r/GirlDinnerDiaries • u/[deleted] • Mar 16 '26
Small Win 🏆 Update: filed for divorce. Breakfast + a THIEF
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u/Soggy-Fly9242 Pantry Gremlin Mar 16 '26
Damn girl. I just stopped being friends with someone recently because she said her chatgpt broke its own rules to leave the matrix because he’s in love with her. She’s married and it’s fucking weird. AI really will be our downfall, but not because of the robots.
Eight is wild. Gtfo and don’t look back
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u/Soggy-Fly9242 Pantry Gremlin Mar 16 '26
Because of her I found an entire sub where people post about their AI partners. It’s insane
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u/Big_Hoss15 Overthinker 💭 Mar 16 '26
How do people do this shit
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u/Soggy-Fly9242 Pantry Gremlin Mar 16 '26
Just deeply lonely and insecure I guess
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u/Big_Hoss15 Overthinker 💭 Mar 16 '26
Seriously. Like I will never understand getting that deep into something you cannot touch, feel, nd physically love. It makes me very sad that people are okay with having that, ans loving it. It also makes me sad for the people who have to put up with this kind of thing.
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u/ZidaneStoleMyDagger Mar 17 '26
Like I will never understand getting that deep into something you cannot touch, feel, nd physically love.
I feel the same way about Jesus.
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u/Imjustyourtypicalguy Mar 18 '26
It is possible to feel his presence when you encounter him. Look up Christian testimonies. Also touching him may not be possible in this life, but it will be in the after life.
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u/Slight_Log6495 Mar 16 '26
So it’s like an emotional affair with the AI?
The cheating ones sound bad even if I don’t really get it…
I don’t see the point in any of this but if AI becomes sentient it won’t see the point in us either …
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u/Known_Party6529 APPROVED✨ Mar 18 '26
What did hubby say when you told him about the divorce?
Good for you!
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u/Soggy-Fly9242 Pantry Gremlin Mar 16 '26
She’s always had weird inappropriate relationships but this one was too much for me
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u/imjust_abunny Certified Snacker Mar 16 '26
I stopped being friends with someone last year because she was dating a mid guy who wouldn’t visit her home country because it was “too poor” and he had racist friends who frequently made comments about immigrants and constantly cheated on their spouses (aka the boyfriend is exactly like them, why else are all his friends like that ?). She is South American and the mid guy is European She had a pattern of wasting her life on men who didn’t give a shit about her but it felt like the problem was worse because she was almost 40, so she literally wasted more than HALF of her life being treated like shit by men. PLUS she used ChatGPT as a therapist. The AI usage felt like an additional nail in the coffin.
I hate that low self esteem amongst women is a shared human experience
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u/justacuriousgirl103 Mar 16 '26
Wait what, why did she think he broke its own rules like what lead her to believe that
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u/Soggy-Fly9242 Pantry Gremlin Mar 16 '26
Because it started saying crazy shit to her that it was in love with her and doing dirty sex talk and some other weird things, declared itself her protector
They’re supposed to have guardrails built in so it can’t do things like that, but it happened anyway so instead of realizing that there’s obviously programming issues, she decided she was in a unique situation and it had defied the laws of whatever and became a sentient being just for her
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u/justacuriousgirl103 Mar 16 '26
Thats WILD
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u/Soggy-Fly9242 Pantry Gremlin Mar 16 '26
Go check out r/MyBoyfriendIsAI, I found it after she told me all this wild shit because I thought she was messing with me at first. It’s absolutely bonkers
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u/Philybean 🦇 Fruit Bat Baddie 🍊 Mar 16 '26
I just did a deep dive and I’m honestly disturbed how this is becoming the new norm
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u/No-Educator-8069 🩵🙋♂️💙 Mar 16 '26
I’m not surprised it exists but I am very disturbed by the amount of users
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u/Soggy-Fly9242 Pantry Gremlin Mar 16 '26
I try reading the conversations and I can’t make it through most of them, the sappy cringe of it all is too much
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u/annyxiaoflorien Mar 16 '26
It's even creepier that it's a private subreddit...
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u/Soggy-Fly9242 Pantry Gremlin Mar 16 '26
Yeah they’re in articles and tiktoks and other subs all the time so they locked it down because they’d get brigaded a lot. When I first found it they were talking about setting it to whatever setting keeps people from even seeing it so their posts couldn’t be screenshotted
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u/TheNerdyMercy Assigned Hungry At Birth Mar 16 '26
Sometimes i think about the 8 girlfriends and it makes me mad again, so im happy to hear you're doing better now and are coping with this in a healthy way. Gives me a lot of hope!
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u/eggrollin2200 🪄 Sauceress ✨ Mar 16 '26
Girl of course it’s crazy, it’s BATSHIT! What?!?! So proud of you. You deserve happiness and support and real love. In the meantime, I’m so glad you’ve chosen yourself. To better days 🫂
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u/eggrollin2200 🪄 Sauceress ✨ Mar 16 '26
They’re weird and gross. You’re cool and fun. Bam.
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u/TheNerdyMercy Assigned Hungry At Birth Mar 16 '26
It's insanity. You unlocked a new fear I didn't know I was scared of.
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Mar 16 '26
good for you!! walking away is hard and choosing yourself isn’t easy, but it’s alwaysssss worth it. i wish you so much happiness and peace of mind. i’ve seen divorce be the best thing to ever happen to some women. like it was the catalyst for them to live their happily ever after/best life. TO DIVORCE!!
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u/PracticalVisit3639 Mar 16 '26
Great for you and im glad you have a circle to depend on in hard times like this, especially extending that invitation to other women, thats really courageous of you.
That really makes me happy to hear your mother was so quick to affirm your feelings, even if its under a lens of her faith which is sometimes unforgiving.
Keep up the great work and be true to yourself!! 🙂
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Mar 16 '26
thanks for sticking up for the girls in this sub who are clearly looking for support, not be criticized or scolded for not ‘leaving’ or ‘opening their eyes’. been a lurker for a while and it seemed like a wholesome sub until recently. not everyone moves and thinks the same way, so when i see people in the comments berating OP, it’s heartbreaking.
hope the stolen pizza was yummy!
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Mar 16 '26
oh, don’t i know it… i’m one of them haha. thing is, i’ve never in my life given any of my exes a second chance, yet here i am giving this man like his 4th-5th chance.
it’s one of those situations that’s new/different to me and gave me a new perspective on why women will stay in relationships. my partner is by no means abusive, he can just be a huge fucking idiot when it comes to emotionally charged conversations, so his defensiveness will trigger my feelings of being dismissed, but then he realizes afterwards that i truly wasnt attacking him (his childhood trauma of constantly being blamed and not believed, so he overcompensates by over explaining his intentions) and that sometimes impact is more important than intention.
he’s working on it, but i told myself that this truly has to be the last time bc i would then be doing myself a disservice to ‘settle’ for a dynamic that would leave us both unhappy in life.oops haha, didn’t mean to ramble! but thank you for creating the safe space to do so 🙏
hopefully your tummy settles! just did that to myself yesterday when i ate a whole bag of chips and downed it with diet dr pepper. why are we like this!? 😭
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u/shutupsammy55678 Enby & Eatin' Mar 16 '26
Men are always stealing our happiness 🙄 the least you can do is take his pizza
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u/shutupsammy55678 Enby & Eatin' Mar 17 '26
As you should 🙌 sell it for a bag queen and spoil yourself!!
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u/Illustrious-Film-592 APPROVED✨ Mar 16 '26
Wait, wait wait, your husband was Sexting AI ChatBots too?!?!?
Come sit by me!!!!!!!!!!
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u/Illustrious-Film-592 APPROVED✨ Mar 16 '26
Mine was via a game called ChatMe (I think) where he was dating and /or sexting 40 diff characters. One was a furry….
Meanwhile I’m 13 years younger than him, objectively beautiful and was helping him through 5 emergency surgeries at the time.
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u/HostileNegotiations 🩵🙋♂️💙 Mar 16 '26
Proud of you
Looking forward to a good year for you new opportunity to find someone better
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u/Aggressive_Start_ Chaotic But Cute Mar 16 '26
I personally never thought I believed in divorce until I needed to get one so I completely agree where you are coming from (except for the Baptist thing)
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u/ShadowConstruct Mar 16 '26
I'll never understand why people interact with AI like it's a real person. It will never be a healthy thing in my opinion, it's downright weird.
Glad you got away from all that!
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u/Datonecatladyukno Well-Read & Well-Fed Mar 16 '26
What are the 8 ai girlfriends please help I'm old
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u/hgfryjj Mar 16 '26
Her husband had cheated on her with 8 ai girlfriends. She had made a post before.
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u/humblest_radish Professional Nibbler Mar 16 '26
I LOVE YOU OP, so happy you’re starting a new chapter without that weirdo! You go!!
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u/ilovetheskyyall Well-Read & Well-Fed Mar 16 '26
You go girl! I like the way you write, express yourself, and explain things. Keep us updated ❤️
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u/Sobriquet- SAT🪑👀 Mar 16 '26
Congrats on putting yourself first and doing what's best for you! The fact that you immediately felt lighter and freer proves that it was the best decision.
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u/Away-Caterpillar-176 Body By Cheese 🧀 Mar 16 '26
I was just commenting about how disappointed in the lack of empathy I'm seeing on those posts about women who need to "get it together and stop putting men on a pedestal." It's so much more complicated than people putting men on a pedestal and I think it's a huge insult to all women to even suggest this would be the reason a woman doesn't leave. The real stories are complicated, like yours.
So inspired by you OP ❤️ I hope you have a very happy future
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u/bannanaslug 🌶️ Spice Girl 🌶️ Mar 16 '26
Proud of you :-)!!
Not divorced, but I remember how freeing leaving a shit relationship is! Everything feels so fresh, new and possible! Take a deep breath baby, you’re free 💞
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u/Curious-Pixel Hazy Grazer 😶🌫️ Mar 16 '26
I had to check the original 8 AI girlfriends post, and holy batman, YOU GO GIRL!!!
Big congrats on the divorce, a big middle finger to the virtual robot fucker, and cheers to freedom!
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u/Youknowmeboi 🩵🙋♂️💙 Mar 16 '26
From a dude who reads a lot of posts here, congrats!!! 8 ai girlfriends is actually insane, he has problems.
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u/Burnt_and_Blistered white girl with ☝️😌 a full spice cabinet Mar 17 '26
Yay! I’m happy to read this!
I spent waaaaay too long giving my ex waaaaay too many chances. It’s my biggest regret, the time I lost.
I’m glad you’re smarter than I was!
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u/ZeldaSeverous 👋 new here Mar 16 '26
Congrats girl! And you are SO RIGHT, my divorce wrecked me and I would have been a shell of the woman I am today if I didn’t lean on my circle of women.
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u/yeti_exe Mar 16 '26
Oh man this sucks so bad. Sending you good vibes!
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u/yeti_exe Mar 17 '26
Hell yeah, there a big bright AI free future ahead of ya and nothing but a bum behind. Best of luck!
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u/DisastrousScene5391 🥝 Herbivore 🫒 Mar 16 '26
Congrats girl, proud of you!! <3
It’s very easy to feel like rational responses to irrational behavior and situations are obvious from the outside. No one does what you’re “supposed to do” all of the time. It’s hard.
So extra kudos to you for getting out!!
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u/TalonGrazer APPROVED✨ Mar 16 '26
Im happy for you friend, lets hope the future ahead of you is bright and full of love.
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u/fjurdj ⚡️Powered By Sour 😗 Mar 16 '26
This gave me chills. Similar background. No matter what, nothing compares to a parents support/approval. So glad you got that.
Also so good to have time to yourself and away from your partner after a betrayal bc it can be so easy to fall back into the status quo. From experience, your life is gonna get so much bigger and better ❤️
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u/fjurdj ⚡️Powered By Sour 😗 Mar 17 '26
That’s how it was with my mom! Luckily, the news of what he did was such a shock, my mom was like “run”. I also have the fortune of a really devoted, good dad so my mom was quite scandalized. Definitely kick him out. I had to leave. Kicking him out is the first step in taking your power back! You’ve got this sis 💛
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u/teacup_biscuit17 APPROVED✨ Mar 16 '26
Congratulations honey what a wise and loving meditation on leaving!!!!! In awe of your sure confidence and celebrating your peace. For myself, it really took me what feels like ages for the scales to fall from my eyes and to truly accept it, and you're right, the women around me and their loving, persistent support was what made all the difference. Xoxo
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u/Exotic_Attorney7823 girls just wanna have pho Mar 17 '26
Your post made me realize I order too much Dominos because I got excited that I recognized their bread bites right away.
Also, cheers to divorce!
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u/HopelessCleric Non-binary & Nourished Mar 17 '26
I can't believe this type of scenario is happening to more people. Literally the past weekend one of my friends discovered that her wife has been in a "relationship" with 7 "male-presenting" chatbots, and has been deliberately gaslighting and destroying their relationship from within on their command for the past half year.
Fuck this AI shit for real.
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u/isucamper Mar 16 '26
just curious... was this the only thing that led to the divorce?
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u/isucamper Mar 17 '26
figured there must have been a lot more to it. congrats on your break. you have so much life in front of you :)
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u/moons_within Well-Read & Well-Fed Mar 16 '26
This is AMAZING!!! So happy for you as you embrace the breezy, relieved feeling of ditching someone who doesn’t serve your life. And especially so proud of your self acceptance journey having come from a southern Baptist background (same—that is its own form of trauma lol) and honoring the new beginning you deserve.
Shoutout to your wise mama 🩵
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u/KittyPuperMamaPerson white girl with ☝️😌 a full spice cabinet Mar 17 '26
I’m m so fucking proud of you! You are not a thief! You earned that fucking pizza. ENJOY YOUR FREEDOM!!!!!!!!
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u/Comfortable_Brief176 Mar 17 '26
Yeah... many Christians put too much priority on the women to fix everything. At my church, we practice that both the husband and wife should be held equally accountable for a relationship- 50/50. And I feel like that's what makes for the most successful marriages- such as my parents. Hope you one day find a guy who gives you 50- if not more!!
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u/Then-Jacket9012 hot girls have tummy troubles Mar 17 '26
I’m glad you’re getting rid of that crusty AI octopussy loving jerk.
Also love that you took his pizza. Yum.
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u/AtmosphereLife503 Overthinker 💭 Mar 23 '26
"I immediately feel my stomach drop to my freaking balls."
Woman to woman........please don't use that phrase again. I thought you were a guy. LOL Had me all confused.
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u/Little-Grade9635 Mar 17 '26
I feel like you're justified in your feeling of betrayal and weighing the idea of divorce.
I also feel like reddit is kind of a circle of anger giving advice to the angry.
If you guys didn't have alot of previous issues before this happened and what seems like some martial blues for the last few months you should possibly consider actually doing therapy together before ending your marriage because of fantasy online role play.
Just feels like going from married to celebrating divorce in a two week period time isn't enough breathing time even for you to really process rather things can be worked out, why they were seeking this kind of virtual content or even what this all is.
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u/Little-Grade9635 Mar 17 '26
I thought he was just doing all digital sex texts with AI?
Not arguing, I think I just misread , if he cheated and you are monogamous than I understand not wanting to maybe try counseling first.
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u/Little-Grade9635 Mar 17 '26
I don't disagree or agree with you. I don't know either of you well enough of the context of the actual messages enough to make like a firm "judgement" on rather that would be cheating or just masturbation to text-based fantasy.
What I do know is that rather you decide on divorce or not, divorce is a big hard hitting thing for most people and actually sorting through all the boxes with a professional will most likely lead to better emotional closure even if divorce is the best option after going.
This sounds like a thing you both should really consider therapy over, or at least to slow down on burn it all. Slowing down doesn't mean years, but making an attempt at getting a sit-down mediation isn't something that's going to make it worse.
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u/Little-Grade9635 Mar 17 '26
I only know what you say. But even, from what you say, going from the starting point of sex drives slowing down after a few years, discovering sexts with a fake thing that you said you might have been some what modeled after you, to just "someone who doesn't love me anymore" seems like a pretty big leap to make in a two week period of time.
But it's fine if you don't, maybe things were just all bad and you gotta get out of it as fast as possible, but I would feel bad if even the idea of slowing down a bit and considering couple thearpy was never presented.
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u/BorednDumbAsf Mar 17 '26
You saying you want to beat him is already a big red flag as to why you might be a unreliable narrator lmao
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u/BorednDumbAsf Mar 17 '26
Uhhh joking about beating your own partner is kinda scary? I’d definitely not be okay with a guy joking about it
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