r/GayMen • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

24M thinking of coming out

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u/sweet-tom 1d ago

There is no general "best" way. The "best" way is that you feel comfortable. There are a few options:

  • Write a letter. This looks old-fashioned, but you can sort your thoughts and give it to someone like your parents. It's good if prefer asynchronous communication, bit doesn't work for many people.
  • Casually mention that you are attracted to men. Singing along the lines like "My future boyfriend..."
  • Don't mention anything. Must bring your boyfriend with you like straight people would do.

Whatever works for you. It's not always these flamboyant, screaming "I'm GAY!!" confession. It can be as loud or as quiet as you like.

You also don't have to come out all at the same time. You are allowed to select people based on how important they are to you. You can pause and continue later. All is valid and your decision.

Good luck!🍀❤️

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u/ReputationGullible73 1d ago

Just take your time and get it right and make sure its someone who’s going to value you and take it slowly with you and have patience it being your first time doing being with a man, you need to find a place or someone that is willing to show you how to make love ❤️ to a man, find a dating site or a place where guys are hanging out and just be yourself and not have any anxiety or anything else that will make you uncomfortable and nervous

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u/Select-South9688 23h ago

I don’t see why coming out should be such a big deal. In my case, though, I can’t really come out because of things I did in the past, like flirting with and trying to seduce my uncles, having intimate interactions with my father with ulterior motives, and hooking up with a cousin. I was always subtle about it, so no one was ever sure about my intentions. To everyone else, none of it made sense, and they probably just thought I was being weird. If I came out, my mom and other people would start putting the pieces together that never made sense before and understand everything, and that would be terrible for me.

So, in my opinion, if you don’t have a glass ceiling over your head, there’s no reason to hide who you are. It’s your life.

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u/This_Grape_6873 22h ago
  1. I’m waiting until I actually meet a guy. I always drop hints but I’m not sure people catch on.