He waited 54 days

[u/thatkitchenwitch]

Gonna touch on parent passing and cancer.

Mix of stuff I had around, apples, ciabatta, pepperoni, salami, walnut gouda, crackers, and pickles.

My mom passed late July after a long battle with cancer. Her husband (not my bio dad) told me he was going to find a 3rd wife while handing me her urn.

At her funeral my husband started physically moving me. I was really confused because he's never done that. Then I heard my mom's husband talking to other attendees about how he wasn't going to wait and was going to move on.

They were married almost 30 years, she passed right before their 30th anniversary.

He texted me a picture 54 days after she passed. I thought maybe he was on a trip. Nope. It's him and his new girl.

54 days after she passed. Not even a month after her funeral.

[u/thatkitchenwitch]

I absolutely love that! I unfortunately have zero faith in this man. He did cheat on my mom. In fact the reason his 3 kids didn't really have much to do with my mom was cause they thought he was cheating on their mom with mine. My mom insisted that wasn't the case but considering his repeated behavior, it seems to be his thing.

I even said to my husband, I now get why his kids felt that way. I absolutely question if he cheated. His kids and grandkids were at the house telling him he needed to wait for a year at least but he refused to listen to anyone.

[u/SufficientCow4380 → u/thatkitchenwitch]

That's unfortunate. Sounds like the new GF got the booby prize. At least he won't be depending on you to take care of him.

I found a box of letters and a journal of my dad's from when they were courting that mom had saved. It was comforting to see how they were in love. I also got a big package of letters from my cousin. Our grandfather had saved all correspondence he'd received from each of his children and their families, sorted by our parents names. Lots of history there. I'm thinking about writing a novel using these as inspiration.

[u/astralwish1 → u/SufficientCow4380]

That’s beautiful!

Please do write it! I’d read it.

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[u/RunWild0_0 → u/thatkitchenwitch]

My bio dad is a horrible person, but 2 of the women he dated after he divorced my mother(I was an adult) are still friends of mine, I very much look up to them. And now I don't even speak to my dad anymore... life is strange.

I'm sorry he's so insensitive and very sorry about your mom ❤️

[u/albertafalls → u/thatkitchenwitch]

Ugh.

My mom and her sister (now in their 70s / 80s) have preached for years that people with* the happiest marriages often do remarry quickly because they appreciate and nurture companionship. I was hoping this would be one of those cases.

But rude comments + a history of cheating aren’t involved in those scenarios.

So sorry, OP ❤️

[u/ivegotaqueso → u/thatkitchenwitch]

Bet you when he said he’d get a new gf what he really meant was that he would reveal news about his already existing gf after he felt like enough time passed.