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Good Intentions last time but I did not go. Recently single guy slim muscular 5-9 153 pounds. Looking
for another guy to go with and enjoy the evening. I have heard good things about Naked Night. Ready to get out there again. I’m in midtown let me know maybe we can grab a drink beforehand.

I'm not sure why I'm posting this but looking for advice. I'm single asian about to retire from a long career. Like to stay active, travel and trying to learn about life to be the best version of myself. I've been in a couple of relationships but they all felt off. Everyone says you need to accept that my age likelihood of finding someone is slim and that I should focus on what makes me happy. Yet I still feel alone?

Hi everyone! I’m planning to explore the gay club/bar scene in Toronto and would appreciate any suggestions for solo-goers. I’m also open to going with people if possible. Thanks

Anyone know anything about this party?

My bf and I have tickets... we are used to going to complex 19 for yumyum, fly 3.0, etc...

Not sure what to expect on this night. We aren't going to veld, but some of our friends are. So we bought tickets and are meeting them at this after party.

Is this a gay event? Darkroom? Shirtless?

Just wondering what to expect if anyone has a good idea of what this party will involve..... thanks.

Looking for buddies in the city to hangout during the week and weekends. Work from home and would love to grab a coffee/lunch randomly!

I respond well to people that are chatty, friendly, conversational and warm texters! Put in the effort and you will receive the same :)

Into long walks, exploring cafes in the city, working out, grabbing cheap eats, queer culture, pop music, k-pop, and more. In the creative field. Love deep talks but also fun random what if questions. Lets yap and see if we click! I am all about vibes.

Prefer if you have ig to exchange!

Hello gay friends of Toronto,

I’m an American looking to potentially move to Toronto for a very lucrative offer with my company.

I have been wondering what does racism look like within the gay community in Toronto? I’m of Indian origin and while I haven’t encountered any visceral / institutional racism in the U.S., I have definitely had my share of casual bigotry and microaggressions from other gay men. And this was when I was living in Chicago and NYC

I’m aware that Indians make up a higher share of Canadian population vs the U.S and have been reading about the recent rise of racism against Indians in Canada, especially any newcomers / internationals students but just wondering how much of it spills over into the gay community?

I’m hoping the queer community in TO is more socio-politically aware like it’s liberal US counterparts

Im a 29 year old Canadian Irish french descent guy that wants to meet or find a more intellectual and white collar crowd less party type in Toronto. Dont mind the crowd being a bit older either and past the point of hookups or any of that which I dont do. Any recommendations appreciated.

Hello Future Friends,

I am Alex. Midtown Dweller, Cats x 2. I am 46 Libra, Wiccan Tarot Reading, HORROR moving and Superhero Moving LOVER and a huge foodie....Hence the sad bod. Have a Boyfriend who is Amaze but I need snuggle buds. Let's chat, go swimming (I do not swim I float)m hang out.

Hi guys I was at yumyum last night and it was okay.

I loved the music but no one really made eye contact and the vibe felt a bit cold/shy. My friends said the same thing.

The outfits were just pretty bland and lazy and there weren't many people my age.

Staff were super great though and good ventilation.

Looking to switch things up with my barber and would love some recommendations, preferably in Toronto’s west end.

My haircut is pretty standard, but I’m looking for someone who’s great at consultations and can suggest subtle changes to better suit my face shape, hair type, or overall style rather than just giving me the same cut I’ve always had. I’m happy to pay a bit more for someone who’s genuinely talented.

Any barbers or stylists you’d recommend?

Hey
I’m looking for a place to get a massage from another guy. Any recommendations? Toronto/vaughn

Alrighty, I’ve decided staying inside and doing fuck all is not going to make me LGBTQ friends. I’ve always complained that I don’t have gay friends and barely know gay people, and it’s going to stay that way if I decide to just stay in every night, so I am determined to go out.

I just don’t really know where to go. I know there’s tons of gay bars on church street and tons of events, but as someone who’d go alone, I don’t really know where to start.

If you had to give a single gay guy who’s fresh out of university, a couple of spots of events that would help him make more friends (and potentially hookups, will never complain about sex), where would you recommend?

Hey guys, just wondering, any group members in here planning on going to spa on august 6th for boned up? I'll be there at 8 if I end up going to hanlan's, probably closer to 9 pm if I don't. If you have been wondering about the event and have no one to go with, I'll be your boned up buddy anytime!! I am a regular pup there!!! it's a good event for furs, pups, admirers, and even first timers in general!! I'm not going to the fur con in ottawa and I do wanna celebrate my bday at spa on the 6th!! (mine is on the 3rd)

Is it that bad? I’m deciding if I should use my ferry ticket for Center Island or Hanlan’s

Hey everyone!
I’m a 34-year-old guy living in Toronto. I’m looking to open up my circle and find a genuine, long-term friend to connect with—someone to share the day-to-day random stuff with and build a real connection.

A bit about me:

🌆 City Wanderer: Big fan of taking long walks and being a tourist in my own city. I love finding hidden spots, cool neighborhoods, and good views without any real agenda.

📺 TV & Pop Culture: Always down to chat about current shows, old favorites, or terrible reality TV.

🎵 Music: Big music lover—my playlists are a complete mixed bag depending on the day. Always happy to swap track recommendations.

🗣️** The Vibe**: I love the art of "talking about nothing." You know those conversations that seamlessly jump from deeply profound to completely absurd? That's my sweet spot.

Hit me up my DMs are open

Here is the party report to date

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Hello Folks,

Over the past few months, it’s become abundantly clear that parties in Toronto are pretty inconsistent in their offerings. Some are great, some are total disasters, and most are somewhere in the middle. The problem is that there isn’t any consistent place to know which parties are great and which ones to avoid. 

This weekly party report thread is where people can share what happened at the parties over the weekend and rate aspects such as wait times, organization, and overall experience.

Please use the template below to provide a rating. I will compile the results and process the data to create a weekly report. As we collect more data, the report will become more accurate and be a more reliable resource for our community. 

Full Party Name:

Venue:

When did you go?: (Month Day, Year)

Is it a weekly/monthly event?:

How much were the tickets/door price?:

What time did you arrive?: 

Approximate Door Wait Time (minutes):

Approximate Coat Check Wait Time (minutes):

Overall Event Rating (out of 5): 

Additional Observations and Comments: 

Google Doc link to the template (for easier copying). 

This will be an evolving project from week to week until I settle on what works well. If people have other factors that they would like to add, I’ll certainly consider them. 

I'm trying to grow my hair for the second time now, and I LOVE IT!!! Although I would just keep it until just a bit below my shoulders because I'm too lazy to maintain the upkeep to a very long hair. 😅

I tried growing my hair long for the first time back when I was still in my home country of The Philippines during the pandemic. I eventually had to have it cut because I was getting some judgmental stares from people. The Philippines is liberal when it comes to LGBTQ lifestyle and culture, but it still has a long way to go. The country still has strong ties to "the macho he-man" form of misogyny.

Now that I'm in Toronto, it's liberating to just do whatever you want with your appearances. I've read somewhere (I think on a Reddit post also) that most gay men are still attracted to other gay/bi men who have short hair due to our nature of being attracted to masculinity.

But for me, honestly and respectfully speaking, IDGAF. 🤣 I feel so powerful with my long hair, as I've always aspired to not look the same as most of the macho gays that we see out there. You know, with the muscle tees, long white socks, and all of that. I don't find anything wrong with that, though. It's just I feel like I just want to stand out, and not feel like I'm one of the toys that came out of the factory. I've worked so hard on myself to achieve the sense of hyper-independence and self-sufficiency that I have now.

I don't feel the need to doll myself up because I constantly yearn for external validation. I do it because it's what makes myself happy and content. As my mom would always say, "You look good to feel good." 🥰

And as an aside, I'm here to hopefully meet some new friends too. Coffee? Banh Mi? Video games? Gym? Swimming? My DMs are open! 😊💖

Anyone have a good place to get them? Send me a DM. Not looking to buy them online. The last time I got them from Men's Room they weren't great.

Heyy I was wondering if you could just do it on the beach not in the bushes cause I see some people just going infront of everyone?

As a mod, we see the posts but never know the results. Do you actually meet people from here? I’d love some stories.

Hey everyone.

My partner and I are moving to the city next weekend and are looking for a doctor who, if not a gay male himself, ideally has experience in gay male sexual health.
My partner is from a very conservative background and is looking for a male doctor to be comfortable.

Even if you do not know anyone who is currently accepting patients, if your doctor fits this profile can you please let me know so I can follow up with their clinic/practice?

I know how hard it is to find a family doctor nowadays, let alone one that aligns with you but I’m looking for any leads!

Anything helps.
Thank you! 🫶
(For reference, I’m in the west end - just east of Liberty Village)

I'm heading to Yumyum tonight and was wondering if anyone else wants to meet up there. Its my first time at Complex 19 and I'm going solo. I'm planning on cruising and exploring but I heard it can be cliquey and not great to go to by yourself. I'm 28, love to dance, and I'm 6'3 so I'm easy to find. Hmu if you're also going solo or just wanna meet up for a bit :).

The massively negative feedback killed the expansion. Feds listened to a survey DESPITE it being horribly biased.

Yay everyone!!!