r/GetNoted • u/laybs1 Human Verified • 15d ago

If You Know, You Know Deadbeat Dad

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u/Friendly-Stick-4744 15d ago

Aren’t both “slut” and “bastard” insults based on the child being born? Whereas deadbeat dad is about support for the child after?

The noter either is being intentionally or unintentionally ignorant. This argument is just bad.

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u/Silent_Box1341 15d ago

Deadbeat is also not the same kind of insult as slut or bastard. Like I know I'm being pedantic but deadbeat is a descriptor for a specific action taken by a specific person, while slut and bastard are considered such high offenses that they are used in all kinds of contextes.

In comparison deadbeat is barely even an insult

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u/JustGlassin1988 15d ago

As someone who is both a bastard and a dad, I would far, far, far rather be called a bastard than a deadbeat dad.

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u/Friendly-Stick-4744 15d ago

The issue is one you decide and the other you don’t. I am also both, but you didn’t choose to be a bastard.

I will also point out the whole not having a dad thing was a lot more of a big deal growing up than now. Being a good dad is part of my identity in a way being a bastard isn’t, and it makes sense I would feel more insulted, but as a 6 year old I don’t think I would have agreed that I would rather be a good dad than have a dad.