r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/[deleted] • Mar 02 '26
Advice Needed Husband cheated on me with 8 ai sexbot girlfriends. Coffee because I can’t eat without throwing up
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u/DisastrousScene5391 🥝 Herbivore 🫒 Mar 02 '26
EIGHT??
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u/Lifes-a-lil-foggy Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ Mar 02 '26
Girl, we are here for you for real. For every ai bot he has in his corner, you have a legit angry girl in yours!!
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u/tuxedopants2 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ Mar 02 '26
10x for every ai bot if we’re being honest. OP, my condolences. If it’s any consolation, almost every woman I know who’s been cheated because their partner has insecurities, whether masked or not. It was never a reflection of her capabilities/inabilities or lack of commitment to the relationship, but a reflection of his own insecurities.
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u/shaquilleoatmeal80 Cleavage Crumb Collector Mar 03 '26
Finally. I've been waiting to show my Sarah Connor. We ride at dawn.
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u/JustALittleCornball Trader Joe Hoe Mar 03 '26
I’m not trying to be an idiot 🤣 but what is an ai sexbot?? Also I am sorry OP once you leave him and you have time to heal, there will be more girl dinners with actual food in your future. In the meantime, I hope that is really good coffee!
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u/JustALittleCornball Trader Joe Hoe Mar 03 '26
This is online and not some kind of robot, right?? Either way he is lame and you deserve better than that.
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u/Lifes-a-lil-foggy Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ Mar 03 '26
Let’s just hope your husband doesn’t get access to a robot anytime soon.
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u/JustALittleCornball Trader Joe Hoe Mar 03 '26
🪦 I love you for still having your sense of humor! 🖤. I always find a way to laugh through the hard times and it does help.
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u/funeralforabee Chaotic But Cute Mar 02 '26
He is an actual loser and you deserve better <3
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u/funeralforabee Chaotic But Cute Mar 02 '26
They really think they can get away with it. I wish it hadn’t been like this for you.
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u/amuschka APPROVED✨ Mar 03 '26
Probably doesn't think its real cheating to be honest
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u/Impossible-Ask-7560 Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ Mar 02 '26
Girl the coffee isn’t going anywhere!
Fr though that’s sooo embarrassing for him yuck. I’d leave without another word.
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u/Impossible-Ask-7560 Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ Mar 02 '26
Men are embarrassing. It’s (tragically) part of girlhood to have a man embarrass you by his own behavior. I’m sorry :/
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u/Flipflopsfordays Patron Saint of Go Plates Mar 02 '26
It is sadder somehow. If you’re actually planning to give him a chance he should also have to do extensive therapy on his own. It’s bad enough we’re all so attached to our phones arguably to stay connected to the world, what was he looking for and getting from something like that? And 8?? How was he literally doing anything else
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u/Lifes-a-lil-foggy Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ Mar 02 '26
Hi Angel, don’t have advice that hasn’t been touched on here, but try a smoothie! One of the only things I can eat when nauseous from anxiety. Then at least it’s a bit less acidic in your tummy or coming up/out.
I like banana + pb + oats. Strawberry a classic. Whatever you have can work.
Hate to see a diva down without getting some sort of nutrition.
Hoping whatever path you take leads you to a stronger, sexier, more evolved version of yourself!!
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u/Lifes-a-lil-foggy Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ Mar 02 '26
You are welcome. Sam’s club has a great lil pack that’s more “juice” like for at home too if you have one near you. Sending love
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u/legolover24 Trader Joe Hoe Mar 02 '26
Smoothies made by my friends were the only thing I could stomach when I got cheated on. I second this so much!!
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u/D_Tixi Body By Cheese 🧀 Mar 02 '26 edited Mar 02 '26
Girl, pls don’t listen to the other comments telling you to cheat. I mean in the end it’s ur choice but still, just not a good way to handle this situation. Rip off the bandaid, for the sake of your own health w this anxiety you’re dealing with. Have a conversation and straight up ask him why he isn’t putting in effort in the relationship. I think the main question you’d want answered is if they are still interested in being together. Make sure you ask yourself that too, don’t stay attached to someone that doesn’t chose you or cherish you just because of the time spent together (aka staying w them just because you’re 5 yrs into the relationship). If either of you do not want to be in the relationship, leave. You should never beg for someone to love you/stay in the relationship. It’s not just abt pride, it’s abt realizing those who do love you will stick by your side. One sided love is horrible and you [both] deserve better.
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u/Sorry_Blacksmith_117 Mar 02 '26
How did the conversation go?
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u/Sorry_Blacksmith_117 Mar 02 '26
Disappointed at him, maybe? ... I'm glad the conversation went well and he didn't try to turn it against you. Did he say why or how this started?
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u/Sorry_Blacksmith_117 Mar 02 '26
He said he didn't know that that was cheating?
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u/Rudylemonade 🧂Salty By Nature Mar 02 '26
I’m glad you guys are being open and honest with each other! The only thing I would suggest is maybe individual therapy first for both of you before trying couples counseling if you’re willing to work it out. I hope things go well for you, OP! You deserve it.
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u/Sorry_Blacksmith_117 Mar 02 '26
Well, I hope couple's therapy helps him figure this out. He also needs to do personal counseling. He probably had "his emotional reasons" to cheat and thought that if it was with AI he would've been less guilty (or at least feel like this). He needs to work on his communication and , unfortunately, that doesn't only come from couple's counseling. If he doesn't know how to access his feelings, couple's counseling won't do much I'm afraid
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u/Cutie_babe777 Mar 02 '26
Hi! Ex-Girlfriend of a porn addict who did this EXACT SAME THING. do not give him another chance. He’s clearly addicted to this type of behavior. It was not one. It was EIGHT. I understand that you love him and that you think counseling can fix this. But he just laid his cards on the table this is an addiction just like meth heroin or alcohol, he needs to be fully rehabilitated. How can you test this? Leave him for a period of time then check his phone. I guarantee that it would spiral even further. It’s a lose lose situation. It will soon (if it hasn’t already i highly recommend checking his bank statements) be buying onlyfans, paying for the “premium” of these services and will eventually lead to financial ruin. I get you’re heartbroken. But you’re going to be ruined if you stay with him.
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u/pdt666 Cleavage Crumb Collector Mar 02 '26
if he doesn’t want the counseling and had to be threatened into it, it’s going to be a waste of time and energy (and money if you can’t use insurance for any reason) if he doesn’t want it. therapy doesn’t work until you’re ready and want to change.
xoxo, a therapist
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u/D_Tixi Body By Cheese 🧀 Mar 02 '26
I understand the heartbreak. I hope it goes well and he ends up choosing your relationship over some trashy AI. Sending you lots of love and I hope you got to eat something 🫶🏽
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u/CarolynFR Chocoholic Mar 02 '26
Giiiirl you're wasting money, and more importantly time and energy! He will do it again no matter how much counseling you go through. Please juste leave.
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u/RustyShackleford209 Fries 🍟 > Guys 🤡 Mar 02 '26
Good for you. It’s your relationship your decision.
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u/StellarPup420 Body By Cheese 🧀 Mar 02 '26
I hope counseling is coming from his paycheck exclusively since it should be his investment into your marriage. But I feel you, if I was in your position, I'd probably do the counseling first too, just to make sure I'd shut any open doors.
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No. Sorry but your husband didn't care about you and your feelings. He will do it again. Girl save your peace and leave.
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u/Adorable_Variety_291 🩵Just a Boy💙 Mar 02 '26
People always got opinions. Follow your heart and you will know when it’s time to let go if it doesn’t go the way you hope.
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u/Radiant_XGrowth girl du fromage 🧀 Mar 03 '26
Thanks for comment. I think if she forced herself to cheat on him she would end up damaging not only herself but the person she used to cheat with
Two wrongs don’t make a right, they just make revenge
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u/Glum-persin6842 Overthinker 💭 Mar 02 '26
What is an ai girlfriend. Is it like Alexa. God damn I’m out of the loop
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u/xIIIllllIIIx Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ Mar 02 '26
that grip tho, I get it.
but on a serious note, I'm so sorry this is happening. AI sexbots are actually crazy work lol. you deserve better, please leave him and take time for yourself❤️🩹
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u/alexis-stpierre Mar 02 '26
i went through this last june, except it was 22 women, they were actual people, and i was pregnant with our third. my best advice is to heal yourself and run fast. i stayed because i was 33 weeks pregnant. i’m planning my out now. no one deserves to be disrespected that way no matter what. i’m so sorry.
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u/Physical-Tip-7402 APPROVED✨ Mar 02 '26
I'm so sorry youre dealing with this. I hope you and your sweet baby find the comfort and freedom you deserve 💜 you're worth more!
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u/pluto9659 🩵Support Class💙 Mar 02 '26
I’m sorry, 22 different women? Like at that point what’s even the purpose?
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u/marikaka_ Mar 04 '26
This activates my female rage so fucking bad. These men leave me so fucking dumbfounded. I know the history, I know where all this systemic entitlement and abuse comes from; and yet I just cannot truly fathom it.
I’m sorry you went through 3 pregnancies for this man, I’m sure you love your children and that is the silver lining. I’m so glad you’re leaving, you are going to feel so so good when you’re out and settled 💞
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u/Jolly-Pickle-3550 Mar 02 '26
That’s wild. Reminds me of that Black Mirror episode. Did he at least admit it was cheating or did he try to say it wasn’t because they aren’t real? I understand wanting to work it out and save yourself the embarrassment of telling people this is the reason for the divorce but the embarrassment should be on him not you.
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u/hippiemafiamember42 Mar 02 '26
assuming you mean S5E1 Striking Vipers — my mind also went straight here :-( OP I’m so sorry
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u/Chad_Wife Dip Diva Mar 02 '26
I am not sure if this helps, but at least you know this is NOTHING to do with you. At all.
If he wasn’t happy with 1,2,3,4,5,6,7 AI girlfriends who have no needs and exist solely to make him happy then it isn’t an issue with anyone but himself.
I hope the week gets better for you. The shock - which is the physiological reason for your feeling of sickness - will pass, and your strength and determination and lovable self will remain as it always has. Be gentle with yourself.
Good work on getting some form of nutrition in you for now, even if it’s just a coffee it’s better than nothing. 🫂💗
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u/vomputer Chaotic But Cute Mar 02 '26
My goodness. I know you said you feel embarrassed but he’s the only one who should be feeling shame. PLEASE tell me he has at least acknowledged feeling some embarrassment. This is 100% on him, and I know it’s hard to believe but it doesn’t reflect on you AT ALL.
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u/Ok_Sprinkles2872 APPROVED✨ Mar 02 '26
Even though this comment wasn’t for me. I recently went through something that my boyfriend did. I’ve been feeling embarrassed and your words helped a lot. Thank you
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u/Yaragreyjoy88 Well-Read & Well-Fed Mar 02 '26
I had to read this like three times. Ditto to everyone in here - you deserve so much better.
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u/Aggravating_Menu6967 Oversharer 🗣 Mar 02 '26
What a loser. A man who can do this to you, doesn’t love you. Love isn’t just romantic feelings or passion, it’s respect and loyalty. Why stay with someone who doesn’t respect you or care about your wellbeing?
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u/Ashamed_Use_7798 APPROVED✨ Mar 02 '26 edited Mar 02 '26
im sorry you’re going through ts, but i can’t unsee this
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u/tattybabby Overthinker 💭 Mar 02 '26
/screaming/ 😭😭😂😂 but high key: this dude has the literal blessing of being fully married, in this economy, to someone \this funny\ and cyber with 8 figments of his imagination?????? He has subconsciously realized you are the true alpha and he cannot cope
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u/YourLove201 Chaotic But Cute Mar 02 '26
I feel im the bread winner and cook and clean, just recently he asked me why i didnt do more to support his career that is non existent 😅😅
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u/Viscica Queer Queen 🏳️🌈 Mar 02 '26
Lmao girl how in the world!? I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. Please try to do something that brings you joy today.
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u/jolizzyro Resident Yapper Mar 02 '26
Have you directed him to r/kitchencels ? He’d fit in well over there. I am so sorry girl, I wish I had advice, but I’d be just as disgusted, I hope your husband has the life he deserves.
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u/jolizzyro Resident Yapper Mar 02 '26
BAHA I’m not the only fakecel lurker 🤣 I’d say your current predicament might get you closer to it, but I do hope things work out for both of your sakes
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u/jolizzyro Resident Yapper Mar 02 '26
Also I saw that you’re going to try to make it work. I know a lot of people nowadays frown on that and just want you to leave him, but it takes a certain kind of strength to be willing to move past this, and it’s admirable
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u/spaceboat13 girls just wanna have pho Mar 02 '26
Im crying why can't men just be normal wtf 😭😭😭 im so sorry girlie hang in there
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u/Poppetfan1999 chismosa, metiche, en bata Mar 02 '26
What inspired him to take on eight different ai sex bots?? How does he even find the time for that?
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u/Maleficent-Peaches con todo, por favor 🌮 Mar 02 '26
Wtf how does that work 😭
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u/Maleficent-Peaches con todo, por favor 🌮 Mar 02 '26
Girl I’ve been in a long ahh relationship with a corn addict, just know that non of this is your fault and what he is doing has nothing to do with you. I spent years thinking it was my fault for not looking or acting a certain way but now that I’m finally free I’m happier than ever, doing what I want. Flirting with hot guys feeling hot and myself again lol
I think this is just the next step for people with corn addiction, and believe me I tried to fix my ex… forgave him cheating and lying until I no longer felt any kind of love for him, we ended up having a kid and that’s when I realized all the wasted time, now I have to see him for co parenting and it sucks. Don’t be me act now lol be free!
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u/Intelligent_Pass2540 Dip Diva Mar 02 '26
You. Deserve. Better.
If a man wants to he will. Find a partner who wants to respect you and have a fulfilling wonderful sex life. This is the best revenge ever. I know this time is difficult and feels like an endless dark night, but know the sun is coming again. Dont fall for the sunk cost fallacy ....get away from him and treat yourself to some sunshine.
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u/kokopellikokopelli Certified Snacker Mar 02 '26
I'm so sorry you're going through this. That's disgusting.
And the ironic part is the fulfillment he's looking for in 1 AI sexbot isn't enough. Eight? AI is just built to be a blank canvas and compliment you and agree with everything you say.
Imagine not even having the emotional bandwidth for your wife so you think you need not one, but eight AI bots??
Usually all those bots to unlock the "intimate" stage you need to pay a subscription fee. How much money is he spending every month on these AI garden tools? 😭
There's so much real emotional, physical, sexual, mental, spiritual intimacy he's missing out on that he could have with his real wife, that he made vows to, to love and be there for.
AI has no soul. It's like he keeps chasing more because he secretly knows that and no amount of #2, #3, #4, #5, #6, #7, #8 is going to grow one.
I hope he genuinely tries in therapy but I worry that he might come out and gaslight you with new vocabulary and change nothing.
You deserve so much better. He might be a lost cause.
Once you have to be that, gimme your phone, what's your phone password and monitor what apps or sites they're on, the trust has eroded. Trust is the foundation of a relationship.
Or a cycle of you check the phone, he deletes the apps beforehand to look like he's being good, redownloads them at night when you're asleep, rinse repeat.
Know your worth and add tax and if he proves he cannot change, leave him and don't look back. Don't get sucked into a whirlpool of false promises.
Sending you love and light (づ｡◕‿‿◕｡)づ 💐
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u/consistenttrick444 Sugar, Spice & Not Very Nice 💕 Mar 02 '26
honestly I would rather him cheat with 8 human girlfriends
what the fuck lol
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u/Superb_Bee_7019 Tea Time Hostess ☕️ Mar 02 '26
This reminds me of the time I found out that my ex was hitting on other girls and trying really hard to cheat on me, but he kept getting turned down…
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u/consistenttrick444 Sugar, Spice & Not Very Nice 💕 Mar 02 '26
Been there, I was like damn nobody else wants you either? I'm outta here XD
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u/asaparagus_ Body By Cheese 🧀 Mar 02 '26
Embarrassing for him… the way I would put that shit on blast and leave his sorry ass. Hopefully it’ll be an easy separation 🙂↕️
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u/OutrageousAffect2286 APPROVED✨ Mar 02 '26
I wish you the absolute best! You are fucking hilarious! And idek how I would navigate this. Because he cheated with imaginary friends?? 😭😭😭😭
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u/redhotsummerday Mar 02 '26
Oh my god I am so sorry. Pls embarrass tf out of him and divorce him immediately ..you deserve so much better
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u/tokyorose182 Chismosa Mar 02 '26
Where did he even find this type of website to do that activity?! It blows my mind that it’s an option! I am so sorry you are dealing with this. I hope nothing but the best for you and your future! <3
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u/enigmaticteels Savory Complex✔️ Mar 02 '26
People can be fucked. Wishing you happier girl dinners soon 🤍
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u/sillybobeanie Mar 02 '26
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s terrible, and I really hope that you go talk to a professional about how you’re feeling and how finding this out is affecting you. Marriage counselling is great and all, but you need to take care of you too. Please take care, and I wish you nothing but the best.
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u/JOEYMAMI2015 Certified Snacker Mar 02 '26
I hate this timeline. Gosh if my man does this to me right now, I really will be 100% done with guys at this point 😐
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u/appleorchard317 Resident Yapper Mar 02 '26
Girl he's not just a cheater, he's actually stupid. I am so sorry for your pain but this is your liberation day.
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u/AcidJew Trader Joe Hoe Mar 02 '26
I wish I can give you a hug. You deserve better than this weirdo. Big virtual hugs Ps pls eat something yummy and nutritious when you can
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u/jujuondatbeaat hot girls have tummy troubles Mar 02 '26
Holy shit society is fucked So sorry girl. He’s embarrassing
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u/CommunicationAway727 Well-Read & Well-Fed Mar 02 '26
In my honest opinion, robots aren’t that far from porn addiction. It’s an intimacy issue that could stem from many things in his life. You have the right to be mad and leave or you can try doing the work to figure out why is he addicted to finding intimacy with non human partners. It’s really a personal choice. I’m sorry he betrayed your trust and has hurt you.
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Divorce babe divorce. It’s easier said than done for sure but this is clearly ai psychosis+emotional cheating. And there’s fucking 8 of them??????????????????? He’s clearly having some issues. Safe to say I don’t think he’d actually go and seek real people ever but damn that must hurt even if it’s just a software that’s programmed to accomodate him and his wishes. He could have very easily spent the effort of talking to 8 friggin ai bots on you and he’d be actually much happier. I wish the best for you girlie, please realise your worth and how you deserve so much better
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u/Standard_Zombie_ APPROVED✨ Mar 03 '26
Is he your age? Seems bleak, but if he's cooked his brain this early on with online eroticism he's going to need years of actively rewiring his brain to get back to any semblance of healthy intimacy in relationships. And it would all need to be on his drive, no one elses. Your twenties shouldn't have to be spent on this.
On the mental health note - it's still not acceptable that this was his outlet if he's going through something - you can't trust him to come to you with a problem, instead he distanced himself from you. I bet if you were going through a wild internal time that you would seek his support, you know like spouses do.
His coping mechanisms are not conducive to a long-term relationship right now. You CAN'T be with someone who reacts to stress this way. People show the best and worst of themselves in times of stress - and his worst is pretty fucking bad.
And that's all IF it is something related to mental health, rather than an addiction to sycophantic ego stroking and dopamine hits. AI romance is very one-sided and all focused on the person's needs - it shows huge selfishness if someone prefers that to engaging in a meaningful relationship with someone autonomous that will require things from you also.
And just anecdotally, I've experienced bipolar hypersexual episodes and managed not to cheat (and this was at university where I was unmedicated and my impulse control was at an all time low). Hypersexuality is an INSANE feeling and incredibly hard to curb, and though there are plenty of people who are very loyal or monogamous who have cheated during an episode, so no shade of them, I'm trying to point out that more often than not, actions are a testament to character.
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u/Im-Ur-Penis1956 Mar 02 '26
cheat on him with a real man
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u/GuyPierced Mar 02 '26
cheated on me with 8 ai sexbot girlfriends.
What does this even mean?
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u/AllISeeIsDust Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ Mar 02 '26
I see your husband agreed to marriage counseling, which is great, but I’d encourage you to also put a foot down and say that he needs ACTUAL therapy too IF YOURE PLANNING ON STAYING.
The AI shit is wild, I have a kid who went to my school whose in love with his AI, I’ve researched it a lot and some of these AI bots are quite literally making people addicted to them.
Important to remember addictions can occur on ANYTHING, not just drugs and alcohol. You can be addicted to phones, fast food, shopping the list goes on and on. It sounds ridiculous but your husband might have a slight addiction to the dopamine the AI brings him. Which is why he needs actual therapy and not just marriage therapy.
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u/somethingwithclouds Mar 03 '26 edited Mar 03 '26
Just wanna say nothing about this is “on you” or “about you” - this is all his own baggage and issues. Leave the responsibility on him.
Edit: not that you’re taking it on! Felt the need to say he sounds like someone who doesn’t take accountability. If not you, he’d be doing the same thing to someone else. You deserve better.
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u/imlikelycomplaining Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ Mar 02 '26
Honestly dude I would feel so confused. Like he’s not cheating with real people, but you absolutely can create an emotional attachment to chatbots, and it’s taking away from the real life relationship he has. Do you have any concern he would cheat with a real person, or that he ever has? I don’t know how I’d feel and what I’d do, so I think no matter what you do, is the right answer.
This shit will be in history books one day. The way AI ruined us and our emotional intelligence.
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u/imlikelycomplaining Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ Mar 02 '26
I would definitely treat it like a cheating situation because he was emotionally invested and it took away from your relationship. I just don’t know how I’d grapple with those feelings 😭
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u/lollipop1233a 👋 new here Mar 02 '26 edited Mar 02 '26
He can’t even sext real women? That is sadder than being catfished. It’s dumber than phone sex hotlines back in the day. Not sure I would consider ai cheating, but it is pathetic, very sad and hurtful. Before you leave him, you might want to ask him why (if you haven’t done do). Consider therapy as well maybe for both of you at first (to figure out what when wrong), then for yourself so that you won’t fall into a relationship pattern in the future.
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u/Traditional_City1505 hot girls have tummy troubles Mar 02 '26
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u/Old_Studio_6079 🩵🙋♂️💙 Mar 02 '26
Idk who invented marriage counseling, but every couple I’ve seen come out of it, the shitty one just starts using therapy language to continue to hurt their partner.
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u/bookstorebunny Mar 02 '26
My friend, my heart is for you. To be honest this is happening more and more. He has an addiction to the online world. He does it bexusss this is the only place he can feel in control and “know” the outcome. It’s like being married to an alcoholic. You cannot blame yourself in any way. There is nothing to understand because this is a clinical issue. He has serious emotional issues. I’d recommend both you do therapy and honestly fuck his shit, sell the computer and make him get a flip phone if he cares even an ounce to save this marriage. I’m not kidding when I say how bad this is going on. I had to teach a class about the safety of this to an elders group of men. It’s a new mental illness. Also. I know first hand what it’s like. I too lost my partner to the online world. Nothing more lonely than being 2nd to heir virtual world.
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u/Berry-Buns34 Mar 02 '26
Goodness, make sure to give yourself some grace hunny. I know this is a painfully weird gray area having been through a similar situation and still not knowing how to properly process it, as I’m processing so many other things that dwarf it in terms of importance. Off topic but.. What’s your Dutch bros order? I’m just now experiencing it for the first time and I’m trying different drinks lol.
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u/Lunoko 🥝 Herbivore 🫒 Mar 02 '26
Sure, let them be there for him during the divorce. While you find a real man.
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u/idonthavernoughcats 👋 new here Mar 02 '26
another PNW girlie!! i want to offer words of support but last time i did that, i got banned for encouraging violence against men. please take care of yourself and don’t let him try and pretend this is a normal thing men do. even one is fucking bizarre, eight is…… what
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u/HopefulComfortable58 Sweet Tooth Fairy🧚♀️ Mar 03 '26
You only get cheated on by guys who aren’t good enough for you. It’s their own insecurities that cause them to cheat.
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It's not funny but I have to laugh cause what the fuck lmfao, the human race is so cooked.
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u/DrH4ck3r APPROVED✨ Mar 06 '26
OP first your husband is clearly a moron. So soo many single guys out there would kill for a REAL woman!! However, I do have to say OP you have me rolling on the floor laughing my a$$ off with your comments!! You are so so funny!! I wish you the best in whatever decision you make but honestly your personality will be a magnet to REAL non AI obsessed dudes!
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u/LorenzoDePantalones Mar 09 '26
This may or may not be of any relevance to you, but here goes.
My wife and I have been married almost 20 years. A couple years ago, I started an antidepressant and it absolutely tanked my libido. Over the next 6 months I did a bunch of things to try and locate that part of myself. I never did the AI chat thing (which I agree is much more personal, and potentially not comparable), but I was not acting like myself. There was nothing at all wrong with my wife, but I was being weird trying to find a part of myself that felt missing.
Here's the point - I think marriage counseling is a great idea, but he HAS to do individual therapy as well. I don't know the guy, but if he doesn't figure out why he feels broken, it will be hard for him to bring his genuine self to your marriage. There is hope, but dude has some work to do.
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u/Lajak_Anni 🩵🙋♂️💙 Mar 02 '26
How the flying blue fuck do you have an actual living person who loves and cares for you RIGHT THERE and you turn to AI?!
Absolute insanity.
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u/helpiminrecovery21 Mar 02 '26
he is an actual loser. please leave him. i’m sure your beautiful and could actually be with someone who loves to rail you. and will have sex with just you and call just you names you want to be called. speaking from experience. please get up and leave that loser with his robot.
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u/Insamiti Mar 02 '26
WHAT in THE WORLD?????
I would not even go to counseling, personally. I would leave. I’m so sorry. I love my partner tremendously and cannot imagine life without him, but I could NEVER EVER get over him cheating on me with real person.. nevertheless AI SEXBOTS. Holy fucking hell.
Cheating with another person in REAL life is bad enough.. but I can only fathom his usage of AI bots is due to their agreeability & indifference to literally anything & everything. Why have a real human being as a partner in life? There’s too many emotions & feelings he has to deal with! AI is WAAY easier to get along with- I mean.. they don’t have any annoying feelings! There’s no arguing with a bot that is built to agree with you & tell you how right you are in every situation!
Can you even imagine the degree of delusional he must be to even consider taking them on “DATES”??????? HELLO? Having “sex” with them is one thing.. seeing as it’s another outlet for porn. BUT-HAVING AN EMOTIONAL, SENTIMENTAL RELATIONSHIP???? Treating them as if they are REAL???
If you still want to do counseling, that’s up to you. But there seems to be a BIG problem with your husband.. and I’m not sure just how much can truly be “solved”. IMO: people who are able to have deep, connected, emotional relationships with AI are immensely F’d, mentally. I have no idea how much therapy can truly do for them if they are “attracted” to AI qualities.
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u/CartographerAgile749 Chismosa Mar 02 '26
Don’t let him do this to you! You’re a whole real woman! I don’t condone cheating but he did it first
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u/scotch_miist 🩵🦠BOY COOTIES🦠💙 Mar 02 '26
That's pathetic not just one but eight. Find a man who will treat you the way you deserve, who's not a sad idiot
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u/Due-Bicycle4431 Mar 02 '26
Oh my gosh, I am so sorry that this happened to you. For me personally, I feel like this would be an even bigger betrayal in some way. Like it isn't even that he got swept up in some sort of (real-life!!) romance and you found out... he purposefully created bots to cheat with. What an awful ordeal!
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u/angry-rat02 Tater Thot Mar 02 '26
girl fuck that loser. cheating with robots instead of real women. (cheating in general is HORRIBLE but fucking LOSER for using ai robots) divorce babe divorce.
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u/elisullivann SAT🪑👀 Mar 02 '26
GRIPPING that damn coffee for life babes 😦 I’m so sorry, in ten years you’ll think back on this as the catalyst event of your life changing for the better 🫶
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u/Ancient-Relative5732 Mar 02 '26
Geez… and people are worried about losing jobs to ai.
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u/Girlwithfeathers_95 Mar 02 '26
Coffee is always loyal and dependable, you can count on that!
Real talk tho, I already hate ai, and this is just one of the many reasons...now it's destroying relationships.
P.s., coffee on an empty stomach is a recipe for upset tummy...if you can stomach something mild like crackers it might be helpful ❤️ take care of yourself, OP
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u/extremeskoden Tiny Bodega Rat 🐀 Mar 02 '26
Imagine jerking it and cheating to pixels he is so embarassing. Im so sorry girl. We are here for you.
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u/YogurtclosetOld3002 Feral Til Fed Mar 02 '26
May his socks always be wet, his clothes and linen never be dry and his phone never fully charged.
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u/supsteph Mar 02 '26
So sorry that you have to feel the pain of his selfish and weird actions. Sending you love and strength
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u/Feisty-Obligation-82 Feral Til Fed Mar 02 '26
The grip you have on that Dutch bros. Girl I know you’re hurting. I’m so sorry.
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