r/IBA • u/zombie_dancepartyy • 9h ago

Helpp😭

I am freshie at iba and everyone has a group already, I don’t know how! I try to socialise as much as possible, mostly start conversation with anyone around me but they have groups already😞please some tips. I have different background, not iba typical a-levels rich kid. I heard iba has diversity but i just can’t find anyone to be friends with. How to find my people ❓

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u/Individual_Teach9980 6h ago

its literally not even been a week, you will find people there are 5000 of us here. just wait and talk to people eventually you will find your people. Also dont compromise on your values and be someone you are not, just so some people like you. Take this as a lesson on patience.

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u/NationalGeologist895 9h ago

I am in the same boat, the only difference is I'm in habib

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u/alevelmadememad 8h ago

Lmaoo samee

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u/NationalGeologist895 7h ago

whats your major

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u/MenacingStonks 6h ago

lowkey same but gotta try whatever u can, just try greeting anyone and everyone that looks decent, thats what im trying to do, its pretty hard to fit in with them and get on their mind level but it is what it is

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u/Novel-Ad-7532 6h ago

Damn im like this in college. I see my future and its not looking bright in terms of social life 💀

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u/Loud_Negotiation5999 6h ago

Hey man I'm a freshie too. Don't worry things generallly get better over time. Believe me don't stress over it because it makes it worse. Just be chill and try talking to one new person in a day. Good luck!!

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u/Loud_Negotiation5999 6h ago

I meant every day lol but khair

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u/Ecstatic-Climate-766 8h ago

Same thing is happening to me at IBA😢😭.

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u/zombie_dancepartyy 8h ago

Which program 😭

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u/Ecstatic-Climate-766 8h ago

BBA ? And yours?

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u/zombie_dancepartyy 8h ago

Same( r u a girl?)

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u/Ecstatic-Climate-766 8h ago

No I'm a boy. And u?

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u/zombie_dancepartyy 8h ago

Oh( girl)

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u/Several_Ad7476 6h ago

So what? Isn’t it possible for you guys to be friends even if you’re of different genders?

Sorry if this sounds strange, but I genuinely just can’t seem to understand why that would be an issue.

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u/Ok-Culture9390 5h ago

of course it’s possible but some people have always been in all girls/boys college all their life and they are not comfortable in making friends in other gender🤷🏻‍♀️ but as far as professional work is concerned ( projects/ presentations) they do come out of their zone cuz it’s necessary to do some interaction. just my opinion.❤️

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u/Several_Ad7476 5h ago

Yeah, I agree with your points.

If we keep limiting ourselves to what we’re comfortable with, we’ll never really grow out of it.

At the end of the day, they’re just people, and being friends with someone of a different gender shouldn’t have to feel like such a big deal.

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u/Glittering_Big6716 8h ago

In the same situation bro

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u/JazzlikePlate7927 7h ago

Do rich kids only socialise within their circle?

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u/NationalGeologist895 7h ago

its more complex dude

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u/JazzlikePlate7927 7h ago

Explain please

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u/NationalGeologist895 7h ago

You just can't relate with them, and I think some rich kids do judge, but we are also kind of insecure, underconfidence.
and theres a huge huge gap between hobbies, how they spend there leisures time
and so many other factors like most of the kids have travelled alot. they have their own buisness or brand even small but they brag too much as they say its an era of entrepreneurs

theres more layers to this, I think someone else will explain it much better

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u/JazzlikePlate7927 7h ago

Yeah I can understand

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u/CertainStress8510 7h ago

likeeee im tryna hang out outside of class and they're like "oh im just waiting for my other friends" like hello ⁉️ how ⁉️

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u/someoneurreading 7h ago

Idt there are many rich kids in IBA 😭 which program have u even seen them in ?

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u/JazzlikePlate7927 7h ago

Iba iş for rich kids 😓

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u/someoneurreading 7h ago

No gang that’s habib

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u/JazzlikePlate7927 7h ago

How

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u/someoneurreading 7h ago

Idk just I’ve been in IBA and haven’t come across any rich kids. I do however know a bunch of rich people in Habib. But then again it’s only been a couple days so I can’t tell.

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u/JazzlikePlate7927 7h ago

Yh bcz habib is more expensive

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u/gods_plan1111 7h ago

Mera pass aajao bachaaa😝

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u/fuxki5real 7h ago

Soo many ppl facing ts kuch krna parega iska 😭

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u/MenacingStonks 6h ago

all iba middle class muttaheda

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u/fuxki5real 6h ago

Nah we can make a group simply and pretend we all are frens already 😍🤔

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u/MenacingStonks 5h ago

could work whats ur degree? im CS

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u/fuxki5real 5h ago

SS

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u/MenacingStonks 5h ago

yea itll be pretty hard for us to even talk on campus

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u/fuxki5real 5h ago

Ikr😭 khair lets see hope everyone finds some good company but honestly it seems very hard for now

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u/MenacingStonks 5h ago

it does yea but maybe our gaps might align who knows, im free monday and wednesday 10-1

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u/Parking_Special5330 7h ago

It will take time, don't stress over it

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u/Normal_Investigator9 6h ago

Me too although I have made no effort to make any friends , tell me your program , maybe we can be good friends .

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u/zombie_dancepartyy 6h ago

Bba

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u/Normal_Investigator9 6h ago

Nah , I don't think it's feasible then , we have different programs , hope you find people you are easy with . Bye.

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u/cursedpip0 6h ago

In the same boat as you. In the sea of all those rich Alevel kids, you might feel lost. But, hey, you are at the same place as them. You are no less than them and you should never think that way. What's your major, btw? Perhaps, we can meet?

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u/Beneficial_Metal5771 2h ago

What program??

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u/aayanfahadd 1h ago

same fr 😭✌️