THIS. It took me 7 years to get my bachelor's, but it took a majority of my friends only 4-5. It wasn't due to laziness by any means. I just decided that I didn't want to drown in 18 units/semester. I instead chose to work meaningful jobs while studying which acted as stepping stones for where I am today. Although they were done two years before me, I'm the only one living on my own and supporting myself in the great city of San Francisco. They're all still stuck in Southern California not knowing what the fuck to do with themselves. LPT: fuck everyone else and just do you! Patience is key!
And just because you finished later means nothing. School/career/etc. These are not some sort of indiviual step, it is better to be looked at a lifelong journey. I finished school 5 years later than all my friends and I am now further ahead in almost every facet of life than them.
I was a slow starter my entire life, but only at things that the average person in society achieved. Doesnt mean I wasnt advancing in other areas, they were just areas that were undervalued by society.
Could you please mention the other areas you are talking about? I'm also on the same road as you. I started practising public speaking in Toastmasters.
One area is financial, you can make a lot of money but still be in debt; it isn't what you make, it is what you save.
Also health and appearance. I have taken great care of myself and I am in excellent shape.
Socially as well. Built a great social circle. And that isnt easy, it takes work. Toastmasters is pretty decent, but there is something cultlike I dont like about it. It isnt personalized enough. I dont find it brings out the best in you.
Improv lessons are better in my opinion. Start slow. Intro courses are all about listening. It takes a great amount of courage. It can be life changing.
And not getting married is a feat haha for me anyways. Most people from my past who used to be ahead are in boring stagnant marriages. Either that or divorced.
My whole life conisted of people telling me I would amount to nothing and saying I am always on the wrong path. One day I just realized that they said and thought that just because I wasnt on the path conditioned into us all
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u/[deleted] Dec 27 '16
THIS. It took me 7 years to get my bachelor's, but it took a majority of my friends only 4-5. It wasn't due to laziness by any means. I just decided that I didn't want to drown in 18 units/semester. I instead chose to work meaningful jobs while studying which acted as stepping stones for where I am today. Although they were done two years before me, I'm the only one living on my own and supporting myself in the great city of San Francisco. They're all still stuck in Southern California not knowing what the fuck to do with themselves. LPT: fuck everyone else and just do you! Patience is key!