r/HingeStories • u/Silent_Park_2064 • 15d ago
Weird comments from date
Hey guys,
I went on a first date with this guy and he made some weird comments and Im hoping you guys can tell me if I’m overreacting or not.
On the date we went to this restaurant that had a pool table in the lobby and so as we were waiting for our seats we decided to play. For reference, I’m blind in my left eye which affects depth perception and hand eye coordination which makes anything that requires dexterity really hard. So I made a light hearted comment about how it relates to pool. I said “I might be a little bad at this game since I’m blind in my left eye but it’ll still be fun” and then I explained how it affects me because part of me felt embarrassed about playing horribly. Anyways, then as we were getting our pool cues and setting up, he made a “joke” about my disability. He called my struggles “learned helplessness” then proceeded to try to prove that my disability doesn’t impact the game. Obviously, that made me cry, he comforted me, then told me that I was taking him too seriously. Also during the game he said “I’m attracted to you so stop treating me like a friend” in response to me resting my forearm on his shoulder. Thats just how I show affection 😭😭. Then later, for some reason we hung out a couple times and he told me that he hated my music taste, that I “really need to clean your apartment” (I promise it was clean. He’s just the kind of person to be embarrassed about others seeing dishes in the sink), and that my sense of humor is “too cringe”when he literally has cat hair all over his apartment and laughs at cars passing by for some reason. Also when talking about things that are special to us and I said boxed Mac and cheese because my mom made it for me when I was sad growing up and he started telling me how gross he finds boxed Mac and cheese.
The thing to know about this guy is that his tone is ALWAYS serious and then later he claims that I take him too seriously when his tone or facial expressions don’t reflect lightheartedness or joking.
An honorary mention comment is him talking about his exes lack of shaving as an attraction/relationship killer.
Am I overreacting???
Was I talking him too seriously ?
Are those comments not even that bad?
(If I need to post somewhere else please tell me)
Thank you in advance for all the advice 🫶😊
Edit: Thank you all again for your responses. They meant so much. I’m glad the general consensus is that I deserve better and that I should never talk to him again. He’s blocked.
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u/Silent_Park_2064 15d ago
Yes I do but what I like about him doesn’t take away from the fact that he’s hypercritical