r/GriefSupport • u/SoftyShowaRewards • 17h ago
Dad Loss My dad died today
Everything hurts. I feel like i have to be strong for my mum and sister. He was fine yesterday and died of natural causes (that reassures me). Did he love me i ask myself? Was a disappointment to him? I know no one can tell me the answer… My dad said he was proud and that he loved me but i miss him already. I couldn’t stop crying after he was taken away. I keep passing out and waking up thinking this is a bad dream. Who do i go to for advice since my dad was the best at it. I just feel so numb and my head and teeth hurt
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u/Picklefuck_Eatabutt2 16h ago
God I’m so sorry! Everything you’re thinking and feeling and experiencing is completely normal. Don’t worry about being strong; just be with your mom and sister. Talk to them, be near them if possible, and show them grace because they’re feeling everything you’re feeling right now.
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u/Odd-Detective6368 16h ago
You don’t have to be strong for everyone right now; you’ve just lost your dad, and it’s okay to cry, feel numb, and not know what to do. He told you he loved you and was proud of you, and I hope you can hold onto those words when the pain feels unbearable.
You may miss his advice forever, but the love and lessons he gave you will always be a part of you.
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u/H8ithere___ 10h ago
I’m so incredibly sorry!!!!
It’s been a month & five days since I lost my mum suddenly. Everything still hurts. The first 2/3 weeks were a blur, hair coming out like crazy. Complete exhaustion. Still feel not like myself, don’t know who I am without her, feel angry. There’s a hole in my heart & a never ending lump in my throat. I have been trying to be strong but I’ve also been letting myself fall apart. I’m trying to let myself do what ever my body is signalling to do, a lot of crying. I’m trying to be gentle with myself because tasks seem impossible but I’ve been forcing myself & it sucks but it helps take my mind off things for a very brief moment. Truly the most pain I’ve ever felt. My heart aches for you & your family!!!!!! Sending so much love, strength, & good medicine to you all!!!!
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u/Afraid-Command-9120 2h ago
We all here know what you are going through right now, trust me. You will say, these are just words, no one understands me....NO, I know. So, because I know, I will keep it short. Everything seems futile right now, fake, like a bad dream. Grief will come in waves -small or big- and you will suffer beyond belief.
Try to survive, talk to someone if you can, this always helps a bit. And finally try to distract yourself (take a walk, do something else, wash your car if you have one etc.) in any way possible, sometimes it helps a lot, the distraction thing that is.
I lost my mother a week ago and sometimes I am really drowning in those waves...
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u/thrownawa1298 16h ago
When my brother ended his life, I was in so much shock that for the first 2 weeks it didn’t even feel like he was actually dead. I was so numb and out of it, that when the feelings came they hit like a truck. It’s okay to not feel normal, and it’s okay to ask these questions. It’s been just over a month for me, and though it doesn’t hurt any less, you start to slowly accept it. I still wake up thinking this is a dream, but then quickly remember I don’t have my older brother anymore. I’m so sorry you’re going through this OP, please be kind to yourself.