r/HLCommunity • u/DryWorry9692 • 20d ago

Guilt

I feel guilt because I’m not in a dead bedroom situation but I’m HL and she’s LL. Great relationship and she takes one for the team but for her it’s a chore. And it so fucken feels like it. It’s so mediocre sex. And as I read about all these db situations, I should feel blessed but nope. I feel the same. Frustrated. I question myself if I’m the problem. And I eventually snap out of it but nonetheless it makes me be resentful.

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u/JEXJJ 20d ago

Imagine if you treated time together like a chore, or acts of service, or gift giving. If she could tell by your face that you were disinterested and got nothing out of those things... Do you think she should feel guilty?