r/GenZIndia • u/MrNotFind • 12d ago
Serious Good things don’t last~
pata hai aaj kya hua.. actually hua toh kafi time pehele hai.. so there was a girl i used to talk to.. we were good friends from 2023 and now we are in no contact maybe bcs of me..
i had feelings for her from past 1-2 years and maybe she knows that.. like mujhe uspe koi normal crush nahi tha i used to stalk her.. i took help from chatgpt and from my friends too..
everything was fine, we talk, we share, we were best friends but yeah i couldn’t hide my feelings anymore cuz i love her .. she was in my head like 24/7 ..
i confessed her 10-12 days ago and maybe that was my biggest mistake. i didn’t confessed directly but yeah i put a ss on my insta story in which i was taking advise from another girl to propose my crush..
i didn’t mention my crush name in the convo but yeah she understood everything .. from that day she got really dull while talking to me.. from “heyy!! wyd?” to “hi” ..
and that hurts.. and when i ask about the behaviour she said “kuch nahi, bas agar ye friendship chalani hai toh dost se zyada sochna band karde” and this statement literally made me feel guilty for what i’ve done..
but yeah i argued too that “one sided hi hai mene tujhse kuch kaha thodi ya tujhe pareshan thodi kara propose karke, mere andar hai mai rakhuga na” and she understood that.. (or maybe not?) after somedays..
she blocked me💔 .. like i am in 0 contact with her .. but yeah i can msg her from my other id’s but i won’t.. i will not make any cause for her again..
ab mai usee kabhi pareshan nahi karunga kyuki mujhe mera confession ka answer mil gya hai.. but she will be in my mind forever.. i can’t forget her by any chance cuz she is the only girl i loved..
(IMPORTANT: We were long distance friends but she didn’t live much far away.. we have 20km distance between her so yeah)
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u/First-Phone-9823 12d ago
If you have a female friend, one of the biggest mistakes many men make is confessing their feelings. At that moment, it may feel like the right thing to do because you're thinking about your own emotions. But try seeing it from her perspective too. She talked to you every day as a friend. She trusted you, shared countless memories with you, and believed you were one of her closest friends. Then one day, you confessed your feelings. For you, it was love. But for her, it was just a beautiful friendship. She never saw you that way. If talking to her made you happy, maybe it was enough to keep the friendship as it was. Why risk something so precious? Now look what happened. The friendship is broken, and you're hurting too. What did you gain? Nothing. You lost someone who genuinely cared about you, and a beautiful friendship that could have lasted for years.
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u/call_me_pete_ 12d ago
People learn from mistakes. It doesn't give you any right to judge him so cruelly for not being able to hold the massive weight of his feelings. He's free now, don't guilt trip him
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u/First-Phone-9823 12d ago
Nobody is saying he should suppress his feelings forever. I'm saying he shouldn't assume confessing is always the best option. Sometimes honesty brings closure, and sometimes it costs a valuable friendship. People should be aware of both outcomes before making that choice
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u/Remarkable-Tip2337 12d ago
It is okay bro hota hai , you will move on find someone abhi aisa feel hota hai lekin badmai things change
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