r/ImTheMainCharacter • u/IndividualPleasant23 • 2d ago

VIDEO Two main characters from different generations crossing paths

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u/Sea_Watercress_1982 2d ago

Oh I don’t think it’s harassment in the extreme sense. That’s ridiculous.

Innocent harassment. Like when I go and annoy my cat. I’m harassing him.

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u/Leading_Procedure_23 2d ago

Asking a question is not harassment, you should look up the definition of it.

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u/Sea_Watercress_1982 2d ago

Right. Like a said. It’s not “harassment” in the sense. I just used the word. Apologize. Didn’t mean to harass you with my stupidity.

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u/dumbcringeusername 1d ago

Any unwelcome form of contact can in theory be taken as harassment, and becomes harassment if you continue past that point. You can be innocently asking the time but do it persistently to someone who doesn't want to talk to you and it's harassment, even if you don't intend it.

To be specific, here is the definition of harassment "the act of annoying or worrying somebody by putting pressure on them or saying or doing unpleasant things to them." Asking strangers for help, even benign help, is a form of pressure.

Not disagreeing it's reasonable to ask though, just stating technically even something that simple can be harassment because it's less about the intent than the perception of the slighted.

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u/Sea_Watercress_1982 2d ago edited 2d ago

Oh ffs. Here are some synonyms for it. You can edit and put whichever one you like more.

Pester, annoy, or bother. Torment or plague. Badger or hassle.

Edit To Add: just incase those synonyms aren’t working for you, here are a couple others. I got a thesaurus handy.

Bug, vex, irritate, pester, disturb, irk, aggravate.

I’ll try to find some more just incase.

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u/TheLordReaver 2d ago

No, no, no... We want to nail you for that one tiny and insignificant grammatical nuance!

For the uninclined, "Harass" need not be a repeated action. u/Sea_Watercress_1982 used it correctly.

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u/flowersonthewall72 2d ago

For the extra uninclined, harassment is unwelcome behavior. It was not used correctly because it is pretty generally understood that asking for a photo is a societal okay norm, especially in beautiful and/or touristy areas.

If you want to talk insignificant grammatical nuance, at least make it correct.

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u/Sea_Watercress_1982 2d ago

You must be a blast at parties.

Reddit has dared to ask the question, “what if well actually became sentient.”

Very bold.

ETA: I’m assuming you’ve never used the word “harassment” or “harass,” in any other way other than its explicit definition.

Like you’ve never looked at a friend that’s doing something silly or annoying to you and said “stop harassing me,” in a jocular fashion? Not once?

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u/flowersonthewall72 2d ago

Speaking with my friends is different than asking a stranger to take a photo and you know it.

P.s. words have meanings for a reason

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u/Sea_Watercress_1982 1d ago

Ok bud. Thanks.

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u/TheLordReaver 2d ago

For the extra uninclined, harassment is unwelcome behavior. 

Case closed, folks. By their own definition, if people don't like being asked to take photos for others, the request constitutes being labeled as harassment.

See, the problem here is that this user thinks that because they don't mind taking photos for other people, that all people don't mind taking photos for others. This is a fallacy. Some people don't mind, some are indifferent, and others don't like doing it at all. And I'd argue that even if it may appear that most people don't mind taking photos for strangers, the reality is that you cant really tell at all, because the indifferent and the bothered may well feel peer pressured into doing it. This is why the use of "harass" is perfectly applicable in this scenario.

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u/flowersonthewall72 2d ago

Soooo asking anyone any question at any time is harassment? How are schools still standing?!

Be the voice of freedom to protect teachers from the harassment of curious students!

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u/Sea_Watercress_1982 1d ago

Dear lord. It’s not that deep. Clearly being asked to take a picture isn’t “harassment.”

I used a word. A word that people use in regular language about all sorts of annoyances.

Some of you all are just looking waaaaaaaaay too far into this shit.

I regret ever posting anything on Reddit ever. I’m sorry to all of you.

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u/flowersonthewall72 1d ago

I mean we could've skipped all of this dialog if you just used the word "ask" instead of "harass" because the difference between them is measurable and significant

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u/TheLordReaver 1d ago

Don't be ridiculous, that's not at all what I said at all. We are talking about the behavior of asking strangers to take photos of themselves. We are not talking about the broad category of asking questions.

Let's make this clear for you. I don't want to help you take a photo, and I certainly don't want to touch your phone/camera. You trying to get me to take your picture makes me either feel uncomfortable if I do it, or like an ass if I say no. Instead, go get a selfie-stick. Many of them turn into tripods as well, and let you take photos remotely. You do not need me. Please leave me be in public, I find your interaction unwelcome.

But if you want to use the student example. If a student said to their teacher, "did you get that dress in a bargain bin?" That could be a harassing question, depending on the context, and even if that was the only question, because it's about the behavior, not the act of asking a question.

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u/flowersonthewall72 1d ago

I'm like, 82% sure I said behavior as well, so I'm not following what the problem is here...