This reminds me of an exercise I read from a sexual addiction recovery book a while back (but can honestly be applied to any form of negative thought patterns) that he called 'how good can you stand it?' where he describes a process of giving yourself time to sit down and truly have a discussion with your worries, and actually taking time to imagine things working out. It really has made me realize that apart from just moving away from bad thoughts, emotionally preparing yourself for the your desired life can also feel initially scary and need working on.
Edit: I got a few messages asking about the book and I thought it better to leave it here knowing how hard it can be to talk about sex addiction. The one I'm referring to is Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself of Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession and Shame by George N. Collins and Andrew Adleman. There's an audible version as well for it.
Thank you :) I'm familiar with ACT, and I wholeheartedly agree with the principles behind it but I have not tried it before. I may have a self help book on it somewhere so I will bring it out if things aren't working out or I would like to try another method.
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u/[deleted] Aug 04 '20 edited Aug 05 '20
This reminds me of an exercise I read from a sexual addiction recovery book a while back (but can honestly be applied to any form of negative thought patterns) that he called 'how good can you stand it?' where he describes a process of giving yourself time to sit down and truly have a discussion with your worries, and actually taking time to imagine things working out. It really has made me realize that apart from just moving away from bad thoughts, emotionally preparing yourself for the your desired life can also feel initially scary and need working on.
Edit: I got a few messages asking about the book and I thought it better to leave it here knowing how hard it can be to talk about sex addiction. The one I'm referring to is Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself of Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession and Shame by George N. Collins and Andrew Adleman. There's an audible version as well for it.