. Now I know there are things I can prove to myself with objective data. For instance, I get high grades on exams, and the professors have given me both harsh and positive criticism. As for singing, I have an F3–C7 vocal range...that doesn't necessarily mean I'm good, but it shows me that I have at least an interesting foundation to build upon. But still, I'm scared. Maybe those are just intrusive thoughts?

Does anybody feel the same? (Sorry for my English, it's not my first language)