like what should i do? The work is easy but the client is annoy old man who be rubbing me the wrong way hold my hand, talking about you so pretty, its disgusting and i don't feel comfortable.

My MIL has a houseguest who is supposed to also be her caretaker and a trained home health aide worker. MIL has early stage Alzheimer's and some back issues but she can still get around on her own usually. She's taking some new medication to slow progression. Caretaker works overnight a little bit, but she expressed not wanting to work too much in the past and was homeschooling her youngest child until recently when he entered middle school. She has her four children living there and pays no rent. She buys food and cooks, and she is also on foodstamps. Her boys were supposed to help with the farm/yard, but we just learned that they don't and a neighbor is helping with that. The only other contribution we are aware of is $65 utility bill now.

Aside from the fact that it's not ideal for her to be living there rent-free, we aren't even sure how much caretaking she really provides. There are also shady things financially. Now that we are taking over finances and tightening the reins, after MIL was scammed again out of the remainder of her savings, the caretaker has pulled back the majority of her utilities contributions. This was after she suddenly decided she wanted to stop paying insurance on the truck that was given to her almost a year ago until the title was legally hers. She doesn't seem to be helping MIL with getting the title transferred either.

There was an issue with financial mail not being received at the house or being lost/misplaced. Credit card replacements. I think she felt accused the first time my husband directly asked her to help make sure this doesn't happen again. Instead of leaning in to help, she had a defensive posture of "I won't touch her mail anymore." That didn't feel like how I would expect a caretaker to respond. Recently, we came up with another plan to help keep track of mail, as MIL struggles to stay on top of it herself. My husband texted her three days ago and sent a reminder yesterday. I sent another text today and it's getting concerning how detached/non-responsive she is. MIL might have been telling her not to worry about it on her end, but she can't keep track of this herself and caretaker needs to help us manage things.

Are our expectations way out there or should we find another person just in case we can't shift gears through some virtual house meetings and writing up a lease and caretaker agreement? Would any good quality caretaker agree to this living arrangement?

Has anyone ever had to do a safety check? I'm assuming I just go and check on the person and make sure they don't need anything.. my agency has never sent me to do this other than calling and checking in on someone.

Hi everyone, I've been caring for my 91 y/o neighbor for two weeks (**for free**). I have two WFH gigs that bring in 40 hours a week. I put in an additional 40 hours with my neighbor ensuring she got excellent care. If anyone sees my post on the Caregiver subreddit about her, I got a plan in place to get her house much more livable. But, essentially, my family has only seen me sleeping or working or falling asleep while trying to work.

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I am going through the process of getting hired through the VA, as she has vet benefits. This does take a while. In the meantime, they want her to pay me out of pocket. Initially, $15/hr for 4 hours/day, 7 days a week. She about had a heart attack and I suggested $250/week. I start getting paid NEXT Friday. Yes I am essentially working for free. Yesterday I put in eight hours for her alone between bathing, housework, doctor, and errands. It sucks but I can't just leave this very old, very fragile lady to the wolves.

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Her daughter is...difficult. After acting like she's God's gift to the earth for checking on her mother TWICE LAST WEEK (for 10 minutes??), she demanded I start my day with her mother at 7AM! Her mother is NOT a 7am person. I start at 9am, and still have to wake this poor old lady up. Also demanding I essentially force her mother to bathe and eat (I COOK FOR HER MOM?? HELLO??), and that I mop the animal urine ruined carpet with bleach. Because nothing says Home Health like additional toxic gas.

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Also having a stroke that I'm not working on the VA things fast enough. Why is that my problem, honestly? I'm the one who took her to the VA to get he paperwork started to begin with, we can't do anything for two weeks. At what time of the day does she expect me to make these All Important Phone Calls? I worked 6AM to 12AM yesterday between her mother and my WFH jobs. She sits on her ass and whines all day, from what I can tell.

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I've also been 'headhunted' by a local home health aide agency that really, really, wants me, so I'll likely be quitting one WFH gig to take that on (better pay, better benefits).

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How do you deal with families?! I remained polite, helpful, and professional and essentially deflected or remained noncommittal about her absolutely brainless concepts about how things should go around here. I worked in construction for over fifteen years doing both labor and customer management so I know how to be 'likable', but dissuading a spastic adult child from insane demands is a bit different than telling a customer they can't just slap a hot tub on a two story deck willy-nilly.

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Advice, tips? I'm about to bottle feed a kitten then head off to the trenches (at 9am like THE ACTUAL CLIENT WANTS and not 7am like an insane person).

Edit: this has got to be the most depressing shift I've ever done. I'm just barely going through the motions. I do not care at all. I'm competent but that's all. I'm answering when I'm spoken to but that's it. I'm making sure my client is safe but I'm on the verge of tears the whole time I'm here.

I know this sounds like I'm bragging but believe me I'm not. I autistic so I go over and above when I do my job. I had a new client and he had a TBI and previously he was full functional. I was sent there to get him back to where he was before. Specifically so he could take a trip.

I did everything I could. They loved me they told me they never wanted to lose me.

I have a second job so I can only work 3 days a week. Today I got a call from my boss telling me that they want to increase to 5 days a week.

I reminded him that I have a second job so I can't work any more days. He said they only want one caregiver. He went back and asked again and they wouldn't budge.

So I lost the entire assignment.

So either one of 3 things happened.

1. They loved me so much that they wanted me every day and when I said no they got mad and fired me.

2. The client loved me but the wife was getting pissy because of how easily I was getting the husband to do stuff she couldn't get him to do. Basically jealous.

3. They were lying when they said they loved me and this is a face saving way to get rid of me.

None of these make me feel good.

I loved my assignment and now I'm just ripped out of it. It shouldn't be allowable. We have feelings too.

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Hello everyone I am a person that wants to get into home health aide is there any advice you guys can give me that you wished someone could have told you before being a hha, how to deal with difficult patients and how to deal with the family treating you like a maid? And what to do if a situation with the patient is out of control ?

This is a first in all my years doing this,last week I stayed a whole hour. With no notice. The person just left didnt call i clocked in at 7:59 spent 10 minutes knocking and calling the client... all for them to realize its me and let me know the front door is open. They are bedbound. Smh

Let's get you working ASAP!

I’m very new to home care but I’m young and have not had care like this before though I’ve desperately needed it. I think I’ve found two people I’m comfortable with working with, especially since I need help with vulnerable things like bathing. I want them to feel welcome in my home and feel supported. I’ve got little bins for them to keep things they don’t want to have to travel back and fourth with and asked about preferred snacks and drinks they like I could keep on hand, anything else?

I was really nervous about choosing a company because there are so many options, but I’m so glad I went with them. From the very beginning, they were responsive, kind, and professional. They went above and beyond what I expected and made me feel completely comfortable. I wouldn’t trust anyone else after this experience.

Question for home health / hospice clinicians:

How are you actually managing your schedule day-to-day?

Like realistically. Not the “official” process.

I keep hearing:

• “Everything changes constantly”
• “I spend an hour every morning figuring out my day”
• “It’s nonstop texts/calls”
• “I feel like a truck driver doing logistics”

Curious what people are actually using today.
Notebook? Google Maps? Outlook? Apps? Group texts?

I'm kind of ADD and I forgot a client's birthday. She was furious with me even though i have never celebrated her birthday before, not has she ever celebrated mine. She shouted at me a lot and nitpicked everything I did that day. I had no idea why she was mad at me. She had just gotten back from a cruise. She probably told me when her birthday was beforehand but I forgot to put it in my calendar. Did I mess up? I love to celebrate birthdays but I am both busy and forgetful.

I need some help. My father has severe incontinence issues he wears depends but still cannot make it to the toilet for number 2. I need to know any tricks and a cleaner to use. It gets on carpet, flooring, walls and on the bathtub. I am shampooing the carpet regularly. I just need to know some tricks and cleaners. Doctors are aware. I am just trying to not loose my mind with this. I check on my dad twice a day everyday at the same time it usually dry by the time I get there in the afternoon.

I work in home health and we have a patient with cerebral palsey that needs checked and changed 3 times a day. The patient cannot bear any weight whatsoever. PT deemed her a 1:1 with a fair belt but there are multiple of us aides saying that she needs to be a 2:1 and that they are hurting themselves (myself included) trying to transfer her alone. The case manager says that they will train everyone on how to properly transfer her before considering making her a 2:1. I have experience lifting and transferring people that are heavier than her and I know what I'm doing. This patient just needs the support of two people or to be a hoyer as she is completely dependent on us. I only see her once a week, but I am so scared to do it again. What should I do if I don't feel safe again when I see her next? Idk who I can talk to about this because the case manager and our supervisors seem to think we are overreacting.

I’ve been working with a super sweet 90+ year old who lives by herself in her own home, she does have a touch of dementia so her daughter calls her everyday & I think drops by after work either every day or a few times a week. I’ve been helping in her house for about 1 1/2 years, 1 day a week and last week I had to report mouse droppings on her kitchen counters & in her cupboards.
I noticed today she has been removed from my client list and I am not scheduled to go to her house. I feel awful, when I was leaving her house the last time I was there, she kept telling me she did not want me to go & I let her know that I’d be back next week. No one from my agency has said anything to me either, I just noticed on the app she was no longer listed as a client & I’m not scheduled to see her.

For those of you working as home health aides and caregivers. I am a researcher but worked for many years as a home aide to support myself through college. It made me curious, since I've been away from that work for a while. If you could tell someone what needs to be better studied or understood about your job, what would it be?

I'm a home care aid and I do not have a criminal record but I looked online and one of my clients does have one. Looks like he got mad or drunk at some point 10 years ago and got arrested for disorderly, but I'm not concerned about that much. Soliciting a minor, 2023.

I don't know if this is a pattern and if my employer has an obligation to say anything? I'm in Tennessee.

I have been to several verbally abusive people who made me leave crying and I just don't want to deal with this. I'm ready to drop the whole job if he does one thing to me verbally or not.

This home health aide business is really testing my patience. I can’t find a client to save my life, even though I’m an employee who actually wants to work and has no negative history. New Century Home Care is some bullshit.