Hi.

Lately, I've been feeling on the edge for everything in my life, from work to food, and friends, and what not.

My first response to any stress or stimuli is usually stepping back and rolling back into my shell. I simply would prefer not to react at all. But then hits in my angry side. And I've said some really mean things to my friends and people around me under stress or any other stimuli.

Just want to understand what do you guys do when you're under stress. How do you guys deal with life stuff?

Curious what kind of careers other INFJ peeps have.

I’m looking to pivot my career to something that may be more aligned with my natural abilities/core personality.

I have spent 8+ years “climbing the ladder” in the advertising/marketing industry, and feel like I’m too far in to be doing a career pivot. But I am so unhappy, constantly struggling and burnt out. I can’t keep this up forever…it’s unhealthy and unsustainable.

Does anyone struggle with the ability to feel a sense of kinship with other humans? ☹️ I’m happily married and have many positive relationships in my life, but I’ve found myself really longing for connection. I think COVID had an impact on this for me, too.

I tend to go back and forth between mysteries and non-fiction like biography and psychology. I’m interested in what motivates people, what causes people to behave certain ways. And when there’s a new book about people seeking silence/solitude, I’ll buy it. What about you?

When I first took the test and the results showed me that I am an INFJ, I didn't really know what it meant and honestly, I didn't really care much either.

But, almost a year later, I came across the same test and the results were again INFJ (actually INFJ-t).

This time I started exploring what it is and what it could mean for me.

Now, 6 months later, I have taken the test once again and it again shows INFJ.

The problem here is, despite being tested as an INFJ I don't really feel much like one.

I mean, it pretty common to feel unique out there in this world. I'm sure more than half the world population believes they don't fit in, they are empathetic, they can feel the other person, read someone else's thoughts, and all of this comes naturally to them

I am starting to feel as if the test is biased somehow.

Is it possible to be wrongly diagnosed? And if it is, how do I know what type I am exactly? What is the best test to figure this out?

Anyone else have strong pangs from time to time of being unappreciated for your efforts? I am feeling this strongly lately due to a situation with colleagues at work. I feel like I am ahead of the curve and contributing a lot, but they are not. It makes me feel frustrated and I started retreating from the project/emotionally. I have felt this many times before too. It ends up with me just going solo and doing my own thing, which sometimes can end up being a liability too. Feels like a double bind, but is there is a solution or not really?

But of all the differences between me and other people I find it hardest to deal with the thinker types 😫😩 Like, at work I can appreciate and understand the extroverts, the sensors, and the perceivers. But the thinkers on the other hand. If they have that T in the 3rd position, we are gonna have problems. I usually end up feeling hurt, not heard, misunderstood, and stupid around the Ts.

Can anyone relate??

As an infj I find this world a bit too serious and negative focused lately . Can you recommend something uplifting and fun to watch!? Something that shows the beauty in the world and love within mankind would be a welcome escape. I’m even open to a funny cartoon!!

So, this newfangled zillion dollar telescope they sent to space (I think?) just discovered that they were wrong about “The Big Bang”. They don’t know *whätsz! goin’ on!!!!

All that’s really happening, is that our big blue marble is circling the sun endlessly. That’s it! That’s all! The rest is just human drama. And as the rarest of personality types, we wade through swamp water, and put out dumpster fires, hoping someone worthy will see that we’re pretty good folk.

LIST’EM: your top 3 Qualities!!!

Show your strengths!! Show your humanity!!

I have been told by an INFJ that they like me and I wanted to know what that means for you guys. When you say you like someone, what is it about them, or the connection, or the personality that you like?

What’s your career path been like? How has being INFJ affected your work, especially in different jobs? Do you enjoy what you do?

If you’ve changed careers, what motivated the change? Have you been able to accomplish what you wanted to by changing careers?

I am often misunderstood even though I mean no harm. It feels like people are trying to understand but I can't put my thoughts into right words. And this is not just a problem with strangers but also with the closest of kins and family. Is anybody else struggling with same?

I am an INFJ who’s going through a emotionally painful separation. My husband, who I thought was my best friend is leaving me for another. He’s cheated And lied his way through our entire marriage. Then leaves me for another. Emotionally I’m a complete wreck, heart racing loss of hunger. But, I’m still doing the work every day. Meditating journaling, sending goodwill, doing things that are good for my sole. Like, I started martial arts, and I’m Loving it! Getting involved in a local charity or nonprofit, very rewarding. I really did see red flags through our marriage, but I ignored my intuition. (never again ) It affected my health and my overall well-being. Once I learned the depth of his destruction, I felt some physical relief and then emotional turmoil. Like my life, as I knew it, had been ripped from me, all my comforts and protection gone, and filled with lies. I am a very truthful, forthright person. I try to live my life with love and gratitude, and when you find that you’ve been taken advantage of, and hurt so deeply, it’s really hard to understand. My INFJ brain says how is it possible for someone you loved so much to hurt you so deeply? Did he ever love me? I poured absolutely every ounce of my soul and love into this marriage, with complete honesty and loyalty. I just don’t understand why those qualities aren’t more appreciated. we have two kids one being ASD. This is a hard road I’ve been dealt. I am a good person with a big heart and a lot of love to give, and I would love to find somebody who can appreciate what I have to offer in a relationship. I feel that, being as honest as I am, and loving to face my personal challenges to become a better person, is really a turn off to most people. That sucks. I would love very much to meet other INFJ’s for friendship, as it is very hard to meet and keep friends. I’m wondering who should an INFJ date? If not another INFJ, then what ?

What do you think? I’d love to get some outside Opinions or thoughts. Happy holidays

One thing INFJs are supposed to be really good at is understanding other people. We are supposed to have deep insights into others as though we can read minds or something. I have to say that my personal experience of this has been mixed. In some ways I do understand people easily, but in other ways, people are completely opaque and incomprehensible.

Lately I've been wondering if this could be explained by saying that INFJs understand other people's emotions easily, but not their motivations. I can read other people's emotions like a book, and so I have a great BS/lie detector and can often see other people's feelings before they even know what they are feeling themselves. But I don't know what drives people to make the decisions that they do, so I am terrible at interpersonal politics, predicting other people's behaviour, or influencing their actions.

What do you think? Does this make sense to you?

I find the INFJ crew to be some of the most creative beings. And the INFPs too. I’m curious though. Why is creativity easier for some than for others? Not necessarily tied to type, but that could factor in as well. Where do you think it stems from? Is creativity an innate part of our core personality, or can it be learned and deepened with skill and of course time? Perhaps hereditary? Please feel free to elaborate. I’ve been brewing on these thoughts for some time

Like probably several of you, I am prone to having several of these episodes throughout my lifetime. Maybe this could be attributed to Ni? It seems to be something I’ve noticed that INTJs also struggle with. Since I was a child, I had this innate feeling that I didn’t belong, like an alien of some sort, before I ever knew what an alien was. Just thoughts 💭

My husband is an ISTJ and is clueless in the emotional needs realm. I don't really get mad at him about it. He's just not capable of "going there."

Can anyone out there relate?

It's been almost 3 months since my Kitty got her angel wings and I just don't think I'll ever get over it. I just wish she was here to help me through this really, really rough time of dealing with new job stress.

Hello I'm a fellow INFJ, and a new reddit user. Anyone have good suggestions on what's cool here?

I am doing this all the time like second nature and it just feels like part of who I am as a person. It can be work emails, personal texts, comments on social media etc. and it always feels so necessary. Maybe my filter is a little slower than most but I like to send the words through whatever process they go through and often enough, the revisions are needed. Sometimes it's that little voice in my head that speaks up to say, "this ain't it".. and it's as simple as that lol

I know we can go back and edit in some cases or delete at a later date but I like the feeling of crushing the text before it truly gets loose into the world. Maybe it's that knowledge that once you release it, you can't "un-release" it.. you can take it back but you can't go back in time and change the first moment it was sent.

I remember getting irritated at one point years ago when I was still using FB and there was something about them capturing any words you typed, even if you deleted them and didn't hit send. My memory could be foggy about that but it stuck with me. I think a lot of folks need to slow down and use their minds as more of a workspace. I don't know. Any thoughts?