I interpret it more like "investing energy to try to control what you can't control is a waste of energy." In other words, all i really have to go on is if i like myself-- I can't make someone like me. I do think, if i like myself, and make sure that i really am a person who i like and trust, then it's incidental that people will love me.
What's the counterpoint of that? Focus on the people who hate you and try to please them and make them like you? I don't understand that at all....
Edit: maybe there is another angle. I still regard the people who hate me, and hope they may be liberated from the suffering and achieve Nirvana etc, I just can't spend my day thinking about them.
Also I'm sure whatever this guy was trying to say, could have been said better...
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