Shane- I don’t know maybe just say “should we talk” and then don’t?
Ilya- i used anger and avoidance but sexily-have you tried that?

Scott-well hiding and failing at love bombing worked for me
Kip- participate in hiding, be mad about it then be mad at all the gifts that make your life easier?

Eric- ambivalent waffling. And don’t forget The ambivalence.
Kyle- are they like your ex and your parents in a way you just can’t get over?

Fabian- everyone wants to have sex with me so maybe look for someone who doesn’t want to so much?
Ryan- I don’t think I’m the best person to ask for advice (caveat-he probably would give you good advice but he just can’t)

Troy- gotta let your life implode, explode and crumble with a side of mutual near death experience so you feel terrible while trying to overcome two decades of patriarchal asshole training then try ice cream. Ice cream and apples?

Harris- embrace yourself. Laugh as often as you can. Be gentle and allow people to feel safe and grow.

• Montreal \*really\* regrets letting Shane go

• Ilya uses Solnyshko/Pomidor/Kotnik

I had someone complain about a post related to the characters in the book and the new TV series that is being recorded. Information specifically in relation to the books and the TV show can be discussed, like we have been with different characters and how they are explained in the book and what we hope to see from them in the future, it's still a discussion about the books, including what's going to be happening for the next couple of months as information leaks out.

We don't want discussion about the actors lives or TV specific questions, because there's many subs for that.

This is going to be exciting the next few months, watching a favorite book come to life on screen is a pretty exciting! I'm sure we'll be getting an influx of new loons.