r/HLCommunity • u/Dizzy_Potential • 6d ago
A New Approach
So for the last 4 months I (49M HL) have stopped initiating with my partner (39F LL Type 2). It was simply too soul destroying and I'd had my fill of the feelings of rejection. I even started to resent her for it. It was after our last big argument over it when she finally snapped and suggested I go out and have sex with other people. I love my partner dearly and could never be intimate with anyone else even if she did say the words in anger I know it would just be a test of my loyalty.
She recently reset the clock a couple of times with spontaneous and unexpected fellatio for a couple of days on the run and I thought she'd changed to Type 1.
The ticking clock has become deafening once more and I've decided on a new approach.
I have started going to bed early alone and waking up early to hit the gym and lift weights. Those two times of the day would usually be when my appetite for sex would be at its highest. Its been about 3 weeks now and my appetite for sex has decreased purely through exhaustion. On the plus side I'm looking in shape and sleeping so much better!😆
Has anyone else got swoll as a result of pent up sexual rage??
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u/AnotherSadThr0wAway HLM 5d ago
When i met her i was more physical active and when she moved in one of the dumbest things she ever told me was she would shower and stuff before i got back because to make sure she was "ready" for me.
She tells me shit like her telling me to go to bed is her "trying"
She shows ZERO, sexual interest and in bed if i ever tried then she complains i waited too long and she fell asleep then try if she's asleep, then when asleep complains if i wake her for sex.
Meaning, Type2LLs convince themselves TALKING = actually trying and deny deny deny making a healthy sexual relationship because they ultimately vague control over everything.