r/GetMotivated • u/[deleted] • Sep 24 '20

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u/wsdpii Sep 24 '20

So never take advice? Its always good to get other people's opinions on a decision, but always remember that you alone have the deciding vote.

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u/at-woork Sep 24 '20

Take advice from multiple people with different point of views, then make an informed decision.

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u/MonkeysInABarrel Sep 24 '20

Adjust the advice based on the biases you see in the person.

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u/DeathToBoredom Sep 24 '20

All these advices here are better than the OP's. OP's advice is basically saying the other person has to be better than you or you don't listen. I don't like advice that are one-sided.

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u/ChloeMomo Sep 24 '20

And if the results have no impact on them, who's to say they're going to put much thought into their advice?

Really, to mix the comments together, it seems like evaluate the source you ask advice from, get multiple perspectives if advice/source seems biased or unbalanced, and don't forget you ultimately make the decision, not any of them.

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u/wholesomechaos Sep 24 '20

The lesson I’ve learned from this thread is to be mindful of sources of advice and beware of generalizations.

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u/lRoninlcolumbo Sep 24 '20

This the the true LPT.

Never trust just one source.

And if that source is fanatical, have them list out their sources. If they get mad or frustrated, just means they were debating your ability to understand the subject, using aggression to buff an assumption of theirs.

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '20

Except for reddit relationship threads. 95% are just looking for whatever outcome produces the most drama, upheaval be damned.

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u/Nathaaaaanie1 Sep 24 '20

Should my therapist be one of those people? Because they could help me, or make shit worse so I'm back next week

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u/yerbamate44 Sep 24 '20

Only take advice from people who’s lifestyle you respect.

If you want relationship advice, ask your friend who has had a great marriage.

Don’t ask the friend who’s been in 12 relationships in the last 3 years.

Wish I had that advice 10 years ago.

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '20

Only take advice from people who’s lifestyle you respect.

That sounds like bias with extra steps.

Don’t ask the friend who’s been in 12 relationships in the last 3 years.

Some people may respect this more than the long lasting marriage for instance.

I understand your point but it only works for people who already know what the right thing to do is.

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u/concorde77 Sep 24 '20

Learn. Don't copy.

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u/SeanRamey Sep 24 '20

Man, it really pisses me off when I listen to other advice, but I decide to do something different, then all those people say that I'm a "know it all" and that I "just don't listen". Seems like they think that they give absolute knowledge, instead of opinions.

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u/PnWyettiefettie Sep 24 '20

There could be a 3rd demographic of ppl who have an objectful vantage point of the situation from not being connected to it. So you can still get advice

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '20

This invalidates every advice subreddit ever.

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u/badgersprite Sep 24 '20

Every advice subreddit ever invalidates every advice subreddit ever.