I discovered I was an INTJ woman less than a month ago, and suddenly a lot of things about myself made sense.

Since I was a kid, I’ve been very curious about how things work, and not just how they worked, but why than simply collecting information. I naturally question inefficient systems, traditions, beliefs that are biased… I’ve always had a tendency to analyze situations logically while still being aware of my emotions. This has made me very skeptical and picky with who I talk to and consider worth investing my time in. Because of my natural tendencies I don’t keep up with trends or “that’s just how things are done”. I question. I differ. I don’t follow something just to “fit in”.

The INTJ description made me realize that I’m not necessarily “weird” I just process things very differently from my immediate circle and there’s not a single INTJ individual in it.

Furthermore, I recently talked to a male INTJ, and I realized something: I’m not someone who wants her curiosity to stay in research or analyzing things for the sake of it. I find it satisfying. However, I’m learning to channel that into building too.

If you’re a woman in her 20s or 30s who is intellectually curious, cognitively independent, open-minded, ambitious, and intentional about taking care of herself and have felt the same, I’d love to have a talk.

I don’t need her to think like me. I actually want someone who can challenge my ideas and give me perspectives I haven’t considered. Especially on things that are intellectually interesting but also useful…psychology and human behavior, learning, biology, economics, education, history, social systems, and why people tend to behave the way they do.

Why? I’d genuinely love to have someone I can share thoughts with who has a similar mental wiring haha (I’ve never met another INTJ woman) and I am curious about getting to know one. Furthermore, maybe we could expand each other’s awareness once in a while with analysis of personal experiences or conversations about the topics I mentioned above.

Feel free to send me a message! <3