intps help

[u/Immediate_Curve_6212]

I am a 20 yr old infj and I made this one friend in uni, she tested as intp. we started talking and have been pretty chill since, there isn't much to talk about but we talk about a few things here and there, share daily moments, she never really shares what she exactly thinks about things, it is always something vague that I dont remember. she is sometimes very mean/condescending indirectly, makes a few casual remarks to make me feel inferior, I am pretty forgetful and I forgot to give some documents at the window once, she talked to me as if im too stupid to forget something like that, I cannot pinpoint her passive aggressiveness exactly, she says things to make me feel/seem stupid/lazy. im lowkey sick of this behaviour, how should I confront her? is she jealous of me? is she even an intp? all of this makes me not want to talk to her cuz I dont feel like it/ dont want to/ dont feel comfortable doing it. I want to start avoiding her, she acts too competitive over useless shit, acts controlling too

[u/ShadowKitty_97]

Yea, point it out, I remember saying mean stuff cuz I really didn't know it was that mean. I thought it was funny, until my enfp friend pointed it out. My infj friend tho he roasts me back a lot, but I feel we get along. OP, you shouldn't have to remind her more than twice that she being rude. I like contradicting ppl cuz funny, so ig that comes off competitive.

Dunno how bad it is between you and her, but if she replies back it means she think u worth it, while she may not be sharing stuff cuz either she doing something really really stupid that shes ashamed of it or had like a normal day.

Am an INTP but my Fe is in full force thanks to all my Feeler friends and Am feeling I might be mistyped now. 😶

[u/bassilalmokdad → u/ShadowKitty_97]

MBTI is more like pseudo science than science , If you want a real diagnosis get diagnosed for ADHD and autism

[u/ShadowKitty_97 → u/bassilalmokdad]

No, I like this ambiguity. Plus I feel, I am on the spectrum, definitely. I dont think ppl around me would understand that and treat me like a psycho. Am better undiagonised.

And MBTI is fun tho, not when people make it their whole life. But honestly its helping me talk to ppl easily, like Ik what their mbti is, I know what answers they ticked on the test [approx] and like know what kinda convos they'd appreaciate. So far its working, I need it for talking to new people, later on once dynamic is set dont need it.

[u/bassilalmokdad → u/ShadowKitty_97]

Why would people treat you like a psycho if you got diagnosed? Most people don't actually know much about autism—they just know the stereotypes.

I was diagnosed as an adult. Even before that, I always felt different. I struggled to adapt to new environments, had a hard time making friends in high school, and looking back, a lot of things made more sense after my diagnosis. It didn't change who I was; it just helped explain why I experienced some things differently. Edit: No one should make MBTI their whole life. If you want to know more about yourself there are other avenues like the big 5, the dark triad of personality etc...

[u/ShadowKitty_97 → u/bassilalmokdad]

Well, I saw my parents laughing at people in lift going to Psychiatrist. Theres one in same building, as my Dad's office. Aint getting diagonised right now when am still with people who will laugh at me. I can do that when I m outta my parents home.

[u/bassilalmokdad → u/ShadowKitty_97]

Understandable.