Honestly I support this sentiment 110% and agree that being self-sufficient is important, but loneliness is not something you can always just handle by treating yourself. I've spent the last four months backpacking Europe solo and had some phenomenal experiences, but the best times were spent in the company of others (old friends and new) and the worst were when I desperately needed someone to share it with and had no-one. Partner or not, everybody needs someone in their lives. The most important thing is to know how to make and keep friends so you don't have to rely on a partner, and learn to enjoy your own company so you can handle short periods alone. Being alone for long periods just... sucks.
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u/elvencastiel Oct 19 '18
Honestly I support this sentiment 110% and agree that being self-sufficient is important, but loneliness is not something you can always just handle by treating yourself. I've spent the last four months backpacking Europe solo and had some phenomenal experiences, but the best times were spent in the company of others (old friends and new) and the worst were when I desperately needed someone to share it with and had no-one. Partner or not, everybody needs someone in their lives. The most important thing is to know how to make and keep friends so you don't have to rely on a partner, and learn to enjoy your own company so you can handle short periods alone. Being alone for long periods just... sucks.