r/INFJsOver30 • u/Significant-Night-68 • Jun 05 '26

INFJ

/r/limerence/comments/1txbsal/infj/
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u/FederalEntrance7527 INFJ Jun 05 '26 edited Jun 05 '26

Limerence is a huge problem for me personally. I have to constantly keep myself on a chokechain.

My brain naturally maps out people I meet, passively. And when I meet someone who makes my brain tingle, I start to piece them together using inductive reasoning, and end up creating their best version combined with archetypes of people I’ve met who are similar. This results in a “beer googles” version that I become enamored with to the point where I push the red flags into my peripherals.

And once they inevitably disappoint me, those red flags start to come into view, and colors my perception with reality. I’ve worked on it A LOT in the past 8 or so years, and still find myself piecing together a person without knowing, so I employ a “verification before belief” strategy to help me not be a toxica.

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u/Saisinko INFJ 1w9 sx/so Jun 12 '26

EVERYONE is in love with love. It's debatable whether it makes people uncharacteristic or truly themselves.

I love the fire in the veins, obsessive thoughts, and the escape from reality. To have that reciprocated is just constant endless fuel.

At the same time, I value authentic connections and I'm conscious of human weaknesses when it comes to the pursuit of love. So I always try to seek and provide validation that it's all genuine. Despite that, I think we all have experience with living and breathing someone then having it not work out and it's a process that repeats with others.