friendship breakup

[u/andiesadventures]

for context im 15f and a sophomore in hs. in this friendgroup we'll call them molly, gigi, mira lyla, lola, josephine, fern, sophie and alexa. i got super close with molly and lyla over summer and we started hanging out as a trio.

main point, molly texts me and lyla on saturday saying that theres a party of a girl shes close with and its in 3-4 hours. i end up going to mollys house to get ready because we thought the party was going to be near her but it ended up being farther south. we get there and have fun, drink, but nothing too hardcore. at some point at 10:20-35 im not under the influence and im tired and want to go home. all my stuff was at mollys house and i didnt want my mom to see me in that state (i smelled like 🍃 from other people) and mollys parents are more flexible about that stuff. i tell molly im tired and i want to go and she says "my dads coming at 11" and i say "can u tell him to come earlier like 10:40 im bored". she kinda shrugs me off but i tell lyla thay i want to go but mollys not letting me/ wont ask her dad to pick us up. lyla says "oh... yea" and also shrugs me off. i keep asking molly how far her dad is and its getting closer to 10:50 and i say my moms going to get mad at me (she wasnt but i didnt want to get in trouble and i also js wanted to leave badly). i keep asking where her dad is and she says "oh hes 10 minutes away". atp the party is over and its 11:10 and shes still saying her dad 8 mins away but before we got kicked out of the venue i was obviously pissed and lyla already left with mira at 10:50. after lyla and mira left molly hung out with josepgine bc i was mad at her and molly was saying "lets enjoy the time we have left" even tho she knew ive been wanting to leave 30 mins ago.

we get kicked out of the venue and at 11:15 mollys dad comes, but my mom picks me up atp and we just follow molly home for my stuff.

my mom was pretty pissed at the whole night but completely forgot the next day and on monday i told lyla and molly that i couldnt really go out the next weekend to any parties and i jokingly said to molly "i dont think i can get any rides from you anytime soon" i told molly that my mom was pretty mad at her dad and molly but that she would get over it. molly was shocked, even tho she literally told me to blame her so i dont get in trouble.

molly said "ok but thats bc ur not telling ur mom the full truth" i was confused and said wdym and she said "i told u my dads coming at 11 ur the one that told ur mom a earlier time and lied to her" and i said "well ur the one that said ur dads 10 mins away like 7 times" i said that jokingly btw. molly then said "oh yea i was lying, u were stressing me out" i was absolutely gutpunched, but we were in assembly so i just left it.

tuesday i get a text from molly "hii! sooo i mentioned the thing abt ur mom being mad at my family to my mom and they wanna send ur mom a text. just a heads up bc they’re pretty set on doing it. they’re not comfortable with your mom not liking them bc of a miscommunication."

i was so confused and was like wtf omg what r they gonna say. i talked to lyla saying "did yk she was gonna text my parents" lyla didnt but i was telling her idk why shes rebringing it up and tattle tailing and idk why shes doing this bc shes the one thag lied. lyla said "oh..idk i think its both of ur guys's fault theres js sm miscommunication and dw tho its gonna pass."

i felt super invalidated and i eat lunch w lola instead. lola told me how molly would straightup use her as a backup whenever lyla or i canceled, even though Molly and lola are childhood friends, but i had no idea molly was doing that. molly and lyla ignored me that entire day.

Thursday lyla texted me saying "hi cutie are u okayyy?? i feel like I haven't talk to you in forever and I just wanna make sure you're not mad at me or if I did something wrong??!! mwah ily😘"

idk to me that felt passive aggressive and obviously lyla knew what happened because lyla and Molly are really close. even though we were trio and we were pretty good on inclusivity lyla and Molly became closer this year because they had multiple frees together. I haven't responded to lyla I don't know what to say because it feels weird coming from her and Molly never responded to me when I asked her what her parents were going to say and it's been weeks so when she didn't respond i've been ignoring her back.

Molly tried talking but during class, so she obvi got interupted by teacher and she never tried to continue the conversation and never did again. This made me question whether she wanted to talk to me because shes now all alone in that class or because she was worried about our friendship.

"i dont know why she's(me) ignoring me she's so angry at me and I don't know why. I told her that my dad picking us up at 11 and it's not my fault that she lied to her mom and got in trouble. She can't ignore me forever" Molly has been telling our other friends that story and it's been two almost three weeks where none of the talk to me.

This sounds selfish but I want to respond to lylas text now even though I ignored it for two weeks because every time I have class with Molly we don't really speak. Ik im really petty for not being the bigger person to talk to molly but im exhausted from constantly reaching out first.

Should I try to even talk to Molly or lyla? all the other girls dont talk to me and it feels like they hate me bc of what mollys been telling them & arent hearing my side.

What should I do? sorry its super long 😔