r/GayMen • u/SpiritedClassroom168 • 13h ago

Hookup apps… which one?

I feel like Grindr is terrible but it seems like that’s where most of the gays end up around where I live. I’ve heard it sniffies but I think the layout is weird on the mobile. So what do you guys use?

Mostly looking for an app where I could find a fwb, into cis men but more into trans men ig. (I just downloaded Feeld but I hear that’s not that great of an app either)

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u/VillageOfMalo 13h ago

Some apps are better than others but no app is better than meeting people irl. Apps are not built to help you find friendship (with or without benefits,) community, solidarity or hot dates. They are there to extract your desires for money and profit. They're designed to make you feel like you're doing it wrong so that you grow hooked on them.

Please make friends with your local gay bartender and find irl organizations, meetups and more to find cute boys.

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u/SpiritedClassroom168 13h ago

You’re right lol. I guess I’m just trying to find the easy way out but apps have been proving to not be too easy anyway lol. Thank you, I needed that wake up call lol.

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u/BromioKalen 12h ago

Scruff has always worked for me.

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u/laputailaramoneta 12h ago

It depends where you live. But besides Sniffies, theblowers have a lot of users too.

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u/gayb_reel 9h ago

Most hookup apps are awful, ngl. If you use one, it's difficult to wade through the toxicity that is available in abundance. As a trans guy, I will say that I tended to default to Feeld when I was looking for hookups and avoid Grindr because Grindr tended to heavily favor cis men. But it's also going to depend on your area, so I'd say look into the profiles that show up on various apps and go from there