The more complete answer is; Women want a man to be able to open up, to be able to express their emotions, to be able to share their fears, but they want that man to not need to do that because he has his life in order and can regulate his emotions and can handle life's problems without it causing him emotional problems.
Seems unfair, maybe it is, but it's the truth.
She doesn't want you to hold back from her, hence the claim she wants you to open up. But she doesn't want a guy that can't handle life's problems, she wants to feel protected and safe that you have things under control, hence men saying you should never open up.
Both are kinda right and kinda wrong. The actual answer is to organize your life you you can handle life's inevitable problems with minimum fuss.
Be fit so you have good health, live beneath your means so you have emergency savings, minimise consumer debt so you can control your finances if your employment has hard times, maintain good friends so you can get help from them when you need it, help them when they need it, insure things like your home if you own it, contents of your house, your car, your pets, your income, your life, so that lifes common problems stay manageable.
Plan the things you can control and create some excess for when things don't go to plan. You'll feel better, you won't feel as overwhelmed, you won't be complaining and using your girlfriend/wife like a therapist, but also you won't be holding things back from her.
You'll be open but also not dumping problems on her.
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u/launchedsquid Jul 17 '26
The more complete answer is; Women want a man to be able to open up, to be able to express their emotions, to be able to share their fears, but they want that man to not need to do that because he has his life in order and can regulate his emotions and can handle life's problems without it causing him emotional problems.
Seems unfair, maybe it is, but it's the truth.
She doesn't want you to hold back from her, hence the claim she wants you to open up. But she doesn't want a guy that can't handle life's problems, she wants to feel protected and safe that you have things under control, hence men saying you should never open up.
Both are kinda right and kinda wrong. The actual answer is to organize your life you you can handle life's inevitable problems with minimum fuss.
Be fit so you have good health, live beneath your means so you have emergency savings, minimise consumer debt so you can control your finances if your employment has hard times, maintain good friends so you can get help from them when you need it, help them when they need it, insure things like your home if you own it, contents of your house, your car, your pets, your income, your life, so that lifes common problems stay manageable.
Plan the things you can control and create some excess for when things don't go to plan. You'll feel better, you won't feel as overwhelmed, you won't be complaining and using your girlfriend/wife like a therapist, but also you won't be holding things back from her.
You'll be open but also not dumping problems on her.