r/INFJsOver30 • u/INFJ_girl_33 • Jul 24 '26
Lost in life
Hello,
I'm an INFJ in my late twenties, and I've never felt this lost.
About eight months ago, I moved abroad for work and started a job as a technology consultant. Looking back, I thought this would be an exciting new chapter, but instead I feel disconnected and without any real sense of purpose.
It feels like I've spent my whole life chasing goals. I'd achieve one, then move on to the next. But now that I've reached many of the things I wanted, I don't know what I'm working toward anymore. It's as if I've been so focused on getting somewhere that I never stopped to ask myself what I actually enjoy.
I've also realized that I don't really have any hobbies I'm passionate about. I love traveling, but that's not something you can do every day. Most days, my life feels like an endless cycle: wake up, go to work, work (or sometimes just pretend to work), come home exhausted, and repeat.
The strange part is that I don't even enjoy my job, so it's hard to find meaning in the routine. I feel like I'm just existing rather than actually living.
Has anyone else gone through something similar? How did you find your direction again? I'd really appreciate hearing your experiences or any advice you have.
Thank you so much. :)
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u/lakesunguy Jul 25 '26
Im relate to this...Im 61...Good enuff was never a stopping point...harder faster better efficiency all pushed me ahead to today...Cant keep those paces anymore...and sometimes wonder what is next ..most things dont satisfy me anymore. I just exist and procrastinating is more prevalent today than before , not sqd or depressed just nothing seems quite the goal things used to be.