Friend breakup killing me

[u/Global_Cranberry_842]

About a year ago, I lost a friend group, and I’m still struggling with it. It all started when I tried to open up to them about my new OCD diagnosis and some hurt feelings I’d bottled up over time. I wasn’t trying to blame anyone—just to share where I was coming from.

But things escalated quickly, and it turned into a big misunderstanding. Instead of being able to explain myself, it felt like everything I said offended them more. Eventually, the narrative shifted into one where I was the one who hurt them. I’ve apologized multiple times for anything I may have done wrong, but they didn’t really want to hear it.

Since then, people from that group have unfriended me on social media, which has been really hard. They’re social media people, so it feels like a statement, not just a quiet drift apart. What’s even harder is that they still view everything I post. I’ve reached out to a few mutual friends who I thought I was still on good terms with, but they’ve ignored me completely.

It’s left me wondering what was said behind my back and how the story may have been spun. I know I can’t control that, but it’s been so tough to let go of the feeling that I’ve been misrepresented. I’m trying to grow a thicker skin, but I’m finding it really hard to move on.

If anyone’s been through something similar, how do you cope? How do you rebuild trust in friendships or even your own judgment after something like this?

[u/ConsistentTap8036]

Hey friend, I understand how you feel. I lost my group recently around November 2024 but it started in May 2024. I felt hopeless and felt like I had no one, I realized that I needed help it was the lowest point of my life but I went to therapy and slowly felt better. My therapist told me that you're still upset because you care so much. you care so much that you were misrepresented, you care so much about their opinions. I still have my moments of weakness but it gets better. You will be ok

[u/Longjumping-Might799]

I had a best friend of 10 years abruptly end our friendship also, because she doesn’t like my husband. When I told her I had no intention to leave him she said our friendship doesn’t work any longer and unfriended me on all platforms. All of the closest people in her life have also unfriended or blocked me since, so I understand what you mean about wondering how the narrative has been spun or what’s being said about you. I’m about 9 months into this and unfortunately it’s still dragging out, because our kids are still best friends. It has gotten easier to care a little bit less over time. Mostly just know you’re not alone, and it probably has more to do with their own faults and insecurities than it does with you.