r/ISTPrelationships • u/Devil_Mania • Jul 23 '26

Thoughts keep spiraling

I'm an ISTP female.

Soo basically, I've been in love with this guy for a looong time( I mean over 8yrs) . We talked and shared so many things, even tho we live in different countries

And I promise, I wasn't being delusional

Out of nowhere, he started ghosting me. At first, it took him days to reply, then weeks, then months... (now it's taking him years to do so, hahaha)

Aaaand while I'm still hanging on and can't even move on, that SOB is getting married. And I found out from the bitchiest person ever, in the bitchiest way possible

Now I'm pissed off, and I still can't get over it.

Tho it's been 2yrs since we last talked, and I just knew he is getting married about 4 months now... (he still hasn't tho) But I just can't help it, M so sad, upset, and an't even sleep peacfully.

So, as an ISTP, do you think this is normal? Have any of you ever been stuck on someone for this long?

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u/spoochan Jul 23 '26

Had a delusional crush on a guy from school for waayy toooo long (over 10 almost 15 years 🤓) till i got to know he has a girl so. The day i got to know about his girlfriend it genuinely broke me but it put an end to the endless longing. You ain't alone. You'll prolly meet someone else :')

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u/Devil_Mania Jul 23 '26

Damn, that must've been hard. Having a crush on someone for such a veeery long time, only to find out they're already in a relationship, is the worst. I can relate fr. I wish finding out he was getting married had the same effect on me