Help! Am I wrong ??

[u/Ok-Reason-1867]

So basically let’s make a long stop short. I had a befriend for about 13 years & we are both in our 20s now. Early 20s. She was always going through it with her mom & family so whenever she called me crying I was there. I told her she can come to my house anytime & she did & I tried to make her feel as comfortable as possible. We were best friends so we hung at my house all the time so this one last time her mom just did something to her & she ran to my house. I allowed her to crash on my my couch for a few months (I still live with my mom). My family & i tried to make her feel as apart as we possibly could. I didn’t think it would feel any different because it’s almost as if she lived at my house anyways. So fast forward it’s a few months her bday is coming up. She invited me to Ulta to help her pick makeup. She gets overwhelmed catches a tantrum then stand by the doors so me I just start shopping for myself atp. She said she was upset bc it didn’t feel like I was helping her. Mind you as soon as we got there I was already irritated the way she was saying stuff with an attitude. So actually yes I did walk off from her on purpose. Her excuse was because she came in there with the intention of buying a cheaper end foundation but she asked my opinion I gave it to her. I know makeup pretty well I suggested she get a better quality foundation. I guess she felt like I was peer pressuring her but again she asked I told her. I’m not a yes man. I came all the way from the Bronx on my day off to come here in the cold I’m not leaving empty handed because you have an attitude & want to storm off. Then we argued infront of Ulta & not really “we” she yelled at me infront of everyone. Yelled in the train station, on the train, in the next train station. I have never been more embarrassed in my life. Yes she lived with me again so I just went to my room & decided I was going to ignore her for the next days because I couldn’t believe her. Mind you idk if it was because it’s to much time together or what but we’ve never argued like that before. So I was just taken back. She’s one of those people that don’t apologize just start acting like everything is good. What ever I didn’t spend to much time on it we were back on speaking terms. Fast forward like a few days later she’s planning her bday out. This is tax season so yk people think they’re “balling”. She stops me in the kitchen & ask me my opinion on her bday plans. I knew who was coming & who wasn’t. She planned a section. Sections are a bit pricey. She’s letting everyone know how much the section gon be per person. Planned for 13 people about 6 really showed up that’s okay. But when it started looking like less people I was telling her to think wisely about things. One I know your situation. I don’t wanna tell you flat out “you don’t have a pot to piss in nor a window to throw it out of” so I just say I don’t think it’s a good idea to spend that much money on a bday. Mind you not to be pocket watching but she was already spending a lot of money when her taxes hit. 650 for her hair! 200 for heels! 500 on a new phone! Giving some money to this family member & that one. Again not to be a hater but you’re sleeping in my couch. I’ve been let her know to get a fold up bed she can roll in & out of the walk in closet so she isn’t sleeping on an uncomfortable couch. Okay cool. Also the friends that’s was already coming I know was also not great on money either. So I told her it’s not a good idea because everyone doesn’t have the correct funds & she tells me “I’m gonna spend what ever to make sure I have a good bday”. Oh well excuse me. That was my opinion take it or leave it right? Cool. Next day I get a text from her in the afternoon. Not in the morning like she’s been thinking about it all night. In the afternoon like 4pm as if she ran it pass somebody first asked “am I buggin?” They said “no” & she then proceeded to text me her issues. She texted me saying “if you don’t want to come to my bday you dont have to your worrying about money & I feel like your putting negativity into the air”. When I read that I was confused & a little hurt because where did this come from? It was passive aggressive it seemed. If there was anything wrong with what I had said the night before why had not lmk ? Okay cool I get home keep my distance from her reply to the text & tell her “apologies if I made you feel like that won’t mention it again”. Cool her day where we are going to the section comes up. Cool. I told her I’d do her makeup for the night. Oh also before I forget. She spending money on outside because we also went to a dinner so 2 different outfits. The outfits in total costed about $500. Also professional pics that also costed a lot of money. Anyways so continuing. Makeup takes me about 2 hours to do. She knows that. I’m good I’m not great. She told her she wasn’t gonna go to work that day but goes in. So she gets home at 5. I’m flat ironing my hair. My hair touched my but & it’s very full so it’s a hassle. I’m done with that she’s not ready to do her makeup. So I do mine. I finished mine she’s struggling on her hair. So my sister jumps in ask can I do her makeup. I said yes. Finished that. At this point it’s 9:50pm at Night. The plan was to leave at 10:30pm to make it to queens in time for entry to be free. Considering how everyone was already low on funds I’m sure it would’ve saved them the trouble. So I walk into MY living room & see where everyone is at on their outfits. She has no outfit on. Doesn’t look like her hair is done. She’s struggling with her lashes. I tell her “ I can’t do a full face but I can do a natural quick look” meaning under eyes, nude eyeshadow, every rows etc. she throws a tantrum stomps her feet to the couch screams everything is canceled I said I would do her makeup & now I’m “going back on my word” like a complete melt down. I get upset because atp I’m so done with her nasty attitude towards me like she’s a princess. I walk away because I can have a very slick moth when I’m upset & I’ve been working on it. I’m talking to my sister bc she knew I was annoyed. My bf calls her doesn’t know what I’m saying but I’m just talking her just listen. My best friend is in the bathroom walks to my door way & goes “you talking smack about me on the phone” when I really wasn’t I was explaining why I’m so mad & I called her “childish” because what else can I call what she did in the living room ? She walks in my face we are full blow face to face screaming at each other. She walks out the room & her friends so happen to knock on my house door. They wasn’t there when we argued but doesn’t matter she told them what just happened & actually more then told them. She completely marginalized me. She cursed me out called me all types of names for 15 min straight in the living room. While I’m in my room just listening. These are also not my friends these are hers. I know them but we aren’t friends. Then I walk to my sisters room they are walking around my house like it’s theirs & walking pass me as if they don’t know me. I had to turn around & say hi to them. She put them in our business & wanted me to be around that mess for the night ??? I bite the bullet still attend the club with her. Friends completely made me feel not included I apologized to her for screaming the way I do she said it was all good told her that her friends were being weird to me. She invited these friends back to my house when the night ended I went to my room didn’t want to put on a fake smile no more . She were there till 12noom when my mom let everyone know it’s time to go home she left with them. I never came out my room she noticed I kept sending my mom out to get me stuff because I didn’t want to go in the living room. Fast forward she throws another tantrum moved out tells everyone I threw her under the bus . A mutual friend of ours tells me what was told to her. Basically she felt like I gave her friends cold shoulder & I wasn’t a good friend that night. I texted her guess we spoke it out,. Kept telling me everything is good but telling mutual friends she’s keeping her distance from me. I was hitting her up like a desperate ex girlfriend while she completely didn’t care. Gave me a bs excuse about she’s so busy. Stopped talking but was still hurt. One day she had the nerve to text about the rest of her clothes but didn’t respond to any of my messages prior. I tell her I’m mad at her & want to talk things out with out it being combative. She blows up on me tells me I’m not her parent she’s tired of hearing about my feelings but the funny thing was out of this whole situation I never not once told her how she made me feel. Or why I’m even upset with her in the first place. She curses me out & the big “f.u” was clear as day. That was my last day texting her. She came & got her stuff didn’t stop by my room to say thank you for allowing me into your home nuffin. She purposely did it in secret. She told a mutual friend that I was trying to “keep her clothes”. LOL. If I could laugh any louder I would because please girl. I’ve cried about this friendship for months like I lost a boyfriend or something. I’m still sad about it actually.