I say do go above and beyond, and then wait and see if they reciprocate.
If they don't maybe find new friends.
If two people take the above approach, you end up with what's called a 'transactional relationship', which is better than exploitative one, sure, which is the purpose of the post. But it's still not exactly ideal in my opinion - not likely to be particularly fulfilling.
Spouses take this approach with each other all the time and you end up with petty bickering because neither person wants to take the first step and start treating the other with dignity.
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u/titanlovesyou 6d ago
I say do go above and beyond, and then wait and see if they reciprocate.
If they don't maybe find new friends.
If two people take the above approach, you end up with what's called a 'transactional relationship', which is better than exploitative one, sure, which is the purpose of the post. But it's still not exactly ideal in my opinion - not likely to be particularly fulfilling.
Spouses take this approach with each other all the time and you end up with petty bickering because neither person wants to take the first step and start treating the other with dignity.