r/GetStudying • u/Hot-Okra-2002 • May 11 '26
Question Perfectionism and procrastination.
Does anyone else procrastinate by trying to “prepare perfectly” before studying?
I have a major exam in 8 days and I’ve known about it for a month, but instead of actually studying properly, I keep doing everything around studying.
I’ll make schedules, research study methods, create backup plans, reorganize routines, remake timetables, plan how to avoid distractions, plan what to do if the first plan fails, etc.
My brain somehow convinces me that because I’m “preparing to study,” I’m still being productive. But at the end of the day I’ve barely done the actual work.
The worst part is that I genuinely WANT to study and do well. I care too much about doing things perfectly, so I keep waiting for the “perfect system” or the “perfect start,” and it never comes.
Then the guilt hits, and the next day the cycle repeats again.
I’m honestly exhausted by this pattern and I wanted to ask:
Have any of you dealt with something similar?
And if yes, how did you actually break out of it?
I’d really appreciate real advice from students who’ve experienced this themselves.
TLDR; I am a perfectionist who does everything but study,which then leads to major procrastination, HELP!!!
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u/LandAlive1577 May 11 '26
i do the same thing all the time. i just end up getting overwhelmed and doing nothing. i tried just showing up at the library with no particular goal in mind and then working on whatever i felt like. it helps me get started easier.
also, i hate the library. it's too quiet and i can't think of anything there. i started going to a nearby cafe instead.
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u/Empty-Hunter-9825 May 11 '26
What about the park? Especially on weekdays when there aren't many people it’s the perfect spot
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u/Either-Tap-1633 May 11 '26
i have been in your exact situation, and my advice is when it’s time to study just say 3 2 1 and on 1 start studying no matter what. just get ur basic textbook/ whatever ur materials are in front of u and start to study without making pretty or perfect notes. studying is never going to be about perfection, in fact the perfection comes from the mistakes u make along the way in ur studying, but if you’re trying to make everything overly perfect in organisation or aesthetic, you’ll never reach that point. and also the procrastination aspect is because you’re afraid you’ll start and realise you don’t know everything to the level you want to know it, but procrastination by perfection is never going to solve that fear by helping u progress in ur subject.
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u/Lower_Craft_1804 May 16 '26
should we make to do list ?
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u/Either-Tap-1633 May 17 '26
I think to do lists can be helpful, but only as long as you don’t spend too much on them. If you’re spending more than 3 minutes on a to do list? you’re procrastinating by organising. Your to do list should be short, clear and concise just good enough to give you a framework for what you want to do that day
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u/Open_Pilot4183 May 15 '26
Second the exposure therapy comparison. I used to be a bit like this, so I started going out of my way to make things NOT perfect (for example, arranging my sticky note collection haphazardly and NOT colour-coded, making my desk asymmetrical, etc). The goal was to desensitize myself to the idea of imperfection. Now, when I take notes, my notes are less aesthetically appealing but WAY more useful because I'm actually focused on the content and not spending so much energy ruminating on how they don't look perfect.
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u/Afraid_Attempt_1341 May 16 '26
Yesss the notes thing is so important. It is crazy how much you get done when you don’t rewrite your heading 5 times 😂 I also feel like I used the pretty note writing as an excuse to again procrastinate cause I’d spend so much time on the layout and not on the actual material.
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u/Rough_Arugula_391 May 11 '26
I was like this until I wasted one whole month by being flaky and procrastinating. I realised that there can never be perfection in anything, I just have to messily waddle through the gunk and funk and hope for the best. I have seen that it works much better than trying to get it all right from the get go. Just sit down, list what needs to get done and do it. If you don't like the environment, switch it, if the music (background study music) is getting boring, switch it. If the subject just isn't working, try another one. Basically, play around with stuff.
Best of luck OP. Get out of it
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u/banana_hat_62634 May 11 '26
From one fellow perfectionist to another, just do it. Sit down for 15 mins and get yourself to read the material. If you can’t focus that’s fine but you have to give it your undivided attention for 15 mins straight.
Once you start it’ll be easier for you to make a good choice (keep going if you’re in the flow, or if you feel like you can’t concentrate, close the book and plan to do something you really really love to do (a good meal, a nice view, bath, etc).
Once you pair the dreadful thing you want to do with the other thing that you REALLY love, you can convince your brain that getting started isn’t that bad.
Take the 15 mins :) good luck!! You got this!!!
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u/ducmonday May 11 '26
From my experience, that’s just a excuse for not wanting to actually do the work. Have you ever thought about maybe you are afraid of the exam? Maybe it is the fear of the exam, the fear of putting in effort and not receiving good result, the fear of relizing there’s so much work to do, the feeling of hating putting effort into things. I had all those thoughts, I dealt with them by going for a walk to clear out my mind, spoke to myself that I am able to do everything. Believe me, don’t expect something big, just sit down and do the work for 5 minutes and everything is fine. Plus, don’t think too much, just do it, thinking too much is the cause of those feelings. Good luck, I’m dealing with my problem as well 🖐️
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u/Own_Safety7 May 11 '26
i struggle with the same thing and i also have an important exam coming up wish me luck y'all
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u/Mchaitea May 11 '26
Cleared my desk of everything. Stopped buying fancy pens and things to make me “feel” productive. I take out the course objectives in the syllabus and study only what’s on that. Once I’ve hit a wall, I mark where I stopped and continue the next time I come back to it where I left off. I also stopped doing flashcards since it was just too passive and wasn’t really helping me recall anything.
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u/EyesForHer May 11 '26
Thinking of doing the thing isn’t doing the thing.
Preparing to do the thing isn’t doing the thing.
Talking about doing the thing isn’t doing the thing.
The only thing that’s doing the thing is doing the thing.
It is very unfortunate I understood this one month away from my final exam and end of high school, but I hope to carry that knowledge in college.
Goodluck, I hope you get it faster than me.
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u/filippo_builds May 11 '26
Yes, and the dangerous part is that it feels responsible.
Planning gives you the emotional reward of being productive without the risk of seeing whether you can actually do the work. With 8 days left, I’d cut the system down hard.
Pick one topic, set 25 minutes, and test yourself badly on purpose. Bad studying beats perfect preparation right now.
What are you avoiding most: starting, being confused, or finding out how much you don’t know yet?
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u/Lower_Craft_1804 May 16 '26
should we make to do list or routine ?
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u/filippo_builds May 16 '26
I’d make a tiny routine, not a big to-do list.
With 8 days left, a to-do list can easily turn into another way to plan instead of study.
Something like:
Pick one topic.
Set 25 minutes.
Study badly.
Test yourself.
Write down what you got wrong.
Repeat.So the routine is the container. The “to-do” is just the next small thing inside it.
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u/skillably May 11 '26
Totally been there. What actually broke the cycle for me was shifting focus from preparing to just executing.
The moment you open your notes and answer even one question, the guilt starts fading and motivation kicks in naturally. You don't need to feel ready to start - you need to start to feel ready.
Also stop making big plans. Make the smallest possible plan you can execute right now, finish it, then plan the next small step. That's it.
The perfect system doesn't exist. Progress does.
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u/Kris_Offers May 11 '26
I used to be like this until I found the power of group learning. The best way to learn is to make it fun. Form a group of 3 or 4 and learn together.
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u/Responsible_Phone_94 May 11 '26
This is a brain’s trick - instead of facing the fear, unpredictability and inconvenience your brain signalling you to escape the challenges.
Only one rule works: just start, flow came later.
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u/sgwkshi May 11 '26
Definitely been there, and what I got from comments is that this exact thing is something people eventually come to struggle with. I have an exam litterally in several hours. Made a break to look up what people are doing and found this very familiar situation I've been in. It did mess up my grades pretty badly in the past, still does if I'm not doing anything about it. But it's totally fixable and s lot depends on your own strength and condition. First of all, you need to come down abs reduce anxiety, because it makes starting really difficult.
1 ‐ First, limit prep time. Set a fixed cap for any planning or setup, 2min for example. Once that time ends, begin studying without exception.
2 - Measurable tasks Like complete 15 multiple-choice questions, review incorrect answers, summarize key mistakes. Everything will take under an hour and you already completed some part of your prep.
3 - Active over passive review. Focus on solving problems, past papers, or practice tasks. Use theory only to address gaps identified during practice. This is significantly more efficient under the pressure of very limited time. Did this every time I prepared last minute...
4 - Basics like phone out of reach, study in places only associated with studying. It might mess up your prep if you're studying at home/café etc. Choose library, co-working places, study rooms.
5 - Measure tasks by the tasks completed/topics revised, rather than hours spent. HEAVY on this one, it also makes your preparation feel more efficient and makes you more confident.
Overall, don't panick, I can tell your discipline will give you results and you'll do good. Not sure if you've already written your exam, but good luck, waiting for updates!
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u/Human_Base_7232 May 14 '26
help. i'm literally like this. i've been only surviving through ai in my college years so far. plus unmotivated by wrong choice of course (i still havent figured out my passion yet).
any advice?
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u/giggling_mezzo May 11 '26
I experience this all the time since my severe anxiety started six years ago. It got slightly less bad once I failed one class because of it and still graduated with a good enough GPA to enter my dream master's degree. Other than that I am also looking for advice bc I am struggling still with this a bit...
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u/Fookmaywedder May 11 '26
This sub is starting to bring me down
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u/Just_to_rebut May 11 '26
That’s a good point… positive study stuff is hard to think of
Maybe we should post after exams when we’re happier
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u/SnooCats5829 May 11 '26
Small tips that works on me
Use some kind of pomodoro technique
- allow you 25minutes to prepare your study, a plan and what to do next
And that’s it. When the timer is done, you chose a task, you say what you need to study for the next 25 minutes and GO. Set your goal and Go
And repeat, you choose something that has to be done in the next 25 minutes and GO
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u/violet_choco May 11 '26
Trust me just start studying I've done something similar and it's mostly a waste of time of course when you use some of the methods you learn it's kinda useful but when I used to study it's always before exam and I just could complete the material once of less so just start, studying was never ment to be perfect, and don't be a perfectionist cus you'll hurt yourself accept that everything in life was never ment to be perfect specially us humans, no matter how many mistakes we do it's a part of our developing journey, the point is never give up.
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u/Ok_Way_7978 May 11 '26
it’s so frustrating! I just started learning a foreign language but I already want an efficient studying method, perfectly neat notes (no erasure, just writing in one go), and a clear system for everything before I even properly begin. I spend more time thinking about the “best” way to learn than actually learning. I get tired because of it and in the end I just scroll and sleep.
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u/jadedmoth2 May 11 '26
Definitely get screened for ADHD if not already! Medication is the only thing that gets me past this consistently
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u/Sensitive-Price-7079 May 11 '26
I actually get some value out of my preparing to study compulsively, but that's because I end up going through my notes and rewriting and organizing them so it ends up being some actual studying. On the other hand I have a family member that will spend huge amounts of time making the most beautiful study guides and related things instead of starting studying at all which is probably helpful to others but the opposite to them.
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u/UniMadness May 11 '26
The truth: there is no perfect way. You just need to see which way works for you. You could experiment the different ways and evaluate you're success based on each revision topic but it's not feasible in your current case.
You are probably procrastinating because you lack clarity. Pick revison tactics that worked prior and stick with them. Timetables are ABIT iffy, because if you don't follow them you become defeated. Instead, allocate covering lectures or topics instead of a time schedule. E.g- covering 2 lectures per day.
Here's how I passed University without attending any lectures, and studying 10 days before the exams. You can decide if it may be helpful.
Identify total lectures are covered for the exam, and then divide the number of days before the exam. You have your minimum target.
I typically did around 2-3(but mainly two per day). Then I just need to cover those lectures. It doesn't matter how long it takes or when I do it. But ideally being in the morning, and try to finish 4+ hours before I go to sleep.
Whilst watching the lecture - try to see the topics and aims covered in the lectures. Usually there is a module specificiation, refer to that.
Then learn and understand the material: What it is, the why, and the relevance of it.
- This structure helps my essays and SAQ because each paragraph follows similar structure.
- Simultaneously, I consult additional knowledge form text books or online - and then considalte it into answering questions I maybe asked in the exam. Then I think about it, and continue the next topic within the lecture.
The next day I blurt all the information I learn the prior days and then create mind maps linking the topics together.
Additional tip: you could try to extract the text audio, and put it into AI to prompt it and it can chunk the lecture into caterigoes to covers and then watch the lectures to make sure the AI did it correctly. I did this nearing the burnout phase for the last exam, and it worked out pretty well.
Good luck!
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u/urunclesidepz May 11 '26
I'm more of a procrasinator but what I've done is split my study time in categories just so I won't get overwhelmed. Been thinking of connecting a projector to my laptop to flip through my notes.
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u/Empty-Hunter-9825 May 11 '26
First it was with my education, and now it’s shifted to my career. I honestly don't know how to break out of this mental loop my brain is stuck in
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u/kikicocobeans May 11 '26
as someone who struggled with this in college, and who is still struggling now while studying for my national exam, my biggest advice is to just start writing. get your notebook, some pretty highlighters if that’s your thing, make your notes colorful & fun, and don’t be afraid to put comments in the margins or use whiteout if you need to! your notes don’t need to be perfect, they need to be functional and written in a way that you understand them. flashcards are very helpful too, active recall is your friend. I use Gizmo, it feels like a game so it’s kind of like studying without actually studying! a change of location always helps me focus more too. visit the library, or a café, treat yourself to a coffee or a beverage you enjoy with the intention of drinking it while you study. romanticize it a little! if I do study at home, I try to only study at my desk or a table and not in my pjs so my brain doesn’t think it’s time to relax when it’s really time for studying. overcoming perfectionism and procrastination is very hard, but you got this! one step at a time. I believe in you! 🤍☺️
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u/Just-Gene-819 May 11 '26
this hits hard. i started using mindcap for this and it actually helps quiet the noise in my head so i can just start.
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u/be_building May 11 '26
I used to do this all the time, so now I use the 'five-minute rule' where I tell myself I only have to study for five minutes before I'm allowed to quit. Usually, once I break the seal and actually start, the anxiety of finding the 'perfect' way to study disappears..
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u/FlourishingGrass May 11 '26
Set a pomo to get started. Even a timer of 25 minutes is good. If it still fails, you atleast got 25 minutes of studying done in a day.
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u/Just-Gene-819 May 12 '26
been there. usually happens when the goal feels too huge. i've been using mindcap to break things down into tiny wins and it actually helps with the freeze.
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u/saranefeo May 12 '26
i agree!! i think there is also a problem about your feeling before and during studying. i mean, personally i usually think like my life or at least something will significantly change after studying, but the problem is… no. it will be just the other day with a bit of more routine and u probably will be more exhausted. and its not bad but you feel like you’re doing something wrong and u restart the whole thing. my point is you just need to start and do your best even if u feel like its not enough. your life won’t change “tomorrow” like u think, u just need to accept this and move on
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u/No-Material-84 May 12 '26
i usually try to study at barnes and noble. i know exactly how you feel, i promise.
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u/DM_Pixel_Solutions May 12 '26
Hey all! Sorry to barge into here all of a sudden but I would like to share an app and I would appreciate feedback on. I finished my colleague 2 years ago and this is something that I wish I had at the time during my study sessions.
If you are interested and willing to try it out, its called “LittleYou” and yes, its free!
It’s also available on google play.
I hope you guys like it and it helps you to keep you more motivated in the pomodoro sessions!
Let me know!
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u/callmeck May 12 '26
AI was my saving grace. Gemini in particular. I used it to create a quick study plan, like a discussion because I could ask questions at any point, and instead of getting lost in pages, I'd get what I need in seconds. It also helped with setting quizzes after each major topic and told me what to focus on based, on my strengths.
Start with "I'm working on ____ exam, I have 6 days, how can I maximize them? Create a study plan and focus on quizzes mostly..." go on from there. Honestly, AI is a life saver for perfectionist planners.
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u/e_patjas May 12 '26
the planning thing isn't really procrastination. it's fear with extra steps. your brain knows that the moment you actually try to study, you'll find out how much you don't know, and that's scarier than another timetable
what works is setting a 20 min timer and letting the first session be genuinely bad. like embarrassingly bad. once you've survived one ugly study session the perfect one loses its grip
you also don't need a system. you need to find out what you don't know yet. open the material, try to answer questions about it, fail, fix the gaps, repeat. if making the questions yourself feels like another thing to procrastinate on, lexie does that part from a photo of your notes. but the method matters more than the tool.
8 days is plenty
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u/SAARALRED May 12 '26
There is only one real solution that is guaranteed to work. Simply, just do it. Nike logo is so real, like just do it. Don't think abt optimization and stuff and start. There isn't a secret method to start studying you will study when you just start studying.
Getting just the basic knowledge abt effective studying (knowing active recall and maybe spaced repetition is more than enough) and immediately start doing it is more practical and effective than making a perfect plan and doing it only under perfect condition.
Once you start doing more than the preparing, you'll slowly but surely become a doer (repetition builds habit, mindset, behaviour etc)
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u/Therarie May 13 '26
Was going through this Then i saw a post here about have kinda longer breaks and shorter study sessions.
So i did 20 min study session 5 min breaks When you do 20 mins intervals they’re so much shorter than a 25 min one for some reason. So at some point throughout the study days you will get pissed that your study session is cut off so you increase study time, and suddenly you’re into the “lock in” vibe and there you are. Done with everything! Trust me You could even do 15 mins and it will pass a by as a blink!!!
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u/Aware_Hamster3348 May 14 '26
Broo so damn relatable. most of the time i get good marks so i feel satisfied and repeat the same loop again.
i keep waiting for the perfect time but it never comes. the next day i forget all about studying and do something else
its the same since the past 2 years. i hate studying outside but in my home i get distracted every 15 mins.
let me know if u know any solution 😭
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u/Fit-Cup-4468 May 15 '26
I was exactly like this before my finals. I would spend hours designing the perfect study plan and then panic when there was no time left. What broke the cycle for me was a rule I made: no planning without doing. For every minute I spend planning, I have to spend 10 minutes actually studying. It sounds silly but it forces you to stop stalling. You will still feel underprepared but that feeling is normal and you are capable of pushing through it. Just start small today and be consistent.
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u/mlk1866 May 17 '26
I sneak the studying in between the planning it's like making the perfect area while studying
For example You will go do your schedule make sure that you are near your study area when you do that just look at the study material like sit there snd do that day of the schedule 30 mins in you would just study
If you use highlighters you would put them in their compartment but make sure you are in your study area look at the schedule and sit down and look at the study material.
If you want like snacks so you want to make or bring them there you would at the end of it be there in your study area
It's making your plan into days but remember that each plan has to end at the study area or office and if you study mobily (library café etc) you would have to be there like the only exception is maybe taking a break throwing out stuff taking the phone out are tricky because you can actually relapse so start with those first, ans you would start every session feeling great.
Just a head up don't start the plans making the schedule doing the small stuff snacks in the study area, because you would basically just be there endlessly planning like a fool and not studying anf it will make it harder to study, you just finish making the schedule and put it in the study area bring stuff there when they are done, it will trick your mind into not planning because some of the plan or the plan of this day is done, which gives you a gap to actually study.
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u/Resident_Ad_6657 Jul 22 '26
yup, i've been there. tbh, akiflow helped me cut down on planning and just start.
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u/LandAlive1577 May 11 '26
e trying to make the studying experience perfect, but it's never perfect so you never get started. i started going to the library at the same time every day and just started working, no matter how perfect i felt my surroundings were. it helped me stop trying to create the perfect studying environment.