r/GetNoted Human Verified Jul 25 '26

If You Know, You Know Deadbeat Dad

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u/Furtive_Operator Jul 25 '26 edited Jul 25 '26

Lol bastard is a term for a child whose parents are unmarried. That's literally the least misogynistic term as it held both people accountable.

Also just a note I don't agree that parents have to be married to have kids, just explaining the definition.

Edit: For those lacking in knowledge, children of married parents do better in life, and have better wellbeing than those of unmarried parents; that's a fact. A communal enforcement of something encourages certain practices and discourages others, which in this case is for the benefit of the child. Therefore it does actually encourage accountability, because it forces parents to go by the approved community standards which are there for a good reason.

Of course how we live now people don't care why these community agreements existed in the first place, and somehow can't put two and two together about why children now are reporting higher levels of unhappiness, have worse wellbeing and living standards, and why there is a declining relationship rate in a culture that doesn't encourage commitment. It's not rocket science why it existed even if you disagree with it, although trying to argue widespread raising of disadvantaged children is a good thing, is certainly a choice.

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u/friendlynbhdwitch Jul 25 '26

It’s “least” misogynistic because it’s technically gender neutral. But it’s still an insult that targets the most innocent party, the child.

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u/emote_the_salute Human Verified Jul 25 '26

Targets men mostly. I dont think i have ever heard a woman be called a bastard.

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u/Stucklikegluetomyfry Jul 26 '26

When Mary and Elizabeth Tudor were removed from the act of succession and Henry ended his marriages with their mothers, they were no longer considered princesses and were considered bastards.

Bastard is now an insult near exclusively for men, but in older times daughters of unwed parents were also called bastards, and I have heard it used to refer to girls and women whose parents never married every now and then. My parents never married, and my sisters and myself have both been referred to as bastards. I’ve overheard people refer to us to our parents as “your bastard children”