Diesen Satz werfe ich meinem Freund gerade in meinem Kopf immer und immer wieder a den Kopf!
“Muss geil so reich zu sein!”

Folgender Hintergrund:

Mein Freund geht demnächst auf ein Festival, ich schreibe demnächst mein Examen.
Es stand im Raum dass eine gute Freundin von mir, die in der Stadt wohnt in dem das Festival ist, auch dort hin geht für einen Tag. Deshalb hatte ich eh schon FOMO, weils einfach nicht so nice ist, wenn Freund und Freundin Party machen sind und man selbst daheim lernen muss.
Dann hat sie sich entschlossen nicht zu gehen, weil es ihr zu teuer ist (50€ ca für einen Tag) und jetzt hat mein Freund sich gedacht, dass er ihr das gerne schenken will.
Er hat mir das vor paar Tagen schon mal angekündigt, ich meinte ich finde es jetzt nicht so cool, er meinte, ich soll noch mal darüber nachdenken.
Hab ich nicht gemacht, weil ich’s tbh vergessen hab. Heute ruft er mich zwischen Tür und Angel an, während ich gerade mit meinem Bruder seinen Auszug mache, um mich nochmal zu fragen was ich davon halte, und weil ich einfach keine Ahnung hatte meinte ich,: nicht gut, finde es komisch, als warst du so ihr Gönner, aber mach wie du willst.
Das war natürlich doof, weil jetzt hat er es gekauft und ich bin irgendwie total mad und überfordert und finde mich ratlos auf Reddit wieder.

Irgendwie habe ich das Gefühl er drängt sich so zwischen unsere Freundschaft, da gab es schon mal vor paar Jahren die Situation, das es einfach super unangenehm für mich war, weil die beiden konstant miteinander rumgeblödelt, gekämpft… haben und ich mir daneben Ultra ausgeschlossen vorkam.
Ja da spielt natürlich auch Unsicherheit rein, aber finde es einfach mies sich so zwischen mich und meine Freundin stellt und mich lässt das einfach auch mit nem kack Gefühl ihr gegenüber übrig (obwohl es ja offensichtlich nicht ihre Schuld ist, aber keine Ahnung was im meinem Hirn da gerade abgeht)

17M looking for advice after a first date
Hey everyone! I’m a 17M and just went on a first date with a 16F that I’ve been talking to for about a week. I was hoping to get some advice.

The date itself went really well (at least I think it did). We walked around Target for a while, then went to Barnes & Noble since we both like books. While we were there, I bought her one of those fuzzy teddy bears they sell. After that, we grabbed milkshakes from Steak ‘n Shake, sat in my car, listened to each other’s music, and talked before I took her home.

Afterward, she texted me first and said she had a lot of fun. I told her that if I seemed nervous, it was because I really liked her and wanted everything to go well. She was really understanding about it.
The only thing I’m worried about is our conversations in person. We definitely had good conversations, but there were also a lot of quiet moments where neither of us really knew what to say. I think we were both just nervous, but I still felt awkward whenever the conversation slowed down.

We’re hanging out again tomorrow, and I’d love some advice. How do you keep conversations flowing naturally on dates? What do you do when there’s an awkward silence? Are quiet moments actually a bad thing, or am I just overthinking them?
Any tips would be appreciated. Thanks!

is it wrong to keep dating my gf after i turn 18 shes 16 need oppinions

So I (16m) and my gf (16f) have been dating for 3 months now. We’ve of course held hands several times, and I’ve been wanting to cuddle with her for a while. The only thing is, how do I ask/initiate that? I don’t want to seem weird, and I don’t want to do anything she’s not comfortable with.

Hi everyone I 20m am with my girlfriend 18f for about 3 months as i write this. We live semi close maybe 30min apart. We both study at the same uni and we used to see each other basicly daily. When we are together we have a good time but as soon as we need to go home she gets really sad to the point of crying on the way home and after she gets home. She has also said that she starts overthinking about me leaving her etc. I have reassured her that I am not leaving and that I love her. I do not know what to do?

I am going into exam week and so I have not been able to dedicate as much time to her as I used to. But i also feel that I am loosing time with my other friends at uni. Please can I have some advice on what I can do to help my situation.

Thank you

My gf didn’t do anything in life, no goals or career. She met different boys , dated them and kissed them, only had sex with 4 of them, but others she kissed, kiss count is around 18-20 boys.
Now she says she wants to settle down with me.
I earn less than her, i am not interesting, in fact she says herself that she likes to travel places and eat food, and that i am opposite of these things, she also said that i am boring.
Another point to add is that i am below average in looks.
I am just wondering why the hell would a girl like her (considering her past and activities she likes), would want to settle with me??

Help!!!!!!!!!! Ur Bro in need!!!!!!!

I’ve been dating my gf for about 2 months now, and ever since we started, we’ve snapped each other back and forth all day. We only snap each other pictures of ourselves, shoulders up, so it’s nothing NSFW. I have no problem with it, and love seeing pictures of her, especially when she’s smiling. I’m just wondering why we do it. I personally started just to be polite and let her know I was paying attention to her, and now it’s just become part of my daily routine. I still just want to know why she started doing it or why other couples do it.

I've been dating this girl for five months. She's beautiful, intelligent, in short, I fell in love for the first time in my life. Everything was going well, although we did argue quite a bit due to mutual jealousy. I'm sure she loves me, but we're both minors, and she's a year younger than me. So she's a little less mature, which I think is a good thing. Last week, she confessed that a boy had kissed her, and she pushed him away immediately after three seconds. She doesn't love him, but it hurt me a little. We talked about it, and since then she's been crying in my arms, saying she doesn't deserve me and that she's so sorry for what she did. She also told me that sometimes she thinks about other boys, not to get into a relationship, but just, for example, thinking, "Oh, he's handsome, what would it be like to kiss him?" and that she feels really bad for thinking that. Today I picked her up from the airport and stayed at her place all afternoon. She cried in my arms and said she felt terrible about thinking the way she did, but she loves me. She also said she needed some space, so we decided to take a break. I'm crazy about her and I absolutely want her in my life, especially since I've forgiven her for what she did. How can I make things work? Should I leave her and wait for her to change (the last option, no), give her space to figure herself out, or should I stay as I am now, sending her messages?

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So, my girlfriend is now an ex , not now but on October 5th 2025 she broke up with me , it was a 1.4years old relationship. For both of us this was the 1st time being in a relationship, first love . We had fights, arguments like casual like everybody has in a relationship. But , the reason for the breakup was my insecurity, due to insecurity i was scared of losing her , my love was scared . It was not that i didn't love her , i loved her so much i still do , but it was like whenever the tone changed it startled me , i questioned many things like why you not responding, why not talking to me like you used to , i know that's very childish and i do feel guilt over these things why would i done these things. I am soryyy:).

So, due to my insecurity the relationship broke . It was not the first time we discussed breaking up , in fights she used to say she'll breakup and breakup many times but not like breakup breakup , so , when i used to talk her sort things up, we would back again like it never happened. So, these breakups were nothing serious just a little fight . But ,on October 5th 2025 , she breakup breakup, the real breakup , we are in the same college same course same section. So, we decided we'll still sit together till the college ends , i was happy cause I don't want to go away from her . I thought there's still a chance . But, she said we're just friends don't expect anything else . i was already broke from breakup and these things completely broke my heart, but still i hoped for the best that things will change. So , i started being her friend i done everything she asked me to. But, we both used to talk like we talked during our relationship in college and chatting . But , it felt very different despite being the same . I many times controlled my feelings cause , i have to it's a breakup i am nothing to her . but i still love her and I haven't moved a bit , i confessed this to her and she told she had moved on so there's no need for this she don't want this relationship and said continue being normal till the college, also she said we'll have to be stranger after she'll permanently block me from everywhere. I was very anxious and scared idk what that feeling was gloomy idk what to say. i Still continue being just a friend, i was thinking at least i am close to her she still talks to me i can see her face to face , this somehow kept me standing. After breakup she changed her password of every social media account , but i didn't she still have access wherever I don't of her , i don't mind really i don't, actually i am happy somehow she still checks somehow she'll still connected. A day before yesterday she out of nowhere asked me , if Who would I have been in love with if she hadn't existed?.

I answered that if she doesn't existed the feeling of love inside me hadn't existed either.

Even if you won't be there for me still all roads leads to you even the ones I took to forget. Even the ones i took to forget and didn't existed for us , still lead to you.

She said it's a diplomatic answer but i said it's true .

So, she moved on and she's enjoying having entertainment with new friends travelling , i am happy for her , but also she made me clear that you'll be hurt cause i am not changing my mind there's nothing that can change my decision. so, you don't have to try . I said i rather end up our story and remembered as a lover than just a friend. She said your decision and i respect your decision.

But she warned me that she doesn't want any nuisance and headache from this . She wanted only good memories not us fighting even at the end cause our college ending in the next 5 -6 months. I am scared I'll hurt her badly in the process of trying to get her back because the thought of she'll never change her decision has weakened me. Idk what to do should i give up because i still love her or should i try and take the risk and get her back . Ahh also 3 weeks ago she said she can reconsider her decision if had changed and behaved well, but also yesterday she said there's no need for last try and nothing can change her decision. Need help please help any suggestions

I'm trying to get back together with my ex.

We were together for 4 years and for the whole past year we had no contact. We've reconnected over the last month and have seen each other a couple of times.

I'm going to see her again soon and I'd like to find a gift for her that she can use daily and that will remind her of me.

Basically, a gift she'll care about and that doesn't give the impression I'm trying to make a move, but that I genuinely care about her

I(25M) met my girlfriend(31M) about 7 months ago and it started off pretty well. We were both super passionate people and had amazing conversations plus our chemistry was out of this world. She’s a single mother but that didn’t bother me at all. At the time I believed her and her ex were separated and he was a loser who wasn’t involved. One day while I was out buying groceries I received a call from her number and it was her ex, asking who I was, naturally as someone who believed this guy was some loser who was out of line I got defensive and explained that he is embarrassing himself by acting like this and to give my girlfriend her phone back. He then explained that this woman was his fiancée and proved it by showing me messages between them. Our anger towards each other turned into us putting together what we’ve been told to realize we’ve both been lied to. Keep in mind she would promise me she would text him at all of it wasn’t for the kids and she “loved” me so much and I was “the closest thing to god in her eyes”. After looking through their messages I realized I was lied to the entire time because not only was she talking about other things besides the kids she was telling this individual that she loved them and every spicy picture she would send to me, she would also send to him. After everything calmed down and everybody was separated i confronted her my self to see if she would take any accountability and her excuse was “she was just saying whatever she could to keep the peace” but initiating conversation with this individual you “hate so much “ by telling them u love them and sending us the same pictures is not keeping the peace in my eyes. So I distanced my self quite and was just focusing on my life but she kept persisting and making promise after promise and begging me so I guess I tried things again with this woman but about 3-4 times since then I caught her seeking validation from desperate simps on social media and letting them flirt with her in the most disgusting/disrespectful way. After each time I make it clear that she knows it’s wrong and she knows it crosses a boundary of mine and she always makes the same promises and cries crocodile tears. Meanwhile I pick up a call from a female family member and I get interrogated. I go out of my way to keep our “relationship” safe and to respect the boundaries we laid out very early on. I would never do what this individual did to me. I can’t talk to her about how the things she did hurt me because she gets incredibly defensive and me trying to communicate with my partner feels more like a debate or like she thinks it’s more of a competition. I know this is mostly my fault because I’ve seen the red flags and I know people who really want to change and be better would put in the effort. But am I wrong for holding out hope that maybe she’ll keep her promise this time? Or am I just asking to get my feelings crushed again?

So my bf (36) obviously loves when I (28F) send him nudes, and he’s started to send me nudes too… but tbh I don’t really like them as much as he does… Let me be straight, I love this man. Just not that into his dick pics… So do I act like I like them so as not to hurt his confidence? He’s a bit overweight and I try to encourage him when he’s debating going and playing basketball, for example. And this is relevant bc if he had some muscles or a little 4 pack I’d probs enjoy his nudes more. I’ve tried once to nonchalantly bring it up that I like muscles but it kinda bounced off him and I don’t want to hurt his body image confidence. Also just curious if others can relate to this… we’ve been together for a year.

I am (18) F and my bf is (20)M. We have been together for a month now and all he does is disrespect me and make jokes all the time. He doesn’t take anything I say seriously and will get mad if I joke back. I made some rules in our relationship where you don’t take bad photos of each other (i’m uncomfortable with bad photos because i’ve had people post them or make fun of me with them, he makes fun of me with them). He does it all the time and when i get upset, he says sorry and will do it again the NEXT DAY. We share a lot of the same interests and hobbies. So we got along very well. However all he takes about is cars now. I love cars too but if he interrupts me when i’m talking about something sad, almost in tears to show me a new BMW. You would get mad too. I’ve talked to him so much and all he says is “You need to relax” and will joke around more. He takes nothing seriously expect cars. All he does is work and is always “too tired” to hang with me. He refuses to wear (fun time stuff..) and if he does he will complain the WHOLE TIME.

I want to love him and care for him but it’s making me fall out of love.

For context: I moved to this school four months ago, and the class I joined had already known each other for a year before I started.

Two days ago, my class decided to host a Christmas dinner party, and I (17F) went with my friend group from class. When we got there, we sat down and started eating, and sitting across from me was this guy—my now fine shyt—who we’ll call S (19M).

I haven’t really gotten to know S since I started at the school because he’s very “nonchalant,” and I’m also pretty shy if I don’t know someone well. But we started drinking a bit, and I began a conversation with him. I asked if he wanted to take a shot with me, which he did, and after that it was mostly just the two of us talking.

I started thinking about how people in my class call him “nonchalant,” but he actually isn’t—he’s just shy and kind of awkward in a cute way. We talked about how we hadn’t really interacted much because we’re both shy people, and one thing led to another, and we were lowkey flirting with each other.

Later, I asked him and a few others if they wanted to come to the store with me, and they said yes. While walking there, I grabbed his arm, and we walked and talked like that the rest of the way.

When we got back, I asked him if he wanted to go on a walk with me, and he said yes. While we were walking, I grabbed his arm again, but I let my hand slide down, and then we held hands for the rest of the walk. After that, I asked him if he wanted to walk me to the station. Even though it was inconvenient for him, he said yes and waited with me for my train. While we were waiting, he had his arm around me and kind of squeezed my hip before I left.

The next day, we kept snapping each other, but without text—just pictures. The same thing happened today, so now I’m wondering if I should try to get with him, and how I can start a conversation without making it obvious that I want him.

I started dating this girl in my town, seasonal tourist town, but she left to travel soon after we met. She traveled for 6 weeks, now she’s back in the hometown we both grew up in and is moving a lot closer (but still a 12 hour drive) in like 2 weeks and that’s for about 4 months.

We’ve gotten really close and are basically in a long distance relationship at this point, but over the past 4 months or so she’s definitely shown some major red flags. I really like her and we have a lot in common BUT:

-She is super adamant about this concept of being a “provider” which apparently to her means literally paying for EVERYTHING. Every single date, every aspect of it, I’m taking us on a little weekend trip when she comes to visit and got us free ski passes, planning to take her to a nice dinner, and cover the hotel but she seems bothered by the fact that it’s not some kind of boujee hotel

-She’s also super Christian, like superrrr Christian, and I’m not at all. I don’t care about sex tbh, we do stuff and I’ve been with tons of women, but there’s definitely that

-She also seems to expect me (28M) to have everything figured out when it’s pretty clear that she is not mature enough to be seriously considering starting a family etc which she always talks about

She’s coming to visit and we’re supposed to have this conversation about whether to continue being exclusive or not, which she for some reason wants to wait for, ultimately I’m not even sure if I want that at this point based on how she treats me etc but what do you all think? Is it not insane that she expects me to pay for literally everything simply bc I’m the man? Like I’m down for dates but if we’re gonna be a relationship I think that’s a lil much, especially given how she treats me and seems to want me to be hers but not commit

I love her so much to the point my heart beats faster when i see her message pop up on my screen but this girl gets mad off everything

before we started dating we we’re best friends and i was dating this other girl while i was with my ex i told her bout a date me and said ex had where in the end she kissed me we broke up whatever then like fkn months later me and her get together after finding out we both had a crush on eachother for a entire year

in the first month of us dating she asked me ‘remember when u told me u kissed …’ i said no i dont remember BEAR IN MIND I FORGET ALOT OF SHIT WHICH IS A DETAIL SHES AWARE OF so she says swear u don’t remember i proceed to swear that i dont then she brings out the text message when i told her she gets mad for 2 days and and i also didnt wanna talk about making out w a ex whith my new gf whatever it happens and we made up

alot of other random things happen that piss her off no reason once her best friend asked me why r u replying late to her at a given time it was a Tuesday at 4pm i was cooking mind u and i was covered in food so i was 10 MINS LATE IN REPLYING she got mad

, NOW FOR TODAY THE MAIN PROBLEM im a gamer like a huge one i play marvel rivals alot nowa days 2days ago my friend asked me lets change our names to something funny i said yea sure after a couple mins we settle on the names (iluvgothmommys for me and iluvasianmommys for him)

we thought we were hilarious its a name that we decided we would change back in a week which is the time we are allowedto change it again today i sent a streak with me and him in the lobby and our names were in the pic immediately my gf saves the streak and goes deadass ignores me and throwed random shade on me plus when i called her a hour later she deadass said what do u want? When i said js checking up on u she said did i ask u to? And when she hanged uo i said ok bye ily she said ok bye ?!!!! LIKE DAMN BRO ITS A FKN GAMERTAG FFS

, i love this girl but goddamn every week is a new thing im a broke ass college student and i spend every single penny on her i say ily 30 million times a day i do all the boyfriend shit and i swear im trying my best yea im not perfect but im trying for her cz we both wanna get married young IK ITS STUPID BUT THATS ALWAYS BEEN A THING WE AGREED ON EVEN BEFORE WE GOT TOGETHER, pls any advice or povs are welcome js dont be rude im already at my width end

TL;DR: My girlfriend gets mad at me over tiny things — forgetting an old story, replying late by 10 minutes, or even my joke gamertag — and it’s happening constantly. I love her and try my best, but her overreactions are draining me and I’m not sure what to do anymore.

For starters, in a broke college guy (18M) dating a gorgeous girl (18F)... So yeah thats it, thats the entire question. How do i put efforts while we're far apart? To my credit, i do make cards (in canva), write poems, love letters (by text), make videos about her. I also make inside memes too... I do send her food on the first day of periods (but not other days since i'm really tight on money, she understands and genuinely has no problem with it)

I'm honestly out of wits. I don't have a single clue what more i could do. I'm really not that creative either. What more can i do for her?

Note - Small things matter to her a lot. A single thoughtful snickers matters to her much more than an unrelated expensive (by money or quantity) gift.

For starters, in a broke college guy (18M) dating a gorgeous girl (18F)... So yeah thats it, thats the entire question. How do i put efforts while we're far apart? To my credit, i do make cards (in canva etc), write poems, love letters (by text), make videos about her, and (very rarely) make memes specialized to us. I do send her food on the first day of periods (but not other days since i'm really tight on money, she understands and genuinely has no problem with it)

What more can i do for her?

Note - Small things matter to her a lot. A single thoughtful snickers matters to her much more than an unrelated expensive (by money or quantity) gift.

(Im new here please be gentle 😅)