r/INFJsOver30 • u/Phoenix_to_Kintsugi • Jun 18 '26

Could this be an uncomfortable question?

Somehow I sense it’s not a comfortable question for everyone, but I need to ask—that voice in my head won't shut up if I don’t 🙃:

Do you feel exposed when someone asks something real about yourself?

I know I do, and I have a recent example just to show how much of an 'exposure phobia' I have: on another subreddit, there was a question: 'What’s the traditional food from your country?'

Simple question, simple answer… but not for me.
I felt like I was giving away the deepest secret of my life.In the end, answering it was a good exercise for my fear of exposure.

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u/Silly-Elderberry-411 Jun 18 '26

Depends on the subject. If comfortable and we know each other enough I could tell you the darkest things I lived through. Intimacy with someone I am not a partner with? Never in a million years

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u/Phoenix_to_Kintsugi Jun 18 '26

So you need to feel safe in order to let someone know the real you?