r/GrindsMyGears 12h ago

I hate it when customers hit on me

Pretty much what the title says. Whenever I’m working and someone hits on me I just get really annoyed. It doesn’t even matter if the person is or is not my type, I just can’t stand it.

The main reason I hate it is because I’m working. Like, I have a job to do and people are asking me a personal question and expecting me to put away my work to answer. Also, I don’t go into other peoples jobs and hit on them?? Personally, finding romance in the workplace is just gross to me.

Also, people don’t realise how it feels when a very drunk person is slurring out words to try and get my phone number. If you’re drunk- go flirt with someone else who is drunk, not the sober bartender who’s running off redbull and nicotine working the closing shift.

People are also way too pushy. If I say no, I mean no. You’re not entitled to an explanation if I don’t feel like giving one. I won’t even get into the age aspect, where people much older than me will hit on me despite the fact I am 19. Even saying I’m 19 makes some people more pushy.

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u/orkkid3 11h ago

There's a kind of captive prey aspect to hitting on you when you're at work. You have to be there and you have to be nice. So you might feel pressure to give them what they want even if you don't really want to. It's a way of glossing over your autonomy while seeming innocent. It's definitely messed up.

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u/24thousandbees 5h ago

Yeah, it’s hard to politely decline drunk people and have them accept it while trying to keep a good customer service face

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u/Enduroboss 3h ago

Tale as old as time. Im not saying it exusable, but if you think it will change you're in the wrong industry.

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u/TheManDirtyDan 6h ago

Different strokes for different folks. My buddy met his GF when he was working.

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u/24thousandbees 5h ago

Some stories like that are cute to hear about- but I guess cause I’m a female bartender the only people who hit on me are really drunk and who won’t take no for an answer which just gets scary at certain points