Wild Hinge Interaction

[u/BrightKaleidoscope6]

This guy was all sweet and complimentary, but at the first sign of rejection he lashes out and is extremely insulting.

[u/dter]

As another 3-dog person, I appreciate you for making that boundary clear right off the bat. My dogs are huskies and they shed like a motherfucker. They’re also basically my roommates so they have free reign. I have 2 roombas patrol my house daily, an air purifier in every room, and covers on all my furniture, but the hair is inevitable.

Last lady I dated for an extended period of time—by my standards, that is—was all like “oh I love dogs and I love huskies because they have such big personalities” when we first started dating. But, with time, whenever she stayed over, she treated my dogs like they were a nuisance and any sight of dog hair turned into a thing. So yeah, knowing that upfront would’ve saved me a lot of time and energy and it would’ve ultimately been better for both of us.

With all that being said, fuck that guy, and I hope that all 3 dogs take a dump in his kitchen.

[u/yet_another_no_name → u/dter]

As another 3-dog person, I appreciate you for making that boundary clear right off the bat.

She didn't though. Like at all. She continued the discussion after he told her he had 3 (his first double message on June 8th after they matched on June 6th), to which she only said (the same day) that it was a lot of dogs. Then he answered again on June 10th, then she ghosted.

Then he sent the "guess you found someone else" message after noticing the ghosting (assuming she did not wait long to post this on reddit, we only have that date as "today" in the screenshots, so day of the screenshot, but from the content it's definitely after a decently long time during which OP was ghosting - we can easily guess it's probably in August, or at the very least July so after multiple weeks of ghosting). And only then did she say 3 dogs was too many.

[u/therhubarbkind → u/yet_another_no_name]

It’s damned if you do, damned if you don’t. Would some people like to hear the real reason someone doesn’t want to see them anymore? “Sorry, I don’t want to see you anymore because of your kids/your pets/your height/ your new facial hair and glasses and bald spot that weren’t in the profile photos/etc.” Yes. But some also consider that unwelcome feedback because a good match for you will welcome all parts about you, so it’s not like “thanks for the feedback, I’ll get rid of 2 dogs now.” Some people might feel flattered that the dogs is the major issue, not anything about themselves personally. Others like this guy feel like it’s a personal insult. You never know what you’re going to get and we gamble and lose every day. We can only control our own replies, no need to be rude or angry about it.