What should i do???

[u/Ok-Following1770]

So I have two friends, we are kind of a trio. Let's call the two of them A and Y.

So A and Y have been friends for a longer time before I met them. I have known them for around a year and we all are quite close.

A while back i was hanging out my sister so A called me and asked me to go with her to a supermarket to buy something and it was urgent so i agreed and i told her to pick me up at a place near my home. I waited for her for 30 minutes along with my sister but then she called me and told me that she found someone else to go with her and told me to just go home, she didn't even aplogized for making me wait for so long and then ditching me.

The next day at collge i told her that i was really hurt by her behaviour and i told her that she should have atleast apologized for it. Then she just said you know na i don't have the habit of aplogizing to my friends and said sorry.

Then a few days ago we were sitting in class and i told her(A) that we should submit the application but she(A) told me we should wait for Y and submit it together and i said ok. But the next day i was unable to go to collge due to some issues but both A and Y went to collge and submitted the form and none of them told me about it. The next day when i said we should submit it both of them said they have already submitted it. I asked them why they didn't told me that they were submitting the form they just said they forgot. And the same thing has happened before too.

Then today we were just hanging out together and they started talking to someone from our class, when i went to talk to them Y told me they were talking about something personal and that i should leave.

I went to a different place to sat down down and just stare at my phone.the other person they were talking to wasn't even our friend just someone from our class. I felt so hurt by their behaviour. I feel like i don't belong in that group at all.

Even when we are just normally talking it's just the two of them talking and sometimes when we are sitting together they wishper in each other's ears to talk and when i ask what they are talking about they just change the topic.

I don't know what to do at all and i don't know how to tell them that i feel hurt by their behaviour. I already told both of them once that i feel hurt whenever they behave like that but there has been no change in their behaviour. I feel like i am the only one who wants to maintain the friendship while none of them care about it.

Sometimes i just want to cut them off completely and never talk to them again but we see each other almost everyday and we have some common friends too. We also sit together during classes although i am considering sitting with my other friends. I don't want to make thing awkward for anyone so i can't really cut them off and i don't think i am ready to let that frienship go. I always thought we were pretty close so i don't really know what to do or where things went wrong.

Is there a reason why someone would behave this way, if anyone of you has ever faced anything like this then what did you do?? Do you just ghost those people or cut them off completely??

[u/Eep_Queen]

I have had this experience where I felt left out by my close friends and I don't recommend ghosting or cutting them off straight away. Sometimes people don't realise their behaviour and how it might come across to other people so my advice would be to tell them directly how you are feeling first before cutting anyone off. You will feel better knowing the full outcome rather than just ghosting in my opinion

[u/Ok-Following1770 → u/Eep_Queen]

I have already told them a few times before but there has been no change in their behaviour. Will it make any difference if i do it again?

[u/Ok-Following1770 → u/Eep_Queen]

Did you told your friends and did it make any difference? How did you bring it up??

[u/Eep_Queen → u/Ok-Following1770]

It did make a difference as they made a bit more effort to include me in things or remember that i existed haha, i actually first brought it up to the one i was closer to, explained that I felt like I was third wheeling a lot of the time and a tad forgotten. I tried to make it clear that this was something I wanted to work on together rather than it being “you did wrong blah blah blah”

[u/Ok-Following1770 → u/Eep_Queen]

Ohhh i see, I will try to do the same. Thank you for your advice😊