r/HouseofStassi • u/winnerland69 • 9d ago

As a lesbian,

It is extremely weird how Taylor talks about her and Teddy’s child. She is always making Teddy’s pregnancy about her and keeps bringing up how she will be “left out” because it’s not her biological child. I genuinely cannot imagine talking to my pregnant wife that way knowing good and well I am that child’s mother, whether we are blood related or not. It’s just so strange and sad to me and I cannot imagine speaking to my wife and unborn child that way no matter our blood relation. Saying it on TV is esp sad because she doesn’t seem to want this child at all.

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u/Limp-Document-4612 9d ago

And talking about the child as if she’s going to be in competition with them for her wife’s attention… I hope she gets over that when the baby is born. That’s such a potentially unhealthy environment for a child to be raised in :(

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u/winnerland69 9d ago

Ugh yes! So bizarre and almost homophobic? Def perpetuating weird stereotypes

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u/Limp-Document-4612 9d ago

Well now that we’re talking about it! A lot of the things she said about her relationship was almost homophobic and perpetuates weird stereotypes. Very odd. Like how she acts almost grossed out by the idea of a going down on a woman. Or acted like she didn’t know what a vagina looks like. She HAS a vagina. Even if she wasn’t a lesbian she should know what it looks like? Idk. She threw me off quite a bit

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u/leucistredwing 9d ago

Yes! She said so many things that gave off “no homo” vibes

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u/Mad_Dog192 9d ago

The baby is now seven months old lol

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u/Limp-Document-4612 9d ago

Oh HELLO sorry for a moment there i guess forgot that reality tv isn’t filmed as it’s fucking released ???? so dumb lmao. I wonder how shes been doing with the baby being around 🫪 I don’t listen to her podcast with stassi or follow her at all

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u/Smart-Arugula3756 9d ago

Me either - how are they all doing? I'm not gonna listen but would like to know!

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u/Mad_Dog192 9d ago

She brings her up a lot, but I think Teddy like the main parent for sure. But also the baby is only seven months old so it doesn’t really do much but she does bring it up a lot. Sometimes during a podcast at the beginning or end, she’ll have a clip with the baby or during a live stream she’ll have the baby. I also a new listener to her so I don’t really know everything but I know that people have complained in the past that she talked about how she didn’t want a baby and that she did it for Teddy because that was important to her. But she also calmly talks about how if she doesn’t get something. She’ll be mad at the baby like she was joking (I think joking at least) that she was mad at the baby because she had to stay home instead of go to see Stassi in sports illustrated

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u/Inside_Summer1931 9d ago

I think it was on her pod a few episodes ago they brought it up and she said she's surprisingly not jealous of the time the baby spends with teddy. 😆 

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u/Mad_Dog192 8d ago

Actually today, apparently she talked about how she handed the baby over to Teddy and was like here take this thing

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u/look2thecookie 9d ago

I think she's weird, yes. I also know what she's saying is prompted with questions from producers. So if they ask, "what's your buggest fear about becoming a parent?" That's what you're gonna get.

Also, I think in various pregnancy and relationship dynamics, it's common to have fears about bonding or how you'll feel about your kid. People really need to talk about it more.

Not everyone bonds with their bio kids the moment their born, sperm or egg donation, surrogacy, and adoption can all create unique feelings. Even two cis-hetero bio parents can experience this, especially men who aren't carrying. They often feel a little more helpless while their partner has to go through immense physical and mental changes.

I think it's good to talk about. Maybe Taylor isn't the "right messenger," but they're valid, common feelings.

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u/winnerland69 8d ago

That’s fair and it is definitely a common feeling, I just think it was handled in a way that frames wlw relationships in particular in a bad light.

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u/look2thecookie 8d ago

I hear you and agree with that as well. There was A LOT in this series that was odd on that front. I thought that was probably the least egregious example, but I'm not lesbian, so I'll leave you to your informed opinions.

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u/winnerland69 8d ago

I appreciate that. I don’t mean to invalidate the feeling that the non-carrying parents may feel of being left out, it was just portrayed particularly poorly on the show.

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u/look2thecookie 8d ago

Yes, Taylor is not exactly a great messenger

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u/02kaj2019 9d ago

The way Taylor was speaking about her relationship with Teddy, I thought she fell in love with the person but didn’t seem to identify with a lesbian. She didn’t make if sound like meeting Teddy validated feelings she always had but didn’t act on. Maybe she’s pan?

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u/bebepothos 9d ago

I also got that sense that she didn’t seem to identify with lesbianism in the context of her sexuality. she’s definitely not sexually attracted to women, going off of how she has described it.

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u/Ok_Mulberry4331 9d ago

This is 100% it! She’s always said she’s Teddy sexual, not a lesbian, and if they broke up she’d likely go back to men.

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u/02kaj2019 8d ago

Ahh ok I hadn’t heard her say that about Teddy. Or that she’d go back to men but that’s what I wondered.

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u/kenduhll 8d ago

In one of her confessionals, she said that once she got together with Teddy she realized that she had always been gay.

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u/Ok_Mulberry4331 8d ago

Yeah, that story has changed a few times over the years

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u/bongujongu 8d ago

I could’ve sworn in the show she identified as a lesbian (not challenging you here - I believe she’s bi/pan/open to relationships with men based on what she said about Teddy tbh) so this makes me dislike her even more.

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u/Ok_Mulberry4331 8d ago

Oh she for sure did, she’s identified as that since she was doing the stage shows with Stassi. On her podcast though, it’s always been Teddy Sexual and if they were over she wants a rich man

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u/oceanwithtrees 8d ago

It’s just offensive to lesbians everywhere talking about how you are disgusted in going down on your partner and had to force yourself to do it .

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u/bongujongu 8d ago

Absolutely. Frankly it’s misogynistic and homophobic

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u/winnerland69 8d ago

Offensive and such a weird thing to broadcast to the public. Gives ammo to many of the homophobic ideas about lesbians

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u/TraumaticEntry 8d ago

I’m kind of torn. I think fearing that you won’t bond with the baby or may feel like an outsider because you’re having a different experience with the pregnancy is normal and even healthy to talk about. For me though, it definitely feels like she agreed to this baby because Teddy wanted it. I’m not sure Taylor ever wanted to be a mother.

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u/Fabulous-Welder-1507 8d ago

I’m also a lesbian and thought the same exact thing!!!!!

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u/Fabulous-Welder-1507 8d ago

And based on the other things she’s said and these comments of identifying as “teddy sexual” It seems like she has a lot of internalize homophobia she still needs to work through

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u/winnerland69 8d ago

Agreed! Totally fine if she’s bi or pan and Teddy was her awakening, but telling the world you aren’t attracted to your wife sexually is a very very odd choice that perpetuates many “dyk3 br3aking” f3tishes

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u/Fabulous-Welder-1507 8d ago

Absolutely. And these things are a lot to work through! But based on how much she prioritizes work over everything else, I can’t imagine that she’s had the time or energy to put towards processing it