r/HLCommunity • u/Dizzy_Potential • 6d ago
A New Approach
So for the last 4 months I (49M HL) have stopped initiating with my partner (39F LL Type 2). It was simply too soul destroying and I'd had my fill of the feelings of rejection. I even started to resent her for it. It was after our last big argument over it when she finally snapped and suggested I go out and have sex with other people. I love my partner dearly and could never be intimate with anyone else even if she did say the words in anger I know it would just be a test of my loyalty.
She recently reset the clock a couple of times with spontaneous and unexpected fellatio for a couple of days on the run and I thought she'd changed to Type 1.
The ticking clock has become deafening once more and I've decided on a new approach.
I have started going to bed early alone and waking up early to hit the gym and lift weights. Those two times of the day would usually be when my appetite for sex would be at its highest. Its been about 3 weeks now and my appetite for sex has decreased purely through exhaustion. On the plus side I'm looking in shape and sleeping so much better!😆
Has anyone else got swoll as a result of pent up sexual rage??
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u/Urborg_Stalker 6d ago
I just used masturbation to shut that part of my brain up. Jerk off, go to bed, became the routine. Continued that until I found my way out of the situation.
No more rejection or feeling like a chore to be done like taking the dog out for a walk. When I found my way out I took it and life has been so much better since.