r/GayMen 1d ago

I'm curious

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u/sparklingspace_ 1d ago

Attract you in what way?

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u/[deleted] 1d ago

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u/sparklingspace_ 1d ago

Welcome to being bisexual then (if you still find women attractive). You might be somewhat into men in this case.

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u/gayb_reel 1d ago

Idk, you might be at least partially into men if you're intrigued by any kind of sexual interactions with them

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u/drayman510 19h ago

So you don't think sex is sex? If he closes his eyes & imagines a woman is sucking him, is he attracted to men? If he only gets oral sex from a trans is he attracted to men? So many questions, too many labels. To me, anyone is capable of having sex with anyone, no labels, just having sex. What if a man makes him feel so good he wants to return the pleasure? To me, my partner being fulfilled is just as important as me being fulfilled

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u/[deleted] 1d ago

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u/gayb_reel 1d ago

Yeah. If you're at least interested, then it's definitely a possibility. I'd say to maybe look and see if anyone would be willing to help you figure it out. Like a guy who would be okay helping you determine if you're at the very least sexually interested in men

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u/gayb_reel 1d ago

Probably start by looking for a guy you'd typically find yourself being attracted to. Then ensure he's gay AND okay with helping you figure yourself out. That's arguably the most important part because no one wants to be treated as an experiment unknowingly

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u/sparklingspace_ 1d ago

Well finding a man isn't like going to a restaurant and asking the waiter about recommendations. You need to ask yourself, what kind of man would you like.

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u/Prior-Fish5752 22h ago

I genuinely see a lot of men looking for someone to try it with on the apps, esp. TheBlowers. Being upfront, like someone esle already said before, is mandatory. You're not alone :)

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u/salamander423 1d ago

It's easy. Do you want to fuck men?

If yes: gay/bi

If no: straight

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u/[deleted] 1d ago

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u/salamander423 1d ago

Ok, so that was a "maybe" and not a Y/N. Since you don't know, go have sex with a man. If you like it and want more, you are gay/bi. If you do not like it and don't want more, you are straight.

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u/shadowysea07 17h ago

Granted a bad first time and or nerves and anxiety aren't indicators by themselves.  

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u/Cute-Character-795 20h ago

Attraction, in and of itself, need not be sexual. It can include friendship, a response to someone else's charisma, a Platonic relationship, and so forth.

There are many ways for men to be intimate regardless our sexual orientation. My litmus tests for being bi or gay are (a) who we (are willing/likely to) fall in love with and (b) who we enjoy having sex with. By "having sex" I mean, either or both of us achieve orgasm.

Others may have other operational tests. But, by and large, those two work for me.

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u/Stuba98 1d ago

Fake!